Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


31 Atlanta, GA Woman


Similar users

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23-42
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jan 22, 2014
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a lawyer (non-practicing). I have a Juris Doctor (law degree), a M.B.A., and a B.A. in English. I am also a writer. I write fiction. I write non-fiction. My 1st book was published by "Feral House" when I was 19. I've also done some freelance writing for "Xcitement Magazine" (which is a local adult publication). In addition, I own a business with my husband and we work from home. We sell handmade jewelry and accessories online and are one of the most successful businesses on Etsy.

My ultimate goal is to be a graphic novelist. I've got the text down. But, now I'll need to learn to draw. Or find a girlfriend who can draw and collaborate with me, among other things.
: - )

Currently, we live near Grant Park in a loft. We've filled our loft with all our crazy obsessions including original pop surrealist artworks, pin up art, rare books, and other pop culture craziness. We love city living. I am especially attracted to it because I grew up in small Minnesota town of 370 people and was a social outcast in a narrow-minded community.

I was the underdog growing up and the fat kid. I was bullied a lot as a kid and was often ostracized. It made me into a person that thinks outside of the box and is very much on the fringe of things.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am a passionate believer in people being able to act how they wish as long as they are not hurting anyone else (well, unless you are into BDSM-- I am not but I have no judgments). I love art. I love creativity. I am disgusted by most social institutions because I think they are oppressive and limit thinking (but they can be better).

I have never been enslaved by a job. I will not work for "the Man." I love my freedom far too much, and I don't want to make money for someone else. I will never work as a "real" lawyer. I find the law dry and status quo and gross. I hate working, period. As Robert Heinlein once said, "The old saw about the early bird just goes to show you that the worm should have stayed in bed."

On a personal level, I am very radical. Very progressive in my thinking about the world. I like to question. I don't like to accept what I'm told. I like to deconstruct and decide for myself if society's constructs are valid. I'm obstinate and don't like people shoving their ignorant ideologies in my face. At the same time, I am overall a very shy and gentle person. This sometimes gets me into trouble because too much empathy can get you drawn into toxic emotional vortexes. I am working on avoiding that but at the same time, still giving a shit about humanity. If anyone out there is familiar with the Myers Briggs personality test, I am an INFJ.

I have pretty radical feminist beliefs. I'm not afraid to call myself a feminist. I will not let the media's stereotypes about feminists scare me into avoiding that term. But please keep in mind that if I had to classify myself, I'd call myself a sex positive feminist (don't really like to label but it gives an idea of my beliefs). I really admire Nina Hartley and much of her beliefs coincide with mine.

I read. A lot. I am somewhat suspicious of those who don't but a few times I've been surprised by the intelligence of self-proclaimed "non-readers." But mostly, I've not been. Kurt Vonnegut is a personal writing hero. So is Dan Clowes. These two really "speak" to me on a personal level.

I also like to collect stuff (weird antiques and strange old kitschy things), because as Seymour from "Ghost World" says, "I can't relate to 99% of humanity." Obsessive collecting interests include:

-vintage paperbacks (particularly "sleaze" which refers to vintage sex books)
-vintage movie posters (including juvenile delinquent, adult, and sexploitation)
-vintage men's magazines (including pin up, detective, and men's adventure)
-pop surrealism (original paintings and other artworks)
-victorian sideshow photography and ephemera
-victorian post mortem photography
-spirit photography
-assorted kitsch and weirdness that strikes my fancy

We own one of the largest collections of this crap in the country. We love collecting it all, but we acknowledge that it's just "stuff."

-I am a strange creature.
-If I call you a weirdo or a freak, I mean that as a compliment.
-I fall at about 80% introversion on the MBTI. But a lot of people assume I'm an extrovert. I have some chameleon-like qualities despite my introversion.
-To change, you must figure out what audience you are playing to and change to that audience.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hair is very long and naturally blond. Everyone thinks I'm tall but I'm only 5'4". This is what happens when you wear 5 inch heels all the time!

I'm a bit more shy and reserved until I feel comfortable.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I could go on and on about books--

Fiction: Philip K Dick (obsessed); "The Three Stigmata of Palmer Eldritch", "Maze of Death," "Ubik," Daniel Clowes, Kurt Vonnegut, Jack Kerouac, "Stranger in a Strange Land," Margaret Atwood, "The Catcher in the Rye", Chuck Palahniuk, "The Diceman," "Lolita," "This Perfect Day," George Saunders

Non-Fiction: mostly cultural studies, psychology, and philosophy, especially existentialism; obsessed with the Myers-Briggs; some Eastern philosophy such as Ram Dass' "Be Here Now"; recently started getting into spirituality esp. as it concerns things like energy, the nature of reality, and finding meaning/purpose

Movies: Ghost World, American Beauty, About Schmidt, Election, World's Greatest Dad, Fight Club, Revolutionary Road, old b-movies and cheesy exploitation cinema, The Graduate, Barbarella, Before Sunrise, Waking Life, Lenny, God Bless America, Battle Royale, John Waters movies

Shows: Lost, Project Runway (I like to sew), Six Feet Under, South Park, Portlandia, Dexter, Sopranos, Twin Peaks, Mad Men, Sarah Silverman, Star Trek (original from the 60's), The Twilight Zone (original from the 60's)

Music: The Beatles, MUSE, The Doors, NIN, Psychedelic Furs, Bob Dylan, Fiona Apple, The Rolling Stones, Elliott Smith, The Weakerthans, Datarock, System of a Down, The Killers, White Zombie, Rob Zombie, Unwritten Law, The White Stripes, R.E.M.

Food: Dim Sum, Japanese, Indian, Vietnamese, Greek-- could go on and on, I love food! I lost about 60 pounds 5 years ago, though, so I have to watch myself.

Other: I know how to sew and make a lot of vintage 1960's "Mod" clothing from old 1960's sewing patterns. I hate to dance.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Dim Sum, Books, My Husband, My Computer, My Critical Thinking Skills, Hot Showers

General Likes:
a.) oddballs/weirdos/freaks/outsiders/loners-- people who travel to the beat of a different drum
b.) egalitarianism
c.) fighting for the underdog
d.) questioning authority
e.) staying positive
f.) self-aware people
g.) long, engaging conversations
h.) travel (esp. road trips)
i.) trying new foods
j.) pet rats

General Dislikes:
a.) arrogance/conceit
b.) meanness
c.) bad attitudes
d.) drama
e.) liars
f.) dancing (please don't tell me I can do it-- I can't or maybe I just don't want to!)
g.) shallowness/superficiality
h.) homophobes/racists/sexists
i.) people who have a very entitled attitude
j.) ketchup (ick!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to achieve happiness. How to be centered, find balance, etc. How to lead a meaningful life. The meaning of life. People I care about. Social problems. My own psychology and the psychological makeup of those around me. Systems questioning. Existentialism. I am cynical about the current state of humanity but I believe things can be better. I am hopeful.

I have also been more in touch with my own spirituality recently. I used to be a "militant atheist" but now I would characterize myself as an agnostic with more of an "open net" when it comes to speculating about the unknown.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having a good time with my husband, friends, and some vodka. Intelligent conversation! Def. not dancing! ha ha
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm pretty sensitive. I got bullied a lot as a kid. I don't know that it's that private per say but it's a personal detail.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Message me if you are a bisexual female interested in possibly exploring a relationship. No pressure. We can see where things go. I like artsy women and smart women who are open-minded and interesting. I am attracted to outcasts and underdogs but not a prerequisite. I like people who are subversive in their thinking and who question our social norms and the status quo.