I don’t like to think we are defined by our past . . . but I suppose it is part of who we are and a good predictor of who we will be. I worry as I put pen to paper that I will be too boring to attract much attention. I've lived a full and exciting life, I’m well traveled, I do what some find interesting work, but underneath it all I think I’m pretty boring and stable. Some of my friends would describe me as being too serious; those who work for me would say I am too demanding; and those ladies I've been involved with over the years would describe me as a nice guy.
Who am I really? I don’t know. I know I am shocked to be 55, I really don’t know where the time has gone. I think I resent a little that I’m forced to act my age
Who or what am I seeking? Also tough. I suppose I am looking for what most other people are looking for which is someone to share their life with . . . who or what makes up that person I do not know. Someone within 10 years of my age, so we have a common reference point. Someone who loves children (and preferably has children) because mine, even though grown, are a big part of my life, and will be until I die. A non-smoker who does not do drugs. I smoked for 30 years but quit for good reason (see below). Someone who takes fitness seriously – because I want to live a while longer and want to share quality time with whomever I find. Someone who doesn't take themselves or life too seriously, and someone who enjoys the simple things in life.
I think I must be pretty good at marriage (LOL) – having done it now three times for a total of 32 years!
1st Marriage lasted a little over two years. Married my high school sweetheart days after we turned 18, found out by the time we were 21 we were headed different directions – parted amicably – no kids. 2d marriage started 3 years later and lasted 28 years – raised three wonderful children. In the end we couldn't make each other happy and probably lasted as long as we did for the sake of the kids – parted amicably. Third marriage lasted only two years – did not part on amicable terms but have that now – no kids. Infidelity never played a role in any relationship I've ever had, nor will it at least on my part as I take my commitments seriously.
I developed bladder cancer in 2009 and underwent chemo therapy and surgery, to receive a full cure. Some residual health issues I deal with from that process, but the entire experience gave me a different outlook on life. When a doctor tells you that if treatment is unsuccessful, you will be dead in less than three years – it kind of wakes you up. Knowing I’m now on borrowed time I try to take everything in stride and make the most of each day.