I am politically engaged, progressive, healthy (as far as I know), intellectual (but not stuffy about it), reasonably fit (walking 5+ miles a day, most days; working out with trainer 3x/week), funny and caring. I enjoy good conversation about a wide range of topics, especially but not limited to politics, society and the economy. I am an avid reader (and writer). I like travel, beach walks (and swims), massage, swing dancing, good jazz and a wide variety of exotic ethnic cuisines. I am a “Jewish athiest,” but not pedantic about it. Athiest, by the way, does not mean unethical—quite the contrary.
What I’m doing with my life
Working; operating a nursing home for one (as the long-time caregiver for my chronically ill, disabled wife); looking for ways to make a difference and leave the world a better place; seeking to be part of something I care about that’s bigger than me (for most of my career, the labor movement was my cause—and still is); taking care of me (mentally, physically and emotionally) while I am taking care of another who can no longer reciprocate, through no fault of her own.
I’m really good at
Filling out questionnaires like this one (not!). Listening. Writing. Caring (and caregiving—I’ve had a lot of experience with it!). Being patient. Being respectful and tolerant of others (except Republicans). Giving and receiving touch and affection. Solving problems—especially other people’s problems, which seem much easier to solve than my own. Conversation, including but not limited to political discussion and debate. Explaining things clearly, including complicated things. Being analytical. Being flexible when necessary. I’d like to think I’m a good swing dancer, but I’m not there yet.
The first things people usually notice about me
My dazzling intellect, handsome visage, winning personality—and
self-deprecating sense of humor.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite books (of those I’ve read in the last few years): Eric Foner, The Fiery Trial: Abraham Lincoln and American Slavery, and Gateway to Freedom: The Hidden History of the Underground Railroad; John le Carre, A Delicate Truth and The Constant Gardener; Barbara Kingsolver, The Lacuna; John Grisham, Sycamore Row; Michael Chabon, The Yiddish Policemen’s Union; Joseph McCartin, Collision Course; and Alan Furst, Mission to Paris
Favorite movies: Sicko; Norma Rae; Annie Hall; The Graduate; To Kill a Mockingbird; Monty Python and the Holy Grail; The Pianist; Cinderella Man; Forrest Gump; Catch Me If You Can; Dr. Strangelove; Casablanca; Schindler’s List; Inside Job; Midnight Cowboy; Network; E.T.; Malcolm X; The King’s Speech; Invictus; Food, Inc.; Super Size Me; An Inconvenient Truth
Favorite shows: Book of Mormon; Death of a Salesman; Cabaret; Three Penny Opera; I Am a Man; Cat On a Hot Tin Roof; You’re A Good Man, Charley Brown; The Full Monty
Favorite music: jazz (all genres except free jazz); blues
Favorite foods: great sushi, pastrami sandwich at Second Avenue Deli, lobster at Beale’s in Bar Harbor, Faidley’s crab cakes, tapas at Jaleo
The six things I could never do without
Good friends, good books, loving touches, long walks on the beach,
oxygen, and water/food—in that order.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The same thing most people spend a lot of time thinking about.
On a typical Friday night I am
Swing dancing, listening to live jazz—or wishing that I was.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Cashews and good cheese are not safe in my presence.
You should message me if
You are still reading this, after getting past the description of my personal situation. Let’s meet for coffee, lunch, or a drink after work soon—life is short!
Especially if you have a good sense of humor, a positive outlook, and a warm, engaging personality.
And/or: if you are looking for intelligent conversation, long walks in the woods (or better yet, on the beach!), swing dancing, and listening to live jazz.