sirj77
38 Brooklyn, MI
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My self-summary
I'm honest, which oddly seems to be problem for some, in that everything I say should only be positive, and I should lie or hide everything else. Uh, sorry, still human, it's a package deal, you want Mr. Perfect, good luck. lol
I'm considered an INFP personality (introversion, intuition, feeling, perception). Before you go 'oh, an introvert', please learn what the difference is. I am not anti-social, just not a social butterfly. I like what I say to mean something. I have friends, but I go for quality over quantity. You hit a low spot, then you find out what kind of friends you have. I think and feel a little differently from extroverts, and one is not better or worse than the other, just different strengths and weaknesses, just like people in general.
That being said, I like to joke with my friends, friendly jabs, double meaning to see if they catch it. I like walking nature trails, enjoying the scenery, sometimes see some wildlife. I like my gadgets, I'm good with computers and electronics, they just make sense to me. I like to play computer games when I have time, mainly sandbox adventure type games now days. I also post my adventures on youtube, I have a blog, webpage, facebook, etc. I find my own ways of putting myself out there, that don't majorly conflict with my nature. I even do some recreational writing when the mood hits me, and have a story that I work on. I have a full time job, car, apartment, and I've been in the same church since I was about 5, and I've run sound/tech for pushing 20 years. I prefer to hangout with a few friends to room full of chatty people. My friends have said I'm an awesome guy, and deserve better than what I've been able to find when it comes to women. I don't know about awesome, and I am pretty frustrated with the luck I've had. I've heard say that a guy isn't suppose to talk about past women. But they have to be at least mentioned to get a better picture, because we are all effected by our experiences. I'm not looking for pity, or judgment, I would want/need understanding. Knowledge is wasted if you can't understand it, people are empty shells if you can't understand them.
I like sci-fi, action, adventure for my movies and reading. I like audio books/dramas. Music, is pretty open, minus screamer heavy metal stuff, and most rap, I don't classify those as music in my head. lol
If you haven't figured it out yet, I'm honest, loyal, intelligent, and have a certain, code of honor I guess you could call it. It might better better known as morals, ethics. Those just sound funny in my head. This by no means is all about me, but hopefully it gives a decent picture. Some things are better seeing for yourself. :)
* I'm looking for someone in my area, not states or countries away. Silly to have to say, but it seems still necessary.
What I’m doing with my life
I work at an auto parts store in Brooklyn. It's not ideal, but the work environment and people are better than some jobs I've had. I'm not a "car" person, but I know enough to be dangerous (which is often more than our customers). lol Beyond that, living life like most everyone else. I'm not a partier or anything like that, life is interesting enough without that kind of thing.
I’m really good at
I'm good with computers and general electronics. I have an eye for landscaping (from a few years working in that). I also run sound at my church. I've been told I'm I good friend and an awesome guy. Oddly, not good enough for them 'Show' me they think that. Hmm.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm short, and usually too quiet for their liking. I'm not anti-social, just not a social butterfly. I prefer to talk to someone that will listen and try to understand. Learn what 'introvert' is, not how its been stereotyped. We have friends, we generally like talking, we just think and feel a bit differently.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I've been watching some of the old tv shows on Netflix, and that's been fun. My regular tv doesn't get used much.
My preferred reading is usually either sci-fi, or fantasy/adventure. My most recent reading has been catching up on old Linux Journals (magazine). Lately I've been enjoying some fan made Star Trek audio dramas, which I enjoy.
My movies are usually sci-fi/action/adventure, but I'm not beyond the occasional "chick flick", 'Just Like Heaven' is a good one, and kind of makes me wish for something like that. Music varies, depends on what I'm in the mood for.
The six things I could never do without
Air, water, food, hope, love... the usual. Oh, I probably wasn't suppose to take that quite so literally was I? Still, there is a difference between what I "want", and what I NEED. Watch a show called Revolution, it got me thinking what really need to live life.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Why women feel the need to judge and treat me like dirt. Maybe I should be a dishonest jerk, for all the difference it makes. But that's not me. I'm done making first contact, I'm sick of the bs. If I do the 'like' thing, I'm at least interested. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
I usually go over to my parents, have dinner, watch a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I never wanted to play the 'dating game', the "rules" are too complicated, and stupid. I can count the number of women I've dated on one hand, and I never got more than one date. I'm tired of never being able to fit a preconceived ideas of the "perfect" guy that no one can fit, and not getting a real chance. I feel like dating has been turned into a job application, not a mutual adventure and discovery. I wanted a relationship, not a game of prejudice and judgment. I want to be given a real chance. But I'm done with trying to make first contact with women that don't seem to care. I feel it's time for a woman to want to pursue me, and show me that I'm worth something, but I don't get to see that, and that beyond frustrating.
You should message me if
If you are serious about a real relationship...
Unfortunately, with the arrival for the new year, I have concluded me making an effort to make first contact is not appreciated in the least (which seems ironic on a singles site). I'm not crude, and I just try to start a conversation. Responses range from silence, to judgement, to effectively telling me I'm too messed up and should seek help and I should be less honest. Uh, wow, that's a bit hypocritical, isn't it? I am human, and not "perfect", and imperfect people don't have any right pointing out my flaws (that I admitted by the way, I could have lied, then it would be on my head, which is just dumb) to make yourself feel better. I'm also sorry for being me, and trying to make use of the very thing women say they want in their profiles. It's too bad common sense seems to have long since gone out the window. Relationship is a partnership, understanding, consideration, communication, and yes, working things out (means we won't get along 100% of the time, because we are individuals). It has to start some where, before you get trust, and love. If you can't understand that, well, that's really too bad. I'm done going out on a limb just to have cut from under me. Let ME know if you are interested, drop me a line. Don't just hit 'like' and go on your way, I'm not going to waste anymore money on singles sites to just to see likes. Communicate! :) Take care.
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