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38 F Tampa, FL

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Full figured
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Last edited 13 July 2014.

If you read nothing else, please read this:
I am not single. I am polyamorous. I am in an open relationship. If you are looking for someone single, or your answers to questions indicate you're against open relationships, we probably won't get along. I'm open to being friends, but won't be anyone's one and only.
If your opening message is something similar to 'hi' or 'how are you?' with nothing else, I'm probably not going to reply.
I desire actual conversation, and if you're not willing to do your part, I'll stop replying.
If you want a one night stand, move on.

The rest of my profile:

I am married to Xquitz. He's super great and I love him to bits. We're polyamorous and have a non-monogamous and open relationship. We each know with whom the other is involved. No exceptions. I'm also on a fwb basis with a couple people.

My primary deal breakers are secret relationships and lying. Honesty, transparency, communication, safety, and trust are important to me.

I'm looking for friendship, with the possibility of more happening.

If you're looking for a one night stand, keep looking.

I paint and make mixed media pieces, crochet, snap and edit pictures and write when the mood strikes. I love the fall and winter, when the air is cooler. I grew up in the Upper Midwest and moved to Florida in 2009. I love floating on the water and collecting shells.

I'm introverted and eccentric, a contradiction and constantly changing. Compassionate and mischievous. Strong-willed and bratty. I'm a fire sign, a metal element, a (recovering) perfectionist, and empathetic. I am analytically random. I am disinclined to be boxed in or obligated to do anything that isn't a Hell Yes for me.

I'm kept by several adorable cats, all rescues.

I'm a curvy BBW. Weight has been a lifelong challenge, and while I am actively working on it, I'm doing so for me and me alone. I am fairly comfortable in my skin, and those in my life accept me exactly as I am. If you have an issue with it, kindly move along.

My sense of humor is wicked, sarcastic and twisted mixed with cute and sweet. The more comfortable I am in a situation, the less likely my TMI filter is in place. I swear sometimes, especially when fired up or inspired. Very few people render me speechless, and I'm usually impressed by those who do.

I don't discuss much in politics or religion. I lean liberal. I have settled into being spiritual.

I am heteroflexible (somewhere between straight and bisexual), and in BDSM terms, I'm a masochistic switch with sadistic tendencies. I can be found on Fet as dreamlikeme.
What I’m doing with my life
Learning and evolving. Still have a lot to discover, both in the world and within myself.
Creating art, and exploring where my interests are heading.
Wrangling cats.
Learning to read Lenormand cards.
Collecting covers to interesting songs.
I’m really good at
Experimenting (with art, among other things).
Making witty comments.
Knowing random factoids, and song lyrics.
Being helpful and empathetic.
Organization and coming up with ideas.
Logistics and some navigation. Once I've driven somewhere, I can usually find it again.
Bucking the system and doing my own thing. If I get into an adventurous mood, I often jump at the chance to try something new.
The first things people usually notice about me
Either quiet and distant, or open and friendly. Depends on the environment and circumstances.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Favorites include The Bridge Across Forever, Illusions and One by Richard Bach; Lightning by Dean R Koontz and anything by Hiaasen. Currently reading Anatomy of the Spirit and read The Alchemist in one sitting.
I also read art and journaling sites, books and magazines.

Movies: Love Actually, Blade Trinity, Matrix and Matrix Reloaded, LOTR, The Chronicles of Riddick, The Ugly Truth, The A-team, Serenity, Lost In Translation, The Avengers. Generally comedy and action, though if the movie sounds good, I'll consider it. On my own, I'm more likely to wait until a movie is out on Netflix.

TV Shows: Burn Notice, Leverage, True Blood, The Glades, Six Feet Under, Firefly, Daria, Lost Girl, Torchwood, Arrow, Doctor Who.

Music is a passion. I was raised around 50s-60s and (classic) country, along with influences everywhere else with friends and my own explorations. I don't bother with genres; music is good or it isn't. That said, a sampling of what I listen to: Eve 6, VAST, Duncan Sheik, Blue October, Pentatonix, Boston, Big & Rich, Alabama, Adele, Amanda Palmer, Bobby McFerrin, Cake, Cee Lo, Dazy Head Mazy, Florence + the Machine, Owen Plant, Dave Ellis, Seether, Shinedown, Three Days Grace, Muse, Live, Jarle Bernhoft, James Morrison, Larry Gatlin, Asleep at the Wheel, George Strait, Kyrstyn Pixton, Cold, Collective Soul, Godsmack, Kaiser Chiefs, Disturbed, Kasabian. I have a special place in my heart for a capella and cover songs.

Foods: chocolate, raspberries, mangos, fruit smoothies, cinnamon, grilled cheese sandwiches, (good) Greek yogurt. I make fabulous tuna casserole. I can cook, though I don't cook often.

Drinks: iced tea, chai lattes, root beer, raspberry lemonade. I don't drink alcohol much, though I lean towards sweet wines, hard cider or fruity drinks.

Other favorites:
Anything giggle-worthy (Whose Line is it Anyway, Eddie Izzard, Mitch Hedburg, etc).
Word games (Words With Friends, 7 Little Words), resource management games, Fluxx, Cards Against Humanity.
I also own dice with more than 6 sides.
The six things I could never do without
chosen family
lip balm
art projects
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My mind is constantly thinking about something, with weird associations between subjects.

Why people misunderstand the privacy section.

What I'd prefer in a person I date: communication, honesty, compassion and a sense of humor are important. Someone who wants good things/qualities in their life and is willing to do the work necessary to get there. They are confident in themself, unapologetic about who they are, and open-minded. Someone who accepts me as I am (quirks, flaws and all), yet encourages me to continually strive to improve the areas I want to improve in myself. They are respectful of my other relationships, and cordial to those in my life. In return, I will do all of those above things, as best as I can. Step up or move on. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
doing anything from errands, to going out with friends, to attending a discussion group. My schedule's fairly flexible.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have no idea. Some things others would consider private I have no problem discussing.

Once upon a time my hair was blue. It's also been fuchsia.

I don't like the taste of plain water, even filtered or bottled.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 30–53
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
Any or all of the following:

You're articulate, which also includes spelling out words, using spacing and punctuation and not using 'txt speak' (u, r, ur, etc).
You're funny and/or quirky.
You appreciate art and/or music.
You're poly, or poly-friendly.
You're curious about anything I wrote here.

Please do not call me hun. If you feel the burning desire to use an endearment with a stranger, I prefer honey or darlin'.

Please offer the beginnings of a conversation. Saying 'Hi' and having nothing in your profile really doesn't give me much to work with, and I will probably not reply.
Cheesy pickup lines are a source of amusement, however I won't fall for them.