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skaja

38 Tampa, FL Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 1:29pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Full figured
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Aries
Education
University
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Last edited 5 December 2014.

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If you read nothing else, please read this:
* I am married. I am polyamorous. I am non-monogamous. I am in an open relationship. If you are looking for someone single, or your answers to questions indicate you're against open relationships, anything beyond friendship is unlikely.
* I am full up on relationships right now, so I am primarily interested in friendship.
* If your opening message is something similar to 'hi' or 'how are you?' with nothing else, I'm probably not going to reply. Especially if your profile is blank or sparse.
* I desire conversation with substance (i.e., more than small talk), and if you're not willing to do your part, I'll stop replying.
* If you want a one night stand, move on.
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The rest of my profile:

I am married to Xquitz. He's super great and I love him to bits. We're polyamorous and have a non-monogamous and open relationship. I am not looking to replace him, and he clearly knows I'm here (we link to each other's profiles). I'm also involved with a couple other folks, so I'm polysaturated right now. I'm open to making new friends.

I'm introverted and eccentric, a contradiction and constantly changing. Compassionate and mischievous. Strong-willed and bratty. I'm a fire sign, a metal element, a (recovering) perfectionist, and empathetic. I am analytically random and disinclined to be boxed in or obligated to do anything that isn't a Hell Yes for me.

I'm a curvy BBW. Weight has been a lifelong challenge, and while I am actively working on it, I'm doing so for me and me alone. I am fairly comfortable in my skin, and those in my life accept me exactly as I am. If you have an issue with it, kindly move along.

I love flirting. My sense of humor is wicked, sarcastic and twisted mixed with cute and sweet. The more comfortable I am, the less likely my TMI filter is in place. I joke with my sister that I'm decent for about ten minutes, once a month. I swear fairly often, though I can clean up my language when necessary.

Few people render me speechless, and I'm usually impressed by those who do. I am not easily surprised, nor offended, though my willingness to tolerate asshatery is pretty low.

I rarely discuss politics or religion. I lean liberal. I have settled into being spiritual.

I am heteroflexible (somewhere between straight and bisexual), and in kink terms, I'm a masochistic switch with sadistic tendencies. I can be found on Fet as dreamlikeme.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Learning and evolving. In a constant state of self-discovery, along with exploring the world I've chosen.
Creating art. Lately, I've been painting in spurts, and taking the time in between to crochet and line handbags with self-designed fabric, snap photographs, and write. I tend to write poetry (single word challenges are fun), and I'm giving NaNoWriMo another whirl.
Exploring where my interests are heading.
Wrangling my cats. I have eight.
Learning to read Lenormand cards and studying Nine Star Ki.
Collecting covers to interesting songs.
Going outside, now that it's a tolerable temperature.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Experimenting (with art, among other things).
Making witty comments.
Knowing random factoids, and song lyrics.
Being helpful and empathetic.
Organization and coming up with ideas.
Logistics and some navigation. Once I've driven somewhere, I can usually find it again.
Bucking the system and doing my own thing. If I get into an adventurous mood, I often jump at the chance to try something new.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Either quiet and distant, or open and friendly. Depends on the environment and circumstances.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Favorites include The Bridge Across Forever, Illusions and One by Richard Bach; Lightning by Dean R Koontz and anything by Hiaasen. Currently reading Anatomy of the Spirit and read The Alchemist in one sitting.
I also read art and journaling sites, books and magazines.

Movies: Love Actually, Blade Trinity, Matrix and Matrix Reloaded, LOTR, The Chronicles of Riddick, The Ugly Truth, The A-team, Serenity, Lost In Translation, The Avengers. Generally comedy and action, though if the movie sounds good, I'll consider it. On my own, I'm more likely to wait until a movie is out on Netflix.

TV Shows: Burn Notice, Leverage, True Blood, The Glades, Six Feet Under, Firefly, Daria, Lost Girl, Torchwood, Arrow, Doctor Who.

Music is a passion. I was raised around 50s-60s and (classic) country, along with influences everywhere else with friends and my own explorations. I don't bother with genres; music is good or it isn't. That said, a sampling of what I listen to: Eve 6, VAST, Duncan Sheik, Blue October, Pentatonix, Boston, Big & Rich, Alabama, Adele, Amanda Palmer, Bobby McFerrin, Cake, Cee Lo, Dazy Head Mazy, Florence + the Machine, Owen Plant, Dave Ellis, Seether, Shinedown, Three Days Grace, Muse, Live, Jarle Bernhoft, James Morrison, Larry Gatlin, Asleep at the Wheel, George Strait, Kyrstyn Pixton, Cold, Collective Soul, Godsmack, Kaiser Chiefs, Disturbed, Kasabian.
I have a special place in my heart for a capella and cover songs.

Foods: chocolate, raspberries, mangos, fruit smoothies, cheeseburgers, cinnamon, grilled cheese sandwiches, Greek yogurt. I make fabulous tuna casserole. I can cook, though I rarely do.

Drinks: iced tea, chai lattes, root beer, raspberry lemonade. I don't drink alcohol much, though I lean towards sweet wines, hard cider or fruity drinks.

Other favorites:
Anything giggle-worthy (Whose Line is it Anyway, Eddie Izzard, Mitch Hedburg, etc).
Word games (Words With Friends, 7 Little Words), resource management games, Fluxx, Cards Against Humanity.
I also own dice with more than 6 sides.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
chosen family
lip balm
art projects
laughter
sensation/sex
music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My mind is constantly thinking about something, with weird associations between subjects.

Why people misunderstand the privacy section.

What I'd prefer in a person I date: communication, honesty, compassion and a sense of humor are important. Someone who wants good things/qualities in their life and is willing to do the work necessary to get there. They are confident in themself, unapologetic about who they are, and open-minded. Someone who accepts me as I am (quirks, flaws and all), yet encourages me to continually strive to improve the areas I want to improve in myself. They are respectful of my other relationships, and cordial to those in my life. In return, I will do all of those above things, as best as I can. Step up or move on. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no typical, really. Friday nights are usually errand nights, unless there's a discussion group, or some other outing. I go out to local coffee gatherings on the first and third Tuesdays and every Wednesday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have no idea. Some things others would consider private I have no problem discussing.

Once upon a time my hair was blue. It's also been fuchsia.

I don't like the taste of plain water, even filtered or bottled.

I have an astounding amount of camera apps for my phone (approaching fourteen dozen, at last count).
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Any or all of the following:

You're articulate, which also includes spelling out words, using spacing and punctuation and not exclusively using 'txt speak' (u, r, ur, b, wyd, etc). I do use shorthand on occasion (lol, brb, and the like), however I make every attempt to spell out words in my text messages, and I prefer to converse with people who do the same.
You're funny and/or quirky.
You appreciate art and/or music.
You're poly, or poly-friendly.
You're curious about anything I wrote here.

Please do not call me hun. If you feel the burning desire to use an endearment with a stranger, I prefer honey or darlin'.

Please offer the beginnings of a conversation. Saying 'Hi' and having nothing in your profile really doesn't give me much to work with, and I will probably not reply.
Cheesy pickup lines are a source of amusement, however I won't fall for them.