I am married to Xquitz and dating Mclimpsalot. They are both amazing, super neat guys and I love them to bits.
I practice ethical non-monogamy (for more info on that, look up More Than Two [morethantwo.com]). What that means for me is I follow a set of personal boundaries, which include keeping my partners in the loop about my life and choices. They know about with whom I'm involved.
My sense of humor is wicked, sarcastic and twisted, mixed with cute and sweet. The more comfortable I am, the less likely my TMI filter is in place. Few people render me speechless, and I'm usually impressed by those who do. I am not easily surprised, nor offended; my willingness to tolerate asshatery is pretty low. I love creative flirting, after a hello; jumping right into innuendoes or being crude will not get you a positive response. Also, I hate small talk, and prefer conversations with substance.
I have eight tattoos, with more planned.
I rarely discuss politics or religion. I lean liberal. I have settled into being spiritual.
What I'm looking for: I'm interested primarily in making new friends, and I'm willing to be friends with nearly anyone, HOWEVER, I will only date those who are truly polyamorous (which means your partner(s) will know about me, I will know about them, and you can expect to meet mine if at all possible). If you are strictly or mostly monogamous, not open to polyamory or open relationships, or looking for someone single to date, please save us both time and keep going.
I like individuals who are funny, geeky, enjoy board and card games, watching weird videos on youtube. Bonus points if you're creative.
Not interested in one night stands, playing with strangers, or hookups.
Creating art. I'm attempting to cultivate the patience to follow crochet patterns, as I typically do not for most projects.
Wrangling my cats. I have eight.
Learning to read Lenormand cards and studying Nine Star Ki.
Collecting covers to songs.
Kissing and sensory-type things.
Making witty comments.
Knowing random factoids, and song lyrics.
Being helpful and empathetic.
Organization and coming up with ideas.
Logistics and some navigation. Once I've driven somewhere, I can usually find it again.
Bucking the system and doing my own thing. If I get into an adventurous mood, I often jump at the chance to try something new.
I also read art and journaling sites, books and magazines.
I spend a bulk of my time making art, so I don't read as much as I'd like.
Movies: Love Actually, Blade Trinity, Matrix and Matrix Reloaded, LOTR, The Chronicles of Riddick, The Ugly Truth, The A-team, Serenity, Lost In Translation, The Avengers. Generally comedy and action, though if the movie sounds good, I'll consider it. On my own, I'm more likely to wait until a movie is out on Netflix.
TV Shows: Burn Notice, Leverage, True Blood, The Glades, The Blacklist, Firefly, Daria, Lost Girl, Torchwood, Arrow, Doctor Who, Criminal Minds, Bones, NCIS, Life, The Finder, Law and Order (SVU and Criminal Intent).
Music is a passion. I was raised around 50s-60s and (classic) country, along with influences everywhere else with friends and my own explorations. I don't bother with genres; music is good or it isn't. That said, a sampling of what I listen to: Eve 6, VAST, Duncan Sheik, Blue October, Pentatonix, Boston, Big & Rich, Alabama, Adele, Amanda Palmer, Bobby McFerrin, Cake, Dazy Head Mazy, Florence + the Machine, Owen Plant, Dave Ellis, Seether, Shinedown, Three Days Grace, Muse, Live, Jarle Bernhoft, James Morrison, Larry Gatlin, Asleep at the Wheel, George Strait, Kyrstyn Pixton, Cold, Collective Soul, Godsmack, Kaiser Chiefs, Disturbed, Kasabian, ZEALE.
I have a special place in my heart for a capella and cover songs.
Fun fact: Blue October is my favorite band, and their music is as close to a religion as I get.
Foods: chocolate, raspberries, mangos, fruit smoothies, cheeseburgers, cinnamon, grilled cheese sandwiches, Greek yogurt. I make fabulous five cheese, spicy tuna casserole. I can cook, though I rarely do.
Drinks: iced tea, chai lattes, raspberry lemonade. I don't often drink alcohol, though I lean towards sweet wines, hard cider or fruity drinks.
Anything giggle-worthy (Whose Line is it Anyway, Eddie Izzard, Mitch Hedburg, etc).
Word games (Words With Friends, 7 Little Words), resource management games, Fluxx, Cards Against Humanity, Pandemic.
I also own dice with more than 6 sides.
Why people misunderstand the privacy section.
Once upon a time my hair was blue. It's also been fuchsia.
I don't like the taste of plain unflavored water, unless it is very cold. Even then, I'll probably add lemon, or a bit of flavored drink mix.
I have an astounding amount of camera apps for my phone (approaching fourteen dozen, at last count). I use maybe five of them.
You're articulate, which also includes spelling out words, using spacing and punctuation and not exclusively using 'txt spk' (u, r, ur, b, wyd, etc). I do use shorthand on occasion (lol, brb, and the like), however I make every attempt to spell out words in my text messages, and I prefer to converse with people who do the same. Bonus points for using the correct form of a word (think you're/your or their/they're/there).
You're funny and/or quirky.
You appreciate art and/or music.
You're polyamorous, and being ethical about it.
You're curious about anything I wrote here.
Please do not call me hun. In fact, it would be fantastic if you don't use any endearments (beautiful, honey, sweetie, gorgeous, etc, etc) with me until you know me better, such as becoming my friend. If you must use a greeting, my name is Skaj. Also, please don't comment on my looks. It's unnecessary, and I usually roll my eyes.
Please offer the beginnings of a conversation. Saying 'Hi' and having nothing in your profile really doesn't give me much to work with, and I will probably not reply favorably. I offer a lot of information about myself here, and appreciate those who have gotten past the pictures and read the words.