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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 29–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 9:06am
Heteroflexible, Sapiosexual, Bisexual
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Might want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello! I'm an introverted, eccentric, polyamorous/non-monogamous woman who is also strong willed, passionate, and mischievous. I'm analytically random, compassionate, artistic, and empathetic. I'm an artsy type. I crochet, paint, and do surface design (mostly in the form of fabric). I dabble in photography and write poetry.

I am married to Xquitz. He's super neat and I love him to bits. We practice ethical non-monogamy (for more info on that, look up More Than Two [] or Ethical Slut). I'm also dating three other pretty great guys, one not on OKC as well as Aquaholic82 and mrboogie74.

I'm a part of a quad with Xquitz, Aquaholic82 and ChainMailChick, which is part of a greater polycule of some amazing people, which include Wallypoly and AshleyAiko.

I love flirting. My sense of humor is wicked, sarcastic and twisted, mixed with cute and sweet. The more comfortable I am, the less likely my TMI filter is in place.

Few people render me speechless, and I'm usually impressed by those who do. I am not easily surprised, nor offended; my willingness to tolerate asshatery is pretty low. I appreciate creative flirting, after a hello; jumping right into innuendoes or being crude will not get you a positive response. Also, I hate small talk, and prefer conversations with substance.

I rarely discuss politics or religion. I lean liberal. I have settled into being spiritual.

I am heteroflexible (somewhere between straight and bisexual), and in kink terms, I'm a masochistic switch with sadistic tendencies. I can be found on Fet as dreamlikeme.

I'm interested primarily in making new friends, and I'm willing to be friends with nearly anyone, HOWEVER, I will only date those who are truly polyamorous (which means your partner(s) will know about me, I will know about them, and you can expect to meet mine if at all possible). If you are strictly or mostly monogamous, not open to polyamory or open relationships, or looking for someone single to date, please save us both time and keep going.

I like individuals who are funny, geeky, enjoy board and card games, watching weird videos on youtube. Bonus points if you're into renaissance faires and are creative.

Not interested in one night stands, playing with strangers, or hookups.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Learning and evolving. In a constant state of self-discovery, along with exploring the world I've chosen.
Creating art. I'm attempting to cultivate the patience to follow crochet patterns, as I typically do not for most projects.
Wrangling my cats. I have eight.
Learning to read Lenormand cards and studying Nine Star Ki.
Collecting covers to songs.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Experimenting (with art, among other things).
Kissing and sensory-type things.
Making witty comments.
Knowing random factoids, and song lyrics.
Being helpful and empathetic.
Organization and coming up with ideas.
Logistics and some navigation. Once I've driven somewhere, I can usually find it again.
Bucking the system and doing my own thing. If I get into an adventurous mood, I often jump at the chance to try something new.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Either quiet and distant, or open and friendly, depending on the circumstances.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Favorites include The Bridge Across Forever, Illusions and One by Richard Bach; Lightning by Dean R Koontz and anything by Hiaasen. Currently reading Anatomy of the Spirit and read The Alchemist in one sitting.
I also read art and journaling sites, books and magazines.
I spend a bulk of my time making art, so I don't read as much as I'd like.

Movies: Love Actually, Blade Trinity, Matrix and Matrix Reloaded, LOTR, The Chronicles of Riddick, The Ugly Truth, The A-team, Serenity, Lost In Translation, The Avengers. Generally comedy and action, though if the movie sounds good, I'll consider it. On my own, I'm more likely to wait until a movie is out on Netflix.

TV Shows: Burn Notice, Leverage, True Blood, The Glades, The Blacklist, Firefly, Daria, Lost Girl, Torchwood, Arrow, Doctor Who, Criminal Minds, Bones.

Music is a passion. I was raised around 50s-60s and (classic) country, along with influences everywhere else with friends and my own explorations. I don't bother with genres; music is good or it isn't. That said, a sampling of what I listen to: Eve 6, VAST, Duncan Sheik, Blue October, Pentatonix, Boston, Big & Rich, Alabama, Adele, Amanda Palmer, Bobby McFerrin, Cake, Dazy Head Mazy, Florence + the Machine, Owen Plant, Dave Ellis, Seether, Shinedown, Three Days Grace, Muse, Live, Jarle Bernhoft, James Morrison, Larry Gatlin, Asleep at the Wheel, George Strait, Kyrstyn Pixton, Cold, Collective Soul, Godsmack, Kaiser Chiefs, Disturbed, Kasabian, ZEALE.
I have a special place in my heart for a capella and cover songs.
Fun fact: Blue October is my favorite band, and their music is as close to a religion as I get.

Foods: chocolate, raspberries, mangos, fruit smoothies, cheeseburgers, cinnamon, grilled cheese sandwiches, Greek yogurt. I make fabulous five cheese, spicy tuna casserole. I can cook, though I rarely do.

Drinks: iced tea, chai lattes, raspberry lemonade. I don't often drink alcohol, though I lean towards sweet wines, hard cider or fruity drinks.

Other favorites:
Anything giggle-worthy (Whose Line is it Anyway, Eddie Izzard, Mitch Hedburg, etc).
Word games (Words With Friends, 7 Little Words), resource management games, Fluxx, Cards Against Humanity, Pandemic.
I also own dice with more than 6 sides.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
chosen family
lip balm
art projects
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My mind is constantly thinking about something, with weird associations between subjects.

Why people misunderstand the privacy section.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
usually running errands and getting ready for the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have no idea. Some things others would consider private I have no problem discussing.

Once upon a time my hair was blue. It's also been fuchsia.

I don't like the taste of plain unflavored water, unless it is very cold. Even then, I'll probably add lemon, or a bit of flavored drink mix.

I have an astounding amount of camera apps for my phone (approaching fourteen dozen, at last count).
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Any or all of the following:

You're articulate, which also includes spelling out words, using spacing and punctuation and not exclusively using 'txt spk' (u, r, ur, b, wyd, etc). I do use shorthand on occasion (lol, brb, and the like), however I make every attempt to spell out words in my text messages, and I prefer to converse with people who do the same. Bonus points for using the correct form of a word (think you're/your or their/they're/there).
You're funny and/or quirky.
You appreciate art and/or music.
You're polyamorous, and being ethical about it.
You're curious about anything I wrote here.

Please do not call me hun. In fact, it would be fantastic if you don't use any endearments with me until you know me better, such as becoming my friend. If you must use a greeting, my name is Skaj.

Please offer the beginnings of a conversation. Saying 'Hi' and having nothing in your profile really doesn't give me much to work with, and I will probably not reply favorably. I offer a lot of information about myself here, and appreciate those who have gotten past the pictures and read the words.