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44 • Harrisburg, PA • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 34–56
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends
- Last online
- Mar 25
- 5′ 8″ (1.73m)
- Body type
- Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from university
- Art / Music / Writing
- Rather not say
- Has kids
- Likes dogs and has cats
- English, Thai (Poorly)
IMPORTANT NOTE: I will no longer answer questions like "What did you do this summer?" "Have you been on any trips lately?" "How long have you lived in [insert name of town]?" "Do you do SCA? Is that why you dress like that?" The answers are in the profile. If it is too long for you to read, we aren't going to get along, anyway.
I always have a hard time summarizing myself. I am a liberal, gay-rights-supporting, NON-MONOGAMOUS, self-employed single mom. [Obviously, this has now changed. I'm now a liberal, gay-rights-supporting, MONOGAMOUS, self-employed mom and stepmom.]
Seems that too many too often believe that when I say "truth," I mean a sanitized version of it. If I say I want X, they tend to believe I only want it until Y comes along. So let me clear it up:
I travel full-time, so I am not a good prospect for long-term, monogamous relationships. I come, and then I go, and it's highly unlikely that you're going to change my mind about it. I don't suggest trying. [My husband didn't try. He just loved me as I am and everything happened.] I am a great believer in open relationships, truth, and full disclosure. I don't believe in games, manipulations, or lies. I know who I am and what I want, and I know what I can and cannot handle. Don't try to convince me otherwise or "protect" me from reality. Partial truths are just other forms of lies--trying to manipulate a situation.
I have learned that love can end badly, even while both parties still love, and even then, it's never a mistake to have loved. I have learned that the most important truth of all is the truth you tell yourself. And I learned that I have a temper. :) I have also learned that love lost isn't always lost forever and that relationships take many forms over the span of their existences.
What are open relationships? Some people think it's all about sex. Yes, sex is part of it, but it's more about connections and relationships. I have had good experiences and bad, but I'm pretty sure I know what I want. Now, there seems to be some confusion about what I'm looking for here. Even with my casual partners, I like to develop a friendship. Stranger sex is not what I'm searching for. If I happen to decide I want that, I know where to find it. Do us both a favor--if you're just looking for an easy lay, look elsewhere.
I've traveled alone, where I didn't speak the language, I can ride a horse, used to be pretty good with a bow, was addicted to paintball for a couple of years, can drive a forty-five-foot motorhome with my car trailing behind (always good for a laugh--little me climbing out of the cockpit), have lived in my car, in the ghetto, in a tent, and on the road. I've never had a real job. I can quilt, cook on an open fire, and just because I don't CHOOSE to do hard labor, it doesn't mean I've never gotten dirty. I'd love to learn to sail, go back to Asia, and become proficient in Thai and at least one other foreign language. Also, my truck is probably bigger than your truck. Mwuahahaha!
I am fun, smart, and playful
Addendum: I have been out of the dating world for a long time. I have been out of the straights dating world even longer. I commit the occasional faux paux. Within my community, certain things are so meaningless as to warrant barely a mention. In the outside world, the same things can apparently be a mortal insult. Just understand that we likely come from very different backgrounds, and that no insult is ever intended. If I am out with you, it is because I found something in you that I appreciate and want to explore, not because I want to hurt you. Also: I'll be driving my own truck on dates from now on. lol
I have eclectic tastes in music, but my truest love is newfie. Most of you don't know what that is. Think Celtic-influenced sailing songs. It's all about the sea and ships and whales and drinking...I also love traditional Celtic music, ska, some Disney tunes, some country, some classical and opera...anything except rap. bleh. Eighties music. Grrrl power anthems. (hey, I'm a chick. What do you want from me?) Schooner Fare, Great Big Sea, Stan Rogers, Irish Rovers, Chris Ledoux...
I love foreign films and apocalypse movies. Amelie, The Postman, Under a Tuscan Sun (except the last minutes or so. Stupid ending.) Star Wars. Life is Beautiful. Superhero movies.
I learned everything I need to know about life from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. I have watched every episode of West Wing maybe a dozen times. Boston Legal. Firefly. Beauty and the Beast--with Ron Perlman and Linda Hamilton. OH! The Sarah Connor Chronicles. I think I'm obsessed with Summer Glau. On review, anything from Joss Whedon or Aaron Sorkin.
Hell...I'm an escapist.
As for food: oh god food. Sushi. Thai. Indian (rumali roti makes my heart sing). sauces and spices and anything that isn't bland and without texture.
good spicy tuna rolls
my markets (any markets of note--they're all mine)
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