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30 F Portland, OR

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:37pm
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
How do you describe yourself? I think I'm too modest for this one, but I can say- I'm not your typical gal, and I tend to get along best with others who are a-typical. Sometimes I'm awkward and sometimes I'm totally outgoing. I can get really intense in discussions.... or I can end up totally zoning out. So in essence, this paragraph means that I am a contradiction of sorts.

I say rad a lot.

I'm incredibly independent and also value a bit of alone time, which can be a problem when it comes to relationships, but I'm trying to balance those things with the warm, fuzzy feeling (these are not words I use frequently!) that comes along with hanging out with someone (or many people) that you really enjoy.

I (and approximately 1 kajillion other people out there) don't like OKC's options for sexual identity. I tend to not really identify- something that happened too many years ago to count. I just am who I am, and you just are who you are- and it may be that I'm attracted to you and it may be that I'm not. I don't want to shove myself into a box that ends up defining my destiny/dating status/the crowd I hang out with/etc. But I had to pick something.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to enjoy it. Oh, and make the most out of it too. :)

I tend to keep myself very busy, although I'm trying to get better at taking time to relax. I spend the bulk of my time doing three things:

1) Working at the job I get paid for. I'm an engineer, I design buildings, and as stressful as that career can be, it's also incredibly rewarding. And it allows me to geek out on a daily basis. I've been known to work a lot, and while I still sometimes do, I've also realized my limits and just call it quits sometimes.

2) "Working" at what I like to call my second full-time unpaid job- I'm a socialist and a Marxist, and therefore also an activist. I think there are a lot of really messed up things in the world (get me on this subject and I'll go on forever- homelessness, poverty, racism, homophobia, police violence, rampant inequality), but I also think there is infinite potential for changing these things. But they're not just going to change just because- we have to work to change them. Part and parcel with this is educating myself on a whole bucketload of things from history to theory to current events, which helps figure out some good ideas for how to change things.

So if you want to talk politics I'm down. :)

3) Working out. This involves anything from lifting at the gym to bike rides that end up being way longer than I originally planned on riding. Or really, really long walks around town.

Although now that I list those things, I realize I also spend a lot of time cooking. Probably approximately the remainder of my time.

Also, I just noticed items one through three all involve the verb "work". I don't necessarily consider "work" a bad thing, although I guess it is the opposite of "relax". My response to this if someone else had pointed it out to me? "Meh."
The first things people usually notice about me
This is a tough one- I'm not other people, so how am I supposed to know! Likely my fluffy hair. Depending on length and weather, it's either curly or just.... fluffy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm a huge fan of almost all books, although particularly political books, history, and bad science fiction/fantasy (for bedtime reading).

Food: If it's gluten free, chances are I'll inhale it. I'm a particularly big fan of anything with large amounts of vegetables, Indian food, tacos, and anything spicy.

Music? Turn it on, and I'll probably be bouncing my head around and singing in a few minutes, no matter what it is. Although to be quite honest I spend a lot of time listening to classic rock. In Portland, this means I am made fun of fairly frequently.
The six things I could never do without
When I think about this I think of material things: my kitchen cookware/pots and pans (that's probably more than one thing, but whatever), books, the internet, hot showers, sleep, and good people.

I debated putting "sleep" twice instead of good people. But then I didn't.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Politics. And how to make the world a better place. How to make buildings stand up. What the next thing I'm going to eat is. Deadlifting 3 plates.
On a typical Friday night I am
either at the gym/in the pool, at home cooking, at the bar for happy hour, and whichever of the above, typically in bed pretty early so I can pack tons of things into the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Often I forget how old I am... then OKC reminds me.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 27–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You want to go on a bicycle touring adventure (and/or just a really long random bike ride). You want to hang out. You want to go hiking. You aren't afraid to message people on OKC.