Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Always in flux.
Feminist iconoclast, neurotic femme, polyamorous, easily
distracted, and looking for new relationship(s).
I'm a cynical romantic with a competency kink.
Repeating/rewording some of that for emphasis, because it's
important: feminist, queer, polyamorous, cynical but somehow
Not too optimistic, since I've pretty much convinced myself that
I'm going to die alone and be eaten by my cats.
Back in the rural south after a too brief sojourn in Philadelphia.
I miss the city life, although I appreciate the quiet and dark.
Maybe the howling coyotes are a bit much.
My life has been rebooted yet again in too few years. I'm not happy
about that, considering the processes and pain involved. So again,
I'm trying to rebuild this profile. Maybe it'll go somewhere this
I don't belong where I live; I never have. I'm the proverbial black
goat who never bothered to fit in with the local sheep. Had I the
wherewithal, I would go elsewhere--just not sure where yet. If
you're wondering why this strange, faraway woman is checking out
your profile, that may be why.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
reconstructing the job I was conned into giving up.
thinking. reacting. being.
trying to heal.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...not sleeping, wandering and minstreling, copy editing,
scattering thoughts to the wind, sort of fitting in, not quite
being an outcast, cooking and occasionally baking, training kittens
to walk on a leash, and using Oxford commas.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
the way I'm usually carrying way too much stuff around, either
figuratively or literally.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
It always changes. I consume music and art like other people
Name something, I'll have an opinion. It may even be intelligent or
I think I've always been a hedonist.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my freedom and a stable base from which to explore
my access to information
something to create
someplace to lie down in the darkness
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...musical phrasing, social justice, pedagogy, design,
architecture, what caused my latest migraine, and how it got to be
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...doing the same thing I do any other night. I'm not a
particularly exciting person if left to my own devices.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can't stand the taste of red food coloring.
My vision is terrible.
I'm not entirely sure what I'm looking for, to be honest. I've been
hurt badly, and I'm recovering, but I do know I'm tired of being
alone all the time.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...you're smarter than the average bear. You're not a judgmental
ass. You have at least the semblance of sympathy, or better yet,
I'm not going to dismiss anyone for their religion or lack thereof;
please do me the same courtesy. On the other hand, if you are an
anti-theist or conservative evangelical Christian, we're probably
not going to have much in common.
Look, this isn't my first go around on the OKC train. Hell, it's
not even my second or third. I'm not looking for a pedestal or even
pretty compliments. What I want is a connection, shared interests,
something that moves you in the same direction as me. Then, maybe,
if I read your profile and questions and find you interesting, I'll
message back, and we can see what goes from there.
I'm cautious, yes. I have to be. It's just a thing I (and you) will
have to deal with right now.
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