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49 M Austin, TX

My Details

Last Online
Jul 5
6′ 10″ (2.08m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Brief background: Born and raised in San Diego CA. Spent time in Orange County, Sacramento, Indiana (grad school), and Arizona (to thaw out from Indiana). Testing the waters of OKC after a busy first year in Austin, and seven somewhat solitary years spent in central VA, where I was a proverbial square peg in a round, Christian conservative, family values, confederate flag-waving hole. (Not to mention a very shallow dating pool.) I'm now feeling much more at home amidst the diversity of people and lifestyles here in Austin. And y'all are some friendly folks too!

I am but a work-in-progress. I believe everyone and everything contains its own contradictions. Along these lines, my ingredients include gravity and levity, strength and frailty, responsibility and reckless abandon, grace and awkwardness, being analytical yet sentimental, sociable yet in need of solitary time, polished yet rough around the edges, and wild yet tameable. I seek depth without taking myself too seriously. I embody these seeming opposites; always gravitating somewhere between two extremes based on what the situation at hand calls for. But if it's true that all the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players, I can play most any part for awhile, but I'm not a 'playa'. The real me cannot hide. The soul must speak.

I am a bit of a wanderlust; a daydreamer with one foot firmly rooted in the now. I am content to live a rather modest lifestyle in an upscaled consumerist world. I have my pop culture fixations, but generally narrow pursuits are not for me. I certainly don’t keep up with the Kardashians. I rejoice in the presence of people who are comfortable being open with their feelings, who can give and receive freely, and ultimately, people who are capable of accepting and loving unconditionally.

What makes my heart sing? Hiking beneath a lush canopy of redwoods, a 40mph-plus downhill rush on my bike, a mind-bending novel, playing my djembe, dancing like noone is watching, and discovering new ways to create.

Unfortunately, I'm currently facing some life challenges due to chronic pain in the balls of my feet, so dancing and cycling are on hold for now. My mobility is now limited and I am partially confined to a wheelchair. I'm undergoing physical therapy, and seeking alternative therapies for my metatarsalgia symptoms (google it if you are curious). Nonetheless, I manage to find fulfillment in other ways, such as journaling, meditating, toying with (admittedly fragmentary) writing projects, snuggling with my two affection-whore cats, and networking online with others who suffer from chronic pain. I find their courage and strength in the face of adversity to be inspiring, and their suffering routinely evokes wellsprings of compassion within me.

**My dogs and kids disclaimer.** I love kids, but I seem to relate to them better the older they are. (Kids are drawn to me because I'm different). I love animals, but Have an aversion to dogs who bark incessantly or insist on giving me tongue baths.
What I’m doing with my life
Fighting the good fight, trying to foment enlightenment in my own idiosyncratic way, one wary young adult at a time.
Seeking outlets for my creative impulses.
Building a new social world.
Contributing positively to the universe.
I’m really good at
Being sensitive....and still being a man
Dancing without a care in the world (when my feet heal)
Harmless mischief
Doing what makes me feel alive
Being of service to my fellows
Singing to my cats
The first things people usually notice about me
My height is the source of many comments, most of them typical, some of them annoying, but most all of which I take in stride. Every so often I actually hear something original. :-)
Also the way I carry myself.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Hesse, Kundera, Ishmael, Jack Kornfield, Don Miguel Ruiz, Aldous Huxley, Alan Watts, Thomas Frank, Noam Chomsky, the communist manifesto, and anything therapeutic, especially Jungian thought, transpersonal psychology, and Buddhist psychology. Also Fifty Shades of Grey (haven't even read it yet, but don't I look hip listing it here) ;-)
Movies: Absolutely loved Avatar, also Inception, Smart People, Blade Runner, etc. etc. But my favorite movies are comedies endemic to my era: Caddyshack, Airplane, Animal House, and Better Off Dead. And Rodney Dangerfield was/is the best comedian ever, hands down.
Shows: Breaking Bad, Californication, Mad Men, Rachel Maddow, Anderson Cooper, and I can be a weather channel junkie. And as I've 'gotten a life' over the years, I've pruned my sports tree down to an occasional basketball game, le Tour de France, and some NFL.
Music: Somewhat omnivorous. I like music with an edge to it; driving guitar-riff rock, bluesy rock, grunge, psychadelica, some techno, and occasionally hip-hop. Also ska, reggae, the dreamy textures of trip-hop, dance music, and funk. Not too much into country; if a band exceeds my 'twang-o-meter' threshold I'm just not down--although living in Austin is changing my tastes a bit (e.g. Ray Wylie Hubbard, Giant Sand).
Faves include The Red Hot Chili Peppers, Radiohead, Chemical Brothers, Massive Attack, DJ Shadow, the Killers, Silversun Pickups, Love and Rockets, Franz Ferdinand, Bonobo, Funkadelic, Sublime, Bob Marley, the Beatles, so-called 'classic rock' (Hendrix, Floyd, Zep, Sabbath), and especially the Clash.
Food: I love to cook, but my tastes are broader than my limited culinary repertoire. I love Indian, Thai, Ethiopian, Chinese, a good burger, and a greasy-spoon breakfast joint with a gluttonous chicken-friend steak. I must confess that I am a bit saturated with Mexy food right now (But Torchy's rocks!).
I start off most days with a blueberry-banana smoothie.
The six things I could never do without
My 71cm Waterford bicycle
Probing beneath the surface
Cats Linus and Cali
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Mostly I think about what is presently in front of me. But I also think about why I am here and where I may be headed.
I also dream of a 'dream job,' a house on the beach somewhere in central California, and a perfect day in the sunshine on my bicycle.
On a typical Friday night I am
Gettin my freak on! :-O...... (kidding....)
Nothing typical here. I'm equally comfortable in the domicile or out on the town. Depends on the company and the qualitative immediacy of the moment.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sometimes sit down just to pee
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 38–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You value honesty, compassion, and loving kindness.
You have a healthy sense of adventure and a taste for mystery.
You can revel in the spectacular yet find meaning in the mundane.
You understand that your suffering is ordinary in the grand scheme of things.
You can let go with the unbridled glee of a child.
You can find the silly in the serious.
You can broaden my horizons.
You are in touch with your desires.
You don't think that everyone on OKC who 'replies often' is a ho.
You like back rubs.
You don't mind seeing a man emote.
You won't try to convince me that your God is better than mine.
And most importantly, if you seek an equal.