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49 M Austin, TX

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 29
6′ 10″ (2.08m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Brief background: Born and raised in San Diego CA. Spent time in Orange County, Sacramento, Indiana (grad school), and Arizona (to thaw out from Indiana!). Lived and worked for seven years in the gorgeous Shenandoah Valley of Virginia before coming to Austin for work three years ago. As a lifelong left fielder, cultural omnivore, and irrepressible free spirit, I love it here!

I am currently facing some life challenges due to chronic pain in the balls of my feet, which has limited my mobility and caused me to reevaluate what I want out of life and how I can best serve people and planet. I am humbly a work-in-progress. I am finding that, as long as I stay centered and remain in the moment, I can survive even the most jarring confluence of life circumstances; sometimes even gracefully. I have also had to learn-sometimes through baptism by fire-to trust in the abundance of the Universe.

I am blessed with a bevy of strengths, yet paradoxically, I have found that I grow stronger by allowing myself to be vulnerable; acknowledging-and if necessary, working on-my weaknesses. While I'm not in as good of shape as I was before my feet were besieged by nerve pain, I do take good care of my body and my mind, and still look roughly the same as the guy in these pictures, save for a little spare tire I'm working on. Although I am typically quite responsible, my soul is that of a wanderlust; a silly, childlike daydreamer who can take solace in my own little world, yet ultimately stay rooted in this one. I am content to live a rather modest lifestyle in a seductively upscaled consumer society. I have my pop culture fixations, but tend to shun narrow pursuits. Five minutes with the Kardashians makes me violently ill. I rejoice in the presence of people who are comfortable being open with their feelings, who can give and receive freely, and ultimately, who are capable of accepting and loving unconditionally. I like to meditate, write, ride my bike (when my feet will let me), snuggle with my two cats (former rescue kittens who need lots of lovin'), and connect with other chronic pain sufferers, whose courage and strength in the face of adversity inspires me and evokes wellsprings of compassion.

What makes my heart sing? A lush canopy of redwoods, a 40mph-plus downhill rush on my bike, a mind-bending novel, that moment of reckoning and reconciliation at the end of the movie (even a cheesy one) when the tears start to flow, playing my djembe, processing thoughts in my journal, crafting witty or wry social commentary, and when my feet will allow it, shakin' my booty. At best I'm a 'hopeful romantic' seeking that special someone to share life's ups and downs; conversing, caring, sharing, understanding, holding, caressing, giggling, and simply being; ideally, being together while honoring the other's need for solitude.

But what really makes my heart swoon and my knees wobble is to experience the sheer ecstasy of a wild love affair in full bloom; basking awestruck in the magical glow that surrounds two lovers embracing on the seashore of the 'Isle of You', with wave after stupefying wave of passion crashing down upon them (cue the wistful 40s movie music lol...). Yes, love is blind as they say, and although I'm much wiser from experience, when the chemistry is right and that special spark happens, it is quite liberating to stop analyzing, stop judging, and just be plain friggin' giddy about being in love. As the prophet Paul of Liverpool once said: "And what's wrong with thaaaaat. I need to knooooow. 'Cause here I goooooo. Agaaaaaaain!"
What I’m doing with my life
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Taking care of myself.
Letting my path reveal itself.
Fighting the good fight yet learning when to let go.
Gleaning daily lessons from the School of Everyday Life.
Seeking outlets for my creative impulses.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Communication in all it's forms
Being a man who cares
Being goofy
Doing things that make me feel alive
Being of service to my fellows
Singing to my cats
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My height is the source of many comments, most of them typical, some of them annoying, but most all of which I take in stride. Every so often I actually hear something original. :-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Siddartha, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Ishmael, The Four Agreements, Aldous Huxley, Alan Watts, Thomas Frank, Noam Chomsky, and anything therapeutic, especially Jungian thought, transpersonal psychology and Buddhist psychology.
Movies: Silver Linings Playbook, Her, Avatar, Inception, Idiocracy, Team America, LA Story, Smart People, Pulp Fiction, Blade Runner, and especially comedies endemic to my era, such as Caddyshack, Airplane, Animal House, and Better Off Dead. Imho Rodney Dangerfield was the best comedian ever. Also SXSW film festival is amazing...I wish more of those films made it to distribution.
Shows: Breaking Bad, Californication, Mad Men, Daily Show, Rachel Maddow, and I can be a weather channel junkie. As a recovering sports fan, I've pruned my sports tree down to an occasional basketball game, le Tour de France, and some NFL. Anything more than that and I need to get a life.
Music: Somewhat omnivorous. Not too much into country-although living in Austin is changing my tastes a bit (e.g. Ray Wylie Hubbard, Lucinda Williams, Woody Guthrie). Faves include Radiohead, Chemical Brothers, Massive Attack, DJ Shadow, the Killers, Silversun Pickups, White Stripes, Calexico, Alice in Chains, Meat Puppets, Love and Rockets, RHCP, Franz Ferdinand, Bonobo, Funkadelic, Sublime, Bob Marley, the Beatles, and especially the Clash. And I'm always looking for new avenues to explore.
Food: I love to cook, but my tastes are broader than my limited culinary repertoire. I love Indian, Thai, Ethiopian, Chinese, a good burger, and a greasy-spoon breakfast joint with a gluttonous chicken-friend steak. I must confess that I am a bit saturated with Mexy food right now (Although Torchy's rocks!).
I start off most days with a blueberry-banana smoothie.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Cats Linus and Cali
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Mostly what is presently in front of me. But also why I am here and where I may be headed.
I also dream of a 'dream job,' a house on the beach somewhere in central California, and a perfect day in the sunshine on my bicycle.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Gettin my freak on! :-O...... (kidding....)
Nothing typical here. I'm equally comfortable in the domicile or out on the town. Depends on the company and the qualitative immediacy of the moment.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes sit down just to pee
You should message me if
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You value honesty, compassion, and loving kindness.
You like to hold and to be held.
You have a healthy sense of adventure and a taste for mystery.
You can revel in the spectacular yet find meaning in the mundane.
You understand that your suffering is ordinary in the grand scheme of things.
You can let go with the unbridled glee of a child.
You can find the silly in the serious.
You can broaden my horizons.
You have a healthy sense of desire.
You like back rubs.
You don't mind seeing a man emote.
You won't try to convince me that your God is better than mine.
You seek an equal.