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49 M Austin, TX

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6′ 10″ (2.08m)
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Mostly anything
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Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
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Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Brief background: Born and raised in San Diego CA. Spent time in Orange County, Sacramento, Indiana (grad school), and Arizona (to thaw out from Indiana!). Lived and worked for seven years in the gorgeous Shenandoah Valley of Virginia before coming to Austin for work three years ago. As a lifelong left fielder, cultural dilettante, and free spirit, I love it here!

I am currently facing some life challenges due to chronic pain in the balls of my feet, which has limited my mobility and caused me to reevaluate what I want out of life and how I can best serve people and planet. I am humbly a work-in-progress. I am finding that, as long as I stay centered and remain in the moment, I can survive even the most jarring confluence of life circumstances; sometimes even gracefully. I have also had to learn-sometimes through baptism by fire-to trust in the abundance of the Universe.

I am blessed with a bevy of strengths, yet paradoxically, I have found that I grow stronger by allowing myself to be vulnerable; acknowledging-and if necessary, working on-my weaknesses. Though I am typically quite responsible, my soul is that of a wanderlust; a silly, childlike daydreamer who can take solace in my own little world, yet stay firmly rooted in the larger world. I am content to live a rather modest lifestyle in an upscaled consumerist society. I have my pop culture fixations, but tend to shun narrow pursuits. Five minutes with the Kardashians makes me violently ill. I rejoice in the presence of people who are comfortable being open with their feelings, who can give and receive freely, and ultimately, who are capable of accepting and loving unconditionally. I like to meditate, write, ride my bike (when my feet will let me), snuggle with my two cats (former rescue kittens who always need lots of lovin'), and network online with other chronic pain sufferers, whose courage and strength in the face of adversity inspires me and evokes wellsprings of compassion.

What makes my heart sing? A lush canopy of redwoods, a 40mph-plus downhill rush on my bike, a mind-bending novel, that moment of reckoning and reconciliation at the end of the movie when the tears start to flow, playing my djembe, processing thoughts in my journal, crafting witty or wry social commentary, and when my feet will allow it, shakin' my booty. ;-). At best I'm a 'hopeful romantic' seeking that special someone to share life's ups and downs; conversing, caring, sharing, understanding, holding, caressing, giggling, and simply being; ideally, being together while honoring the other's need for solitude.

But what really makes my heart swoon and my knees wobble is to experience the sheer ecstasy of a wild love affair in full bloom; basking awestruck in the magical glow that surrounds two lovers embracing on the seashore of the 'Isle of You', with wave after stupefying wave of passion crashing down upon them (cue the wistful 40s movie music lol...). Yes, love is blind as they say, and although I'm much wiser from experience, when the chemistry is right and that special spark happens, it is quite liberating to be able to suspend critical judgment and just be plain friggin' giddy about being in love. As the prophet Paul of Liverpool once said: "And what's wrong with thaaaaat. I need to knooooow. 'Cause here I goooooo. Agaaaaaaain!"
What I’m doing with my life
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Taking care of myself.
Letting my path reveal itself.
Fighting the good fight yet learning when to let go.
Gleaning daily lessons from the School of Everyday Life.
Seeking outlets for my creative impulses.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being sensitive....and still being a man
Being goofy
Doing whatever makes me feel alive
Being of service to my fellows
Singing to my cats
The first things people usually notice about me
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My height is the source of many comments, most of them typical, some of them annoying, but most all of which I take in stride. Every so often I actually hear something original. :-)
Also the way I carry myself.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Hesse, Kundera, Ishmael, Jack Kornfield, Don Miguel Ruiz, Aldous Huxley, Alan Watts, Thomas Frank, Noam Chomsky, the communist manifesto, and anything therapeutic, especially Jungian thought, transpersonal psychology, Buddhist psychology, and recovery literature. Also Fifty Shades of Grey (haven't even read it yet, but don't I look hip listing it here) ;-)
Movies: Pulp Fiction, Avatar, Inception, Idiocracy, Team America, Smart People, Blade Runner, and especially comedies endemic to my era: Caddyshack, Airplane, Animal House, and Better Off Dead. And Rodney Dangerfield was/is the best comedian ever, hands down. And SXSW film festival is awesome....I wish more of those films made it to distribution.
Shows: Breaking Bad, Californication, Mad Men, Rachel Maddow, Anderson Cooper, and I can be a weather channel junkie. And as I've 'gotten a life' over the years, I've pruned my sports tree down to an occasional basketball game, le Tour de France, and some NFL.
Music: Somewhat omnivorous. I like music with an edge to it; driving guitar-riff rock, bluesy rock, grunge, psychadelica, some techno, and occasionally hip-hop. Also ska, reggae, the dreamy textures of trip-hop, dance music, and funk. Not too much into country; if a band exceeds my 'twang-o-meter' threshold I'm just not down--although living in Austin is changing my tastes a bit (e.g. Ray Wylie Hubbard, Lucinda Williams, Meat Puppets).
Faves include The Red Hot Chili Peppers, Radiohead, Chemical Brothers, Massive Attack, DJ Shadow, Public Enemy, the Killers, Silversun Pickups, White Stripes, Calexico, Love and Rockets, Franz Ferdinand, Bonobo, Funkadelic, Sublime, Bob Marley, the Beatles, so-called 'classic rock' (Hendrix, Floyd, Zep, Sabbath), and especially the Clash. But I'm always looking for new avenues to explore.
Food: I love to cook, but my tastes are broader than my limited culinary repertoire. I love Indian, Thai, Ethiopian, Chinese, a good burger, and a greasy-spoon breakfast joint with a gluttonous chicken-friend steak. I must confess that I am a bit saturated with Mexy food right now (But Torchy's rocks!).
I start off most days with a blueberry-banana smoothie.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Probing beneath the surface
Cats Linus and Cali
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Mostly I think about what is presently in front of me. But I also think about why I am here and where I may be headed.
I also dream of a 'dream job,' a house on the beach somewhere in central California, and a perfect day in the sunshine on my bicycle.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Gettin my freak on! :-O...... (kidding....)
Nothing typical here. I'm equally comfortable in the domicile or out on the town. Depends on the company and the qualitative immediacy of the moment.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes sit down just to pee
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You value honesty, compassion, and loving kindness.
You like to hold and to be held.
You have a healthy sense of adventure and a taste for mystery.
You can revel in the spectacular yet find meaning in the mundane.
You understand that your suffering is ordinary in the grand scheme of things.
You can let go with the unbridled glee of a child.
You can find the silly in the serious.
You can broaden my horizons.
You have a healthy sense of desire.
You like back rubs.
You don't mind seeing a man emote.
You won't try to convince me that your God is better than mine.
You seek an equal.