I think one of the big things people do in being a couple is, as time goes by they get complacent, & usually without realizing what they're doing is TRY TO CHANGE their partner. I know a lot of you guys probably won't admit it & yes us females do this 2, maybe it's the natural shift of a relationship. I know guys r fixers & women r emotional & xpress themselves by talking. Well, what I want from a mate is not necessarily a sugar daddy but romantic, a take charge guy in the bedroom, an excellent lover, who wants to hang out together, go to movies, boating, museums, drives to the beach or just anywhere be spontaneous, enjoy life with, laid back, won't try to fix me I'm not broken, accept & love me 4 who & what I am and vice verse, 2 fit with me. Accepts my family, my work, a man who's ethical & emotionally strong knows what they want, mature yet, fun a good sense of humor, & playful. This sounds like not very possible but, I believe you are out there.
I grew up in Oakland CA, got my AA @ Chabot College in Hayward, CA. I've been married 3 X's & the last relationship I had lasted about 3 yrs. and was 2 1/2 yrs. ago. I really don't like using the word hate but, 4 lack of a better word people who r liars, cheats, or thieves r not welcome in my life. I lost "ME", many years ago on the way living my life. I have recently found me again & it took a long time & hard work 2 do this; 3 marriages, 3 divorces, 3 kids. I found I really like me, I'm a good person & I am unique and a special woman. I'm also a smoker & will quit when I'm ready......Think I'll b ready soon. If you think we share common interests message me!