I was married for 18 years and learned a lot, the poor girl paid the price for someones future bliss. I've been single long enough and don't want to go through a 12 step program to learn how to put the toilet seat down again. I'm not the playa type and thanks to a great mother I'm chivalrous and treat ladies as they should be, mom would haunt me if I didn't. I'm very much a sapiophile and looking for the needle in the haystack who's beautiful on the outside because she has it going on inside; Lets face it, pretty girls are dime a dozen, but beautiful with an inside that matches are a rare breed. I'm many peoples best friend; I'd like to find mine now.
Many times I think this site gets a bad rap. I am constantly amazed at the caliber of women I've met from around the world on this site. They are incredibly intelligent, strong and creative capable women who any guy would be lucky to have, including myself; but I'm going to be involved with some unique things in the near future that I feel might be best suited for someone who has some similar passions...and then they have to like me...yikes!!
I have many female friends and cherish my relationships with them, but I'm a chronic monogamist and those are honest words. I've never been lucky enough to be with a woman who wasn't jealous to some degree, or who didn't get bent because I'm never jealous, even the most beautiful and seemingly secure, even though I tried to make them feel like the only girl in the world. I know that makes it sound like I've made poor relationship choices, but honestly they were outstanding women. What makes it even sadder is that I'm loyal to a fault, and other than a few youthful indescretions in my 20's I have never cheated.
Much of the work I do is with incredible looking women, but thats just a part of the work and has nothing to do with my personal life. If you're someone who wastes energy on jealousy, you may want to pass and go with the juiced up guy that took a selfie in his BVDs in front of the mirror. I know what I want, and emotionally healthy. I've grown out of the ego-driven macho cave man phase. I believe in integrity and I have some old fashion values and morals that are my cornerstones ie; honesty, following through, meaning what you say and saying what you mean etc, but don't be fooled, I still have rock star type fun.
As I'm sure you know, many of the guys on this site will settle for the low hanging fruit, some even the rotten fruit that's fallen off. I'm more than willing to do the hard work and climb to the top of the tree for the best fruit, and hopefully you would be willing to do the same. If you couldn't tell I'm still very much a work in progress, but I don't really have much baggage and very aware of my faults. Although it may seem I'm on a hamster wheel I am very laid back and definitely take time to smell the roses and get my batteries recharged and simply enjoy being.
I am very optimistic, laugh often and find humor in most things. Through my rose colored glasses ANYTHING is possible. Finding someone who understands that and has a matching pair of glasses and knows how important humor is, is really necessary for me. Laughter is a gift that should never be taken for granted. I hope to find someone who knows that.
I'm looking for someone to travel and play outdoors with who will hopefully be interested in helping me with building a children's camp on the water front in north Edmonds that will also cater to kid's with challenges. We are also building a performing àrts center with a dinner show facility, and a state of the art music recording/production studio to work with the kid's . Professional musicial artists will also record there and sponsor a child with an instrument and help me teach the children how to play and perform in lieu of paying for studio time in a beautiful facility that overlooks the Puget Sound instead of the typical dungeon style studio that so many are used to recording in..
We're also going to work with abused children and women who may be stuck in some ugly situations and facilitate a way out from their keepers and hopefully help them to find their smile again providing transitional housing, a wellness center working with yoga, bio-resonance and many other things. We are also going to give them some fresh duds and a make over to help them to transition back into the work force. Either to one of our female owned businesses with an opportunity to own their own franchise, or back to the main stream. Many of the successful women who I'm working with who own their business came from really ugly situations.
I share all this because hopefully some of these things push your hot button too. Again, if your passions are in other areas it doesn't mean we will not be a good match. I get lot's of mail everyday from women who try and convince me that this is their thing. I tend to be pretty observant and good at reading between the lines. I notice that some kind of romanticize the idea of working with the different causes I've mentioned and talk themselves into thinking they could jump in with both feet and be fulfilled as they are writing. Maybe so, but we all have different things that push our hot button. Maybe helping animals is your thing, it's mine too, but there is more qualified people for that, maybe you, so please don't think if you don't have similar passions I wouldn't be interested, just as long as you're passionate about something, and above all honest. I can't stress enough how important honesty and trust is to me. I don't do so well with people who are not straight with me, or passionate about something. I can get on board with a lot of things. I actually enjoy learning about things I'm ignorant about...forever a student....maybe we could add it to our bag of tricks? I'm very open minded and not judgmental. So what are you passionate about?
I recently read this and it really resonated with me, especially at this stage of my life:
Don't spend major time with minor people. If there are people in your life that continually disappoint you, break promises, stomp on your dreams, too judgmental, have different values and don't have your back during difficult times...that is not a friend.The hardest battle in life is to be yourself in a world that tries hard, day and night, to make you like everyone else. Sometimes in life as you grow, your friends will either grow or go. Surround yourself with people who reflect solid values, great goals, varied interests and a lifestyle that is fruitful, positive and productive....
I'm attracted to sharp-intuitive-spiritual women who are givers. 2 takers will never make it. 1 giver and 1 taker will make it for a while, but 2 givers have a very good shot at going the distance, I am very much a giver. I like women who can laugh at themselves. Devoid of ego who are not pretentious, are honest, capable, whitty and humble who make me laugh even when not trying to. I've never been happier in my life and do whatever it takes to stay that way. I want someone who also can't wait to wake up each morning. I don't NEED my other half, I'm lucky enough to very much be whole...finally! :) It took a lot of work and awareness to get there. Not so sure enough of us understand how important it is to be whole before we seek happiness with someone else. 1+1=2 and two like-minded working as one while still retaining their individualality can be an incredibly powerful force. If you don't understand the difference and you're still looking for your other half, It's not likely I'll fit into that equation. Someone already whole in my life would be an incredible bonus though.
I got my plumbing license while in college, not because I'm a trend setter and knew sporting your butt-crack would become hip one day, but as a fail safe and I can build a house from top to bottom and enjoy designing, building and restoring one of a kind properties. You don't need to be that brand of capable, just the type that can think on your feet and wouldn't feel the need to call me crying hystariclly when the spring on your french press gets bent. If you know how to stop the toilet from running, or how to change a tire, I may build a shrine. But make no mistake, I am fully aware of who the stronger sex is, and I respect them much more than most guys do.
I got along with my mother very well.... for the more aware you know what that means. I stopped trying to "beat'em" and "joined'em" a long time ago...not so sure why it takes guys so long to figure out what is so obvious. Women are an amazingly powerful force that I am ever learning from and choose to work along side of..
Music has, is and will always be necessary to keeping a smile on my face. This is why I feel it's so very important to put it in children's path given many schools have cut the arts budget and something as unimportant as money should never be a reason to not experience music on any level.
I spend lots of time on my mtn bike and on Mt. Baker whether playing on my snowmobile or hiking in the summer with a good snowball fight in July. I enjoy anything in the snow or water. I'm very much a mountain and beach fanatic and enjoy island hopping in the San Juan's by boat. Any excuse to travel is a good one. Next year I plan on sailing to Hawaii like my grandparents did in 1953 (one of those weird middle-aged guy things). I hope to do it with someone who is on a similar spiritual journey who may have a similar hot button. Did I mention I'm a sucker for capable women? :)
I Love fine dining & hole in the walls. I also enjoy cooking and do well with others in the kitchen, as long as my cleaver and a glass of Merlot is at arms reach.
I like growing my own food and bit of a chronic gardener trying to escape the GMO food we are being poisoned with. I'm not legalistic or religious in any way. My interests are pretty eclectic. I thought I'd be retiring and building my Taj Mahol ranch in the hills at this stage of my life, but it looks like that will be put off for a few years..
I've met women who may have been a good fit for me if I wasn't tackling the things I've mentioned, but they are things I'm passionate about and know I need to tackle now that most my professional goals are behind me.
Honestly it's going to take a very unique soul to be my partner. I'm definitely not for the typical. I work crazy hours; sometimes around the clock when I'm excited about a new idea and sleep when I finally hit the wall. I've never been an 8-5 guy and always worked for myself. All that being said; I can easily lose myself in the serenity of working in the garden, music, wood working or a number of other hobbies I have.
I am so done with the serial Starbucks coffee meet thing. I just don't think you can give someone a fair chance drinking second rate coffee in the madness of Starbucks. Of course it's our nature to lift each others tail's, but sexy for me is something that resides between someones ear's and not just the physical stuff.
If you have a career you love I'll be your biggest fan and support all your dreams, but if you would like to participate in my little venture and feel we have a shot at forevermore, that would be great. I also desire a playmate who can eventually be spontaneous and willing to fly to some exotic place at the drop of a hat. Don't let having children still at home stop you; I do very well with almost all kid's. I actually frequently fight the urge to have another knowing it wouldn't be fair to the child. If you're the type that after finding out one of the guys from your favorite hair band in the 80s will be using the studio and you show up that day with big hair, spandex and feel the need to throw your panties with your phone number at them, we may have a problem ;)
I've usually been the best at what I do, and due in no small part to an outstanding woman at my side who was my partner and complete equal in every way. I also enjoy buying real estate and designing and restoring old one of a kind properties and treasure hunting for antiques and cool old things from yesterday. I try to support small business anyway I can, women now own 58% of all small business, but are still making 77 cents on the dollar compared to men. It's not right. Over 20 years ago I started to making a conscious choice to have female partners and it was the best choice I ever made. Not to say I don't work well with men too, but I stopped doing the country club business thing many years ago. I just came to a point where inflated egos were something I no longer had patience with, even though for many years I was certainly guilty of the same. I also started to feel guilty by association when most the guys conquests wore skirts that were not on their wives.
I'm into sports and need frequent endorphin fixes to think right, and I always need to be learning and challenging myself, it's just the way I'm wired. Go big, life is too short to go any other way. I've asked my past girlfriends what they liked about me and the ones that didn't say "nothing you loser", said being the right brand of unpredictable, and that they never got bored.
I like intuitive women who can communicate with a look and has the unique ability to walk into a room and everyone else becomes invisible to me. I'm hugely a creative type in almost every part of my life, and very much at my best when it's at full stride. I'm holding out till I fnd the same.
Hopefully your as comfortable in jeans and a Tee as you are in your LBD, a little tomboy and a whole lot of girlie-girl.
Someone who REALLY appreciates the outdoors and all of what the NW has to offer, and doesn`t just talk a good game. Someone who is an animal lover. Most importantly..I'm looking for my best friend, and someone who will always have my back. If you can make it to the top of Mt. Baker by snowmobile, we may just be picking out china patterns when we get back down. My only absolutes are honesty, trust and loyalty.
I'm looking for a lady with that something extra who won't settle for second best because I won't either. I will always have your back, treat you like a princess, be your biggest fan, best friend and support you in your dreams without jealousy or ego...and I mean it. If this makes sense to you, I would love to hear from you, even if I'm not your cup of tea and you would like to help with the kid's and women.
I like women over35 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:
A woman over 35 will never wake you in the middle of the night and ask, 'What are you thinking?' She doesn't care what you think.
If a woman over 35 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do, and it's usually more interesting...
Women over 35 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it.
Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated. Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 35.
Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 35 is far sexier than her younger counterpart. Older women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off if you are a jerk, if you are acting like one! You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.
Yes, we praise women over thirty five for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of thirty five-plus, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some twenty-two-year-old waitress.
Ladies, I apologize.
For all those men who say, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free,” here’s an update for you. Now 80 percent of women are against marriage, why? Because women realize it’s not worth buying an entire pig, just to get a little sausage..