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slappy42

40 M San Jose, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–47
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:23am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
i've never been too good at describing myself in narrative form, but bullet points seem to do okay, as long as i go for snippets... besides, the snippets tend to lead to stories, and stories do a better job of telling someone who i am than i would do on my own anyway.

- at this point, i've been divorced longer than I was married... but my divorce is going better than my marriage did, anyway, so i suppose that's a decent thing
- i'm still mystified that my daughter is a teenager, but again, i suppose that's what happens when that amount of time passes... thank goodness she's a good kid with minimal drama...
- i love living in california. every highway is a track meet, the weather is gorgeous, and people are more laid back. how did i not figure this out years ago?
- i don't feel my age. at all. what is 40 supposed to feel like, anyway? it does crack me up to talk to friends from college who are just having their kids NOW, though. i'm done with having children, and some of them are just starting the process... better them than me.

i am dichotomous, random, and loyal
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I used to say something pithy here about how I'm spending my life trying to remember how to have a life. It's sad but it's kinda true. I think somewhere along the line we forget how to just enjoy things, amid all the stressing to keep things together. Or maybe that's just me. But I don't think so.

I try to enjoy the little things, like breezes and coffee on a sunny morning in the back yard before going into work. A great song on the radio with a (largely) empty lane in front of me on the highway. Laughing at reports of heat and humidity being endured back east, where I left. ;)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
pub trivia
bad puns
homemade pizza
remembering random song lyrics
sarcasm
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
my lack of hair... the grey in the beard... my laugh or lopsided grin, i suppose...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
books: the hobbit, hitchhiker's guide to the galaxy, cryptonomicon, snow crash, neverwhere, american gods

movies: the princess bride, mirrormask, grosse pointe blank (LOVE john cusack, and most movies involving his sister, joan)... and i don't know that it's a favorite, but i have an uncanny ability to stumble across "the rock" (with sean connery and nicholas cage, not the wrestler guy) whenever it's on tv. oh, and i think i'm one of 12 people around who absolutely *LOVED* the Wachowski Brothers' take on Speed Racer

music: whatever happens to be on my ipod at any given time, coupled with whatever has come on my latest mix to be delivered... includes: lamb, ugly duckling, jump little children, roger clyne and the peacemakers, mighty mighty bosstones, they might be giants, r.e.m., eagles, jonathan coulton, tori amos... lately, spotify has been feeding my habits, and pandora still makes better playlists than I. Give it credit for...

food: it's all over the map, really... i've come to believe that most people i really dig love sushi, i could eat (good) mexican most every day, indian (what i know of it) is wonderful, thai is great and the spice makes me happy, italian is hard to go wrong... really, i like to eat... i'm trying to be more active, though, so the evidence of that like is less, well, evident... heh.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
connection
my family (including the pets)
music
sarcasm (mine and others')
sunlight
garlic
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
random things (edited):
-- specifics for the design of the tattoo i'll be getting this year... now i need to find the artist and save the $$$
-- what i have due at work tomorrow
-- what's for dinner
-- how i'll go about furnishing my new apartment
-- how difficult it sometimes is to avoid typing the words "more than a single fucking sentence" when messaging someone, because sometimes the smartass in me is NOT my friend.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
chilling with the puppies, biding time until having to pick up the kiddo from some function, unwinding just a little bit before the sprint of the weekend begins and all the stuff I didn't have time to get to over the week is waiting
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
it seriously disturbs me to see photos with children in them on this site.

sometimes i can be a very private person. except when i'm not.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you think you'd be interested in spending some time with me, and vice versa. you're not looking to have children. you're not looking to parent mine. you have a slightly off-center view of the area, or of life, or both.

heck... just say hi. what does either of us have to lose?