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31 New Haven, CT Man


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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
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Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
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Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Russian (Fluently), Polish (Poorly), Portuguese (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Just to clarify, my user name means "loves of Slavs," as in the ethnic group, as in Russians, Poles, Czechs, and the like. It was a political/intellectual movement in late Imperial Russia that became Panslavism, which sought to create a distinct Slavic society, distinct from the West. ...Or something.

Hmmm... Where to start?

Hi, I'm Ryan! In 2006, I completed the Foreign Language Education program at the University of Iowa in Iowa City, where I majored in Russian, Spanish, and Secondary Education, and minored in Political Science and History. I thought that I wanted to be a lawyer, but it turns out that I sort of want to keep my soul, so I went into education and never looked back.

I am very interested in languages and linguistics, specifically comparative linguistics and phonology. I'm Catholic but open-minded, and I have friends who come from all sorts of background and have a diverse set of beliefs, or lack thereof. I'm not judgmental, and have a wide variety of interests. I enjoy recreational reading, and am just as apt to read fiction as non-fiction.

As the fact I'm teaching might suggest, I am somewhat of a silent idealist and legitimately want to make a difference in people's lives. But when you think about it, deep down, all teachers are just frustrated comedians. After all, you can't beat a captive audience for eight-plus hours a day.

Ultimately, I would like to be a professor of comparative linguistics or historical linguistics. I'm also very approachable, and I don't mind random people talking to me.

I am calm, curious, and wanderlusty?
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm currently a doctoral student at Yale, where I'm starting a Ph.D. program in Linguistics. I'm very excited about it, as it's something I've been wanting for a very long time. I'd like to work with language revitalization and language documentation to help document and preserve dying languages around the United States and the world at large.

I just finished teaching at a charter high school in Chicago in the Hermosa neighborhood, where I taught Russian, AP Spanish Language, and AP Spanish Literature. Prior to that, I was at a different, shall we say, "less strict" high school in Chicago, where I had to deal with a lot of season 4 of "The Wire"-type stuff.
I’m really good at
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Remembering everything I'm told. I can remember precise details of conversations almost verbatim. This, I think, is my greatest skill, because it helps me to do a lot of other things, like learn languages.

I'd also like to say that I'm a good cook (and baker). I'm pretty good at both, which for whatever reason seems to be a rarity. People are either cooking people or baking people. I'm just a bit of both, it seems.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I tend to listen to people more when I first meet them, so some folks might initially think that I'm a quiet guy. It's sort of my way of sizing people up, I guess. It's not because I'm super shy or anything; I just want to know who I'm talking to. And then after that, I will talk and be goofy and all that jazz.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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(A) Books "Snow Crash" by Neal Stephenson "Ender's Game" by Orson Scott Card "Hardboiled Wonderland and the End of the World" by Haruki Murakami "The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle" by Haruki Murakami "The Lord of the Rings" by J.R.R. Tolkien "The Foundation Trilogy" by Isaac Asimov "A Song of Fire and Ice" by George R. R. Martin "El ingenioso hidalgo don Quixote de la Mancha" by Miguel de Cervantes "Crime and Punishment" by Fyodor Dostoevsky "Eugene Onegin" by Alexander Pushkin "El porqué de las cosas" by Quim Monzó "Los mares del sur" by Manuel Vázquez Montalbán "Faust" by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

(B) Movies "The Lord of the Rings Trilogy" "Salton Sea" "The Adventures of Baron von Munchausen" "Time Bandits" "12 Monkeys" "Brazil" "The Big Lebowski" "Seven" "Stigmata" "Coming to America" "Enemy at the Gates" "Who Framed Roger Rabbit?" all the "Pink Panther" movies (except the Peter Sellers-less ones) "Burnt by the Sun" (Russian) "Sadko" (Russian) "Brother" (Russian) "Adam's Rib" (Russian) "The Return" (Russian) "Diamond Hand" (Russian) "Prisoner of the Caucasus" (Russian) "Ravens" (Polish) "The Triplets of Belleville" (French/Canadian) "Empire of the Wolves" (French) "Zatoichi" (Japanese)

(C) Music Led Zeppelin, CCR, Pink Floyd, David Bowie, Neil Young, Bob Dylan, Johnny Cash, Roy Orbison, Peter Gabriel, The Doors, Cannonball Adderley, Beck, George Clinton, They Might Be Giants, and many, many more. As I already said, so long as it's not twangy-as-twang-can-be Country or my-ass-recorded-this-in-jail Hip-Hop, I'm pretty much game.

(D) Food I really like a lot of Asian cuisines: Japanese, Chinese (especially Szechuan), and Korean. I'm also a big fan of Greek, Italian, or just plain old pan-Mediterranean cooking. Every so often, I get a hankering for Russian food, especially in the Fall and Winter. I'm starting a foray into Indian cooking, though there are a lot of differences in regional cooking styles, which I'm still learning.
The six things I could never do without
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1) The internet- I am constantly looking things up, and Google and Wikipedia are probably the two greatest things since sliced bread for me.

2) Books- As is sort of evident from my "Favorites" section, I am sort of a bibliophile (no, I don't have to meet with a parole officer for that...yet). Granted, there are plenty of books out there I haven't read, but for the most part, I'm just apt to read anything that for me seems worth reading.

3) Blank pieces of paper- I write recreatively sometimes, and while I would never consider having anything published that I've written so far, it's still something I like to do.

4) Cookbooks- I'm a foodie, and I really like to cook, so I try a lot of new recipes.

5) My computer- All my songs are on my computer. And given the fact it's a laptop, I basically use it around the house as my own mobile entertainment system.

6) My passport - I'm (un)fortunately addicted to traveling. I've lived in Russia, traveled around Central America, and driven around Ireland, taken a cruise to the Bahamas, and that's only the beginning, as far as I'm concerned. I'd love to explore Northern Africa or Southeast Asia sometime. My dream is to visit Brazil and Cuba, and at least one of them is going to happen next year, since I'll be traveling to Brazil for a week with some coworkers. I've had malaria pills and yellow fever vaccinations, I have had all manner of Hep shots and who knows what else. Add this to the fact I work in a germ factory (a.k.a. a school), and I feel I have the immune system to stand up to the strangest diseases. I laugh at H1N1; I laugh right in its face.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The kids I teach/taught.

One time when I was student-teaching, as I was exiting the school, one of my students was driving by to get out of the parking lot in his SUV, listing to Journey's "Wheel in the Sky (Keeps on Turning)" WAAAAY too loud. We made eye contact, and he immediately lowered his eyes in shame and turned his music off entirely.

I know the feeling.

When I'm not rolling my eyes at the antics of the one-day leaders of the Free World, I am thinking about the future. I have a lot of different interests, and as such, have a lot of options.

Since I teach Russian, I have to make up all my own materials, because there really aren't any resources for Russian teachers (when compared to Spanish, which has gazillions of resources). A huge amount of my time has been trying to figure out what to do with my students. It's not just walking in and going, "repeat after me...!" for 90 minutes. That would be really, really boring, and not useful. I'm always looking for activities to do during class.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Watching episodes of "The Wire" or "30 Rock," or some other TV show I have no time to watch during the week, or calling around to see what people are up to. I'm fairly chill about this kind of stuff.

Sometimes I go out with people from work and have a beer or two. Other times, I'm content to just hang out and watch movies. I'm lucky enough to have friends taking classes at Second City, so every so often, that's where I'll be, watching a show. I'm pretty open to doing things.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was groped pretty thoroughly on a crowded subway car in Russia. By a dude. It was pretty lame.

Also, I completely lack the ability to smile on command. That sort of explains the smirk in a lot of my pictures, because I have to be caught in the middle of a laugh for me to be smiling in a picture. If I'm told to smile, I end up psyching myself out, and it just won't look right. Just a little weird. Just a little.
You should message me if
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You're looking for someone to hang out with, or are looking for something a little more serious than hanging out. Just bear in mind, if one of your 3 adjectives to describe yourself is "fergalicious," I won't really know how to read that. But we'll see...