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38 San Mateo, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 32–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

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5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Has kids

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My self-summary
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I am easy going and down to earth with a great sense of humor and a sharp wit. I appreciate genuine, honest relationships and experiences. Shiny things are fun but ultimately my priorities center around family, friends and community.

In relationships, I'm warm, encouraging, and emotionally engaged. I love to support my partner and feel supported in return.

I'm a nature lover, animal lover, food lover....a lover of all things that celebrate life. That's not totally true; I probably won't love your cat (and judging from the photos a lot of you have cats). I'm really a dog person; I will pretend to like your cat though.

Being outdoors always appeals to me. I can't go too long without a camping trip. I feel most alive when I'm out in nature.

I'm a former athlete and military vet rediscovering my passion for fitness. Love weight training but learning that yoga can be fun (who would have thought) and have set a distance goal (even though I don't enjoy running....yet).
What I’m doing with my life
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After reading these profile, I realize I'm doing the same stuff ya'll are doing: spending time with friends & family, concerts, dinners, etc.

I've traveled a great deal. I don't think that makes me cool (and I don't have a photo of myself with a tiger) but it continues to be central in my life. I've fallen in love with each place in some way or another.

I'm plotting my escape from the 9-5. I have a great career but I think I was meant to be a gypsy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Connecting with people, being creative, working out, being a friend, math and science, inventing games, really bad dance moves, making up words, building campfires (seriously, I amaze myself with my talent for starting campfires), brushing my teeth, rock-paper-scissors....all the important stuff.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile (n=1)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Good Earth, Crazy Brave,
Authors: Herman Hesse, Milan Kundera, Noam Chomsky, Bell Hooks

I don't watch much t.v. but I do love Archer, Louie, Breaking Bad, Downton Abbey (those dresses are amazing!!)

I am a sucker for documentaries. I'll even watch the bad ones. I realized this when a friend made a documentary about parrot owners and I found it enjoyable. I think it comes from my interest in life, people and the different ways of living and relating.

I also like Fight Club, Big Lebowski, Four Rooms, Into the Wild, Oh Brother Where Art Thou, Princess Bride, Kill Bill, almost anything by Wes Anderson.

Avetts, Valerie June, Radiohead, Fugazi, Bon Iver, Lord Huron, XX, Sigur Ros, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Pixies...too many to list.

Thai, Korean, Indian, sushi, Ethiopian, soul good food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I would never want to live without:
1) the people I love
2) laughter (nervous laughter, belly laughs, sleep deprivation induced laughter, hysterical baby laughs...makes me smile just thinking about it)
3) the outdoors (especially a warm beach during a full moon)
4) possibility
5) a willingness to blow off some rules
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Actually, I have spent a lot of time lately trying not to think too much. I am a pretty smart cookie and after years of developing my intellect, I realized I needed a more balanced relationship with the world. After years of over-thinking, I have put great effort into NOT intellectualizing everything. Art and music and emotional experiences have become more central in my life.

Why so many men look clinically depressed (like the 'before' images in an antidepressant ad) in their OKC photos. Cheer up guys!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Wrestling alligators
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was once trapped in an elevator with a stranger. I did almost everything they tell you not to do because my elevator buddy was having a panic attack. Almost everything...there was no bathroom corner established (assuming that's a recommendation). We got out quickly enough and no one was cut in half by a plunging car. FYI, the "alarm" button is not as useful as one might think.
You should message me if
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You've unloaded your baggage and cleaned out your closet. I'm a "what you see, is what you get kind girl.

You know who you are and can be at peace in the world.

You are intelligent, compassionate, soulful and healthy.

You are stuck in an elevator.

I don't want to be negative but I'd like to avoid certain types of messages So, to save your time, and mine, don't bother messaging me if you are: 1) looking to add folks to your open relationship, 2) on this 50 shades bandwagon and you fancy yourself some kind of "Master", 3) in your 20s, 4) looking for a hook-up.