Quite extensive traveling and work abroad helped me to overcome most of cultural and upbringing-induced narrow-mindedness and bigotry. I was happy while working in Spain, Germany or Poland and survived using smile and just a few words in native languages. As they say " People who wear smiles have friends. People who wear frowns have wrinkles". It works for me.
Bay Area resident since 1995 and love it because in this climate I can wear my favorite high heels and shortish skirts all year around.
The long stretches of survival of the fittest (kindest - for humans and primates, according to C. Darwin and D. Keltner) have taught me important lesson:" Be your-self no matter what they say" (stolen from Sting's song)....
Here is one of my favorite quotes ( there are so many people much smarter than me):
"Perhaps the most indispensable thing we can do as human beings, every day of our lives, is remind ourselves and others of our complexity, fragility, finitness, and uniqueness" ( A. Damasio).
Is this just a wishful thinking or a new paradigm is evolving?