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  • Ages 26–40
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Last online
Yesterday – 5:58pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), C++ (Poorly)
My self-summary
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tldr version: expat San Franciscan + software developer + movie buff.

Longer version for those interested (in case 7 words just isn't enough for you to make up your mind):

I came east for college (in Philadelphia), bounced around the PA/NJ area for a few years and found myself caught New York's tractor beam. I moved to downtown Jersey City almost 5 years ago and I love it here.

I've been a software developer for 8 years now, and after a few stints at various companies (some worthwhile, some less worthwhile), I've landed at a really cool startup. It's not one of the crappy ones that's a social network for hamsters or something, it's a really good one with a positive effect on society. I realize that I may be just a cog in a machine, but it's an awesome machine, so I'm fine with it.

I love going to the movies. I probably go once a week, and sometimes more. Let's just say that one of the reasons I chose my current apartment was that it was within walking distance of a movie theater.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to come up with good ideas for things to make/build. Mostly failing to follow through on the actual making/building part. The idea part is much more fun.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reverse-engineering things. Within 5 minutes of starting to use OKCupid, I was already thinking about how it worked under the hood.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
In all honesty, it's probably the shaved head. It has a tendency to reflect light in interesting ways (I have yet to figure out a way to use this to my advantage).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: As a rule of thumb, I mostly listen to rock music made before I was born. Beatles, Stones, Zeppelin, Clapton, etc. Not exclusively though. Lately I've been trying to listen to some stuff in the top 20 list on Spotify just to know what the hell everyone is talking about.

TV: I'm a religious Daily Show watcher. I also like The Simpsons (yes, even the modern day episodes), Archer, Brooklyn Nine Nine, and a bunch of others too. As far as shows that are over and done with, I'm a big fan of Futurama, Arrested Development, 30 Rock, and Breaking Bad.

Movies: There's far too many to fit here. My top 3 are: Almost Famous, The Usual Suspects, and The Matrix. I could probably spend hours making a list of favorite movies.

Books: I read mostly non-fiction. I like everything Michael Lewis has written (Moneyball, Liar's Poker, The Blind Side, etc.), Ender's Game, Snowcrash, and plenty of others. Most recently I've read Amy Poehler's "Yes Please" and Jon Ronson's "So You've Been Publicly Shamed".

Food: There's no one particular kind of food I like best. I am a fairly adventurous eater though; if I see something on a menu that I've never tried before, there's a good chance I'll order it. This has produced mixed results, but I strike gold often enough that it ends up being worth it. The strangest thing I've ever eaten was the cow knee at Gahm Mi Oak in Koreatown (I don't think I'd order that again), and the best thing I've ever eaten was fatty tuna at a Japanese restaurant in Philadelphia (I didn't even have to use my teeth. It melted on my tongue).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Feedly: I'm not sure what I'd do without a constant drip feed of news and stuff to read. The site was down for a day or two, and I got all twitchy.
Assorted gadgetry (iDevices, various computers, etc.): Pretty important for my work. And also, SOOO SHINY.
Podcasts: They make commuting feel like less of a waste of time.
Public transit: I'm never living in a place where a car is required again.
Good walking shoes: Until I can get people to cart me around like Cleopatra, this is pretty important.
... and a sixth thing (seems lazy to put something here that I ACTUALLY can't live without, like food or shelter or oxygen or something, so I'm leaving it blank.)

(Also, I'm pretty sure that this question implicitly means "what 1st world luxury items can't you live without", so I answered accordingly. I mean, the whole paved-roads-and-running-water thing is important and all, but you know ... iPhone.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whether other guys on OKCupid have poisoned the well. From what I gather from reading profiles, a lot of guys essentially send out absurd amounts of gross, cookie cutter spam messages to any woman with a pulse (and I'm sure to women without pulses too) hoping to get one response in a thousand. It makes me pessimistic about whether anything I say actually gets through.

If I'm right about this, I'd like to retroactively apologize for my entire gender. The offenders will be punished due time once they realize that they peaked in high school. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Decompressing from the workweek, either at happy-hour or at home in front of the television (sometimes you just need to shut your brain off).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You know that one friend you have that always capitalizes and punctuates all their text messages? I'm that guy.

I also get uneasy when people don't close their parentheses when they write. I mean, how am I supposed to know when their parenthetical is over?
You should message me if
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You want to, I guess. I won't bite. (Also, this is an online service, so it's technically impossible for me to bite.)