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slowwgraffiti

23 Whittier, NC Cis Woman

Cis Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Queer
Ethnicity
Native American, Hispanic / Latin, White
Height
5′ 2″ (1.58m)
Body Type
Used up
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Desperately
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Politics / Government
Income
Status
Single
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Actually human spaghetti, not yr whimsy goddess.

I'm Patricia. I'm a sucker for ephemeral pop music, freshly pressed garments, subtle shoulder pads, and women writers of color. I like abstract expressionism, reading in the bathtub, putting sad country western music on the jukebox in places that usually only play bangerzzzz (It really upsets people and that's funny to me because I'm the worst), single malt scotch, long walks with my pup, foggy mountain desolation, and maybe you. Sexist jerkoffs need not apply, not that they'll listen to me anyway. I'll be the Joe Fox to your Kathleen Kelly if you write something good. I'm not painfully earnest enough to identify with Meg Ryan.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
What follows is a litany of gerunds that may or may not clarify anything pertinent about what I actually spend my time doing.

That is, writing, reading, learning, trying to self-actualize in a manner that would allow me to answer the question "What do you do?" without having to think about it so much, eschewing the affectations that come with being learned in critical theory and the humanities in favor of being a Person in the World, probably killing my liver, taking naps in inappropriate places, leering at mid-century modern furniture on Craigslist, posting Mariah Carey videos on Facebook, and other things that are equally boring (????).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
cooking, baking, talking to strangers, being absolutely direct in my language, writing letters, making lists, staying absolutely still and absolutely nude in front of complete strangers while they draw me, singing to folks in the car, making mix CDs and thoughtful gifts, being clumsy and generally embarrassing myself constantly, memorizing random facts, losing one half of every set of earrings I own, being late to everything all the time (Saint Patricia, Our Lady of Perpetual Tardiness), handy human things, and ball busting. Frankness, kindness, openness, getting to the truth of things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It's rather exhausting to try to suppose anything at all about other people's intentions or perceptions and I'm no longer in a place where I want to pretend to know, but I'm certain I have a very firm handshake and that's probably enough.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
None of these lists are exhaustive, but maybe they are. I don't know. I find all of these things indispensable, literally cannot parse through and rank them even when I try, even when I problematize them because golly are some of these soooo problematic. That probably says more about me than any of these lists will.

Books: Middlesex, White Noise, Americanah, Delta of Venus, Breakfast of Champions, Fun Home, Blue Nights, The Year of Magical Thinking, The Easter Parade, Blankets, The History of Sexuality: Volume One, Crush, Bastard Out of Carolina, Antigone, Goethe's Faust, Woman, Native, Other, Being There, Strike Sparks, The Best American Erotic Poems: 1800s to the Present, The Zigzag Way, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, The Pleasure of Cooking for One, A Light in the Attic, 15 Views of Orlando. All things bell hooks, José Muñoz, Flannery O'Connor, Michael Cunningham, Gloria Anzaldúa, Adrienne Rich, Cixous. Currently reading a wine-soaked advance reading copy of The Light of the World, a forthcoming memoir by Elizabeth Alexander. Frankly, I try to be fair-minded, but I'm quite skeptical of all men who only list books written by male writers in their favorites ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Movies (short list): Kicking and Screaming (1995), Adaptation, Enter the Void, Wizards, Blue Velvet, Duck Soup, Eastern Promises, Don't Look Now, Deconstructing Harry, Love and Death, Fellini's Amarcord, Hiroshima mon amour, Double Indemnity, Before Sunrise/Sunset/Midnight, Weekend, Rosemary's Baby, Boyz N the Hood, Rashomon, Spice World, the Evil Dead trilogy, Fargo, Last Tango in Paris, Coffee and Cigarettes, Arsenic and Old Lace, It Happened One Night, The Graduate, Mulholland Drive, Bringing Up Baby, Sabrina, Paris When It Sizzles, Taxi Driver, Cinema Paradiso, Manhattan Murder Mystery, Manhattan, Sleeper, Funny Girl, Harold and Maude, A Very Long Engagement, Suspiria, North by Northwest, Vertigo, Notorious, Rear Window, An American in Paris, Roman Holiday, Barry Lyndon, Full Metal Jacket, Being John Malkovich, The Omen, Reality Bites, You've Got Mail, Leaving Las Vegas, The Lair of the White Worm, Goodfellas, The Departed, Clue, The Cat Returns, We Need to Talk About Kevin, The Bodyguard, Boogie Nights, The Last Days of Disco, The Goonies, Wayne's World, Frances Ha, Shut Up and Play the Hits, Singles, Beetlejuice, Addams Family Values, Heathers, Serial Mom, Dogfight, Mystic Pizza, Romy and Michele's High School Reunion, A Fish Called Wanda, Blue is the Warmest Color, Obvious Child, Wetlands, Nymphomaniac, Flawless, A Late Quartet, Particle Fever, Inside Llewyn Davis, High Society, The Last Waltz, Wild Combination: A Portrait of Arthur Russell, Gerhard Richter Painting, Short Cuts.

TV: Breaking Bad, Mad Men, Orange is the New Black, The League, Lost, Bored to Death, Game of Thrones, Felicity, Freaks and Geeks, The Golden Girls, Parks and Rec, Twin Peaks, Big Love, Veep, Bob's Burgers, House of Cards, The X-Files, Laverne & Shirley. When I was in college, I wrote a ten page paper for my Advanced Feminist Theories class which was at the time hastily titled "Skyler White, Queen of My Heart," if that gives you an idea of how much I love Breaking Bad, and I am unashamed to say that Felicity helped me through one of the most traumatic periods of my adult life, so here we are, I guess. Whatever, fuck it, I only care about Malcolm in the Middle, tbh.

Music (short list): Arthur Russell, Nina Simone, John Cale, The Modern Lovers, Robyn Hitchcock, Judee Sill, Julia Holter, ABBA, Sparks, Low, Antony & the Johnsons, Galaxie 500, Angel Olsen, Grace Jones, Sinéad O'Connor, Billy Bragg, Belle and Sebastian, Carissa's Wierd, Built to Spill, Simon & Garfunkel, Archers of Loaf, The Weakerthans, Pedro the Lion, Nick Cave & the Bad Seeds, Mariah Carey, Whitney Houston, Kath Bloom, Björk, Mount Eerie, Elliott Smith, The Microphones, M. Ward, Mirah, Joni Mitchell, Tammy Wynette, Vashti Bunyan, Lydia Mendoza, Rilo Kiley, The Staples Singers, Sibylle Baier, Lydia Loveless, Elvis Costello, Prince, Sparklehorse, KMD, Hüsker Dü, Pavement, The Replacements, Neil Young, Neko Case, My Bloody Valentine, Slowdive, Pulp, Lush, Slint, Codeine, Can, Beat Happening, Joanna Newsom, The Postmarks, Anaïs Mitchell, Television, Sleater-Kinney, Talulah Gosh, Sam Cooke, Funkadelic, PJ Harvey, Björk, Marissa Nadler, Cap'n Jazz, American Football, Rainer Maria, Prince, Portishead, The Promise Ring, De La Soul, Black Sheep, Guided by Voices, Kurt Vile, The Clean, Yo La Tengo, Tom Tom Club, Asobi Seksu, Devendra Banhart, Cat Power, Vivian Girls, Julie Doiron, The B-52s, Blondie, The Magnetic Fields, Tom Waits, Martha Wainwright, Leonard Cohen, Fleetwood Mac, J. Mascis, Waxahatchee, Mount Moriah, LCD Soundsystem, FKA twigs, Mazzy Star, Dolly Parton, Chet Baker, Chelsea Wolfe, Swans, Grass Widow, True Widow, Grouper, Smog, Deerhoof, Kirsty MacColl, Karen Dalton, Mary Lou Lord, Harold Budd, Townes Van Zandt, Patsy Cline, Kitty Wells, The Big Pink, Drop Nineteens, The Breeders, Chad VanGaalen, Erykah Badu, The Cure, Aphex Twin, David Lang, Savages, How to Dress Well, Mekons, The Field Mice, Joanna Gruesome, Twin Shadow, Psychic TV, Dusty Springfield, Bronski Beat, Erasure, Baths, Sky Ferreira, Deafheaven, Oneohtrix Point Never, Laurel Halo, Wet, Perfume Genius, Linda Perhacs, TOPS, Moonface, Boards of Canada, Nils Frahm, Peter Broderick, Mark Kozelek, Sharon Van Etten, Make Up, Nat Baldwin, Emmylou Harris, Dionne Warwick, Jenny Hval, Lizzy Mercier Descloux, Larkin Grimm, Kyle Hall, Morphine, Laura Nyro, Lucrecia Dalt, Imperial Teen, Fatima Al Qadiri, The Stone Roses, Ceremony, Xenia Rubinos, Peter Matthew Bauer, Iris DeMent.

Food: Fuck. Oysters every way, hot wings, lamb, pho, all of the cruciferous vegetables, Sonoran hot dogs, tamales, raw lasagna, Maille dijon, panang curry, collard greens, chirashi, Black Russian bagels, the buffet at Woodlands, avocados, chia pudding, dark chocolate. All things salty and herbaceous and overwrought. I had one great experience with a bacon-wrapped goat cheese stuffed jalapeño and one terrible one where I ended up with my mouth under the faucet in my kitchen feeling as though I'd been betrayed by a lover. I'm not the same.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My asceticism increases week to week. I'm not sure I have six things anymore.

- Reliable Internet access.
- Cheese and good loaf of bread, refreshed once a week.
- A good book to stave off vestigial social anxiety.
- Mementos of my dead grandmother, the maudlin soul I am.

Consumption and more consumption. Oh well, okay.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Institutional -isms, micro-aggressions, funeral arrangements, what I'm having for dinner, why my tastes make me seem like a junior at Evergreen State in the late 90s, how much I wish a lounge singer would romance me with Roy Orbison covers, and other things that make no sense. I'm honestly fairly work-obsessed and I dedicate a huge percentage of my mental energies towards figuring out how to be a better organizer and build community more effectively and all that trite leftist garbage. It's annoying how much I talk about it, oops, not really sorry. To say I'm a feminist through and through would be a redundancy, but perhaps it bears repeating. Mostly contemplating the perpetual in-betweenness of being an idiot twenty-something.

"It takes guts to be gentle and kind."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with my de facto boyfriend, an eight year old Weimaraner heartbreaker doggy genius named Haans. I'm a recent transplant from a big swamp to the hinterlands, so my "typical" is still fairly insular.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've been told I suffer from "paralysis by analysis," so take that as you will. I wish I could make all of this a long photo essay to explain to you how I really feel. Most of this doesn't mean anything. Most everything ((here)) is a joke I tell myself, showing, not telling, with a curious dearth in adjectives ascribed.
You should message me if
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Just tell me something I haven't heard before and I guess we'll be square. I'll talk your ear off about some or another thing, too many thoughts trailing off with too many words, and you might like it or maybe not. Isn't that just the way it goes? Anyhow, we probably won't get along very well if you don't support a fairly radical approach to social justice or if you don't like my dumb jokes, but boy, what a time it could be to try! (I probably won't try.)

Oh, and if you know anything about wheel throwing and wanna reenact that scene from Ghost!! Just kidding, but I really do want to start making pottery and ceramics, so I guess I'm not joking? It's a mystery even to me! Or if you wanna talk about how the new Mount Eerie record made all yr drone dreams come true, but that's probably a bigger long shot than meeting THE REAL Patrick Swayze on OkCupid. Hyperbole and then some, but you get it.