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23 • Whittier, NC • Cis Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 21–40
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Online now!
- Native American, Hispanic / Latin, White
- 5′ 2″ (1.58m)
- Body type
- Used up
- Strictly anything
- Atheism, and laughing about it
- Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from university
- Mostly non-monogamous
- Has dogs and has cats
- English (Poorly)
That is, writing, reading, learning, tending to a small but growing family of succulent bbs, making the most of suddenly living in the middle of fucking nowhere, eschewing the affectations that come with being learned in critical theory and the humanities in favor of being a Person in the World, probably killing my liver, leering at mid-century modern furniture on Craigslist, loving my dog forever, trying to pick and stick to a hobby because I've never really had one before, posting Mariah Carey videos on Facebook, and other things that are equally boring (????).
Books: Middlesex, White Noise, Americanah, Delta of Venus, Breakfast of Champions, Fun Home, Blue Nights, The Year of Magical Thinking, The Easter Parade, The History of Sexuality: Volume One, Crush, Bastard Out of Carolina, In Watermelon Sugar, Antigone, Goethe's Faust, Woman, Native, Other, Being There, Strike Sparks, The Best American Erotic Poems: 1800s to the Present, The Zigzag Way, The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao, The Pleasures of Cooking for One, A Light in the Attic, 15 Views of Orlando. All things bell hooks, José Muñoz, Flannery O'Connor, Michael Cunningham, Gloria Anzaldúa, Adrienne Rich, Cixous. Currently reading A Personal Matter (Kenzaburo Oe), The Penelopiad (Margaret Atwood), and Manual of Woody Plants (Phil Cordelli). I choose which to read based on where I am, what kind of mood I'm in, and what I'm doing otherwise. This system nearly guarantees that I never finish anything, but occasionally, I beat the odds. Frankly, I try to be fair-minded, but I'm quite skeptical of all men who only list books written by male writers in their favorites. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Movies (short list): Kicking and Screaming (1995), Adaptation, Enter the Void, Wizards, Blue Velvet, Duck Soup, Eastern Promises, Don't Look Now, Deconstructing Harry, Love and Death, Fellini's Amarcord, Hiroshima mon amour, Double Indemnity, You're Next, Before Sunrise/Sunset/Midnight, Weekend, Rosemary's Baby, Rashomon, Spice World, the Evil Dead trilogy, Fargo, Last Tango in Paris, Coffee and Cigarettes, Arsenic and Old Lace, It Happened One Night, The Graduate, Mulholland Drive, Bringing Up Baby, Taxi Driver, Cinema Paradiso, Manhattan Murder Mystery, Funny Girl, Harold and Maude, A Very Long Engagement, Suspiria, North by Northwest, Vertigo, Notorious, Rear Window, An American in Paris, Roman Holiday, Barry Lyndon, Full Metal Jacket, Being John Malkovich, The Omen, Reality Bites, You've Got Mail, Leaving Las Vegas, The Lair of the White Worm, Goodfellas, The Departed, Clue, The Cat Returns, We Need to Talk About Kevin, The Bodyguard, Boogie Nights, The Last Days of Disco, The Goonies, Wayne's World, Frances Ha, Shut Up and Play the Hits, Singles, Beetlejuice, Addams Family Values, Heathers, Serial Mom, Dogfight, Mystic Pizza, Romy and Michele's High School Reunion, A Fish Called Wanda, Blue is the Warmest Color, Obvious Child, Wetlands, Nymphomaniac, Flawless, A Late Quartet, Particle Fever, Inside Llewyn Davis, High Society, The Last Waltz, Wild Combination: A Portrait of Arthur Russell, Gerhard Richter Painting, Short Cuts, The Cook, The Thief, His Wife, and Her Lover.
TV: Breaking Bad, Mad Men, Orange is the New Black, The League, Lost, Bored to Death, True Detective, Game of Thrones, Felicity, Freaks and Geeks, The Golden Girls, Parks and Rec, Twin Peaks, Big Love, Veep, Bob's Burgers, House of Cards, The X-Files, Laverne & Shirley. When I was in college, I wrote a ten page paper for my Advanced Feminist Theories class which was at the time hastily titled "Skyler White, Queen of My Heart," if that gives you an idea of how much I love Breaking Bad, and I am unashamed to say that Felicity helped me through one of the most traumatic periods of my adult life, so here we are, I guess. Whatever, fuck it, I only care about Malcolm in the Middle, tbh.
Music (short list): Arthur Russell, Nina Simone, John Cale, The Modern Lovers, Robyn Hitchcock, Judee Sill, Julia Holter, Julianna Barwick, ABBA, Sparks, Low, Antony & the Johnsons, Galaxie 500, Angel Olsen, Grace Jones, Sinéad O'Connor, Billy Bragg, Belle and Sebastian, Carissa's Wierd, Built to Spill, Simon & Garfunkel, Archers of Loaf, The Weakerthans, Pedro the Lion, Nick Cave & the Bad Seeds, Mariah Carey, Whitney Houston, Kath Bloom, Mount Eerie, Elliott Smith, The Microphones, M. Ward, Mirah, Joni Mitchell, Tammy Wynette, Vashti Bunyan, Elvis Costello, Sparklehorse, KMD, Hüsker Dü, Pavement, Stereolab, The Replacements, Neil Young, Neko Case, My Bloody Valentine, Slowdive, Pulp, Lush, Slint, Codeine, Can, Beat Happening, Joanna Newsom, Television, Son Lux, The Spinanes, Talulah Gosh, Sam Cooke, Funkadelic, PJ Harvey, Björk, Marissa Nadler, Jawbreaker, Cap'n Jazz, Rainer Maria, Prince, Portishead, The Promise Ring, De La Soul, Black Sheep, Guided by Voices, Kurt Vile, The Clean, Yo La Tengo, Asobi Seksu, Devendra Banhart, Cat Power, Julie Doiron, The B-52s, Blondie, The Magnetic Fields, Martha Wainwright, Leonard Cohen, J. Mascis, Waxahatchee, Mount Moriah, LCD Soundsystem, FKA twigs, Mazzy Star, Dolly Parton, Chet Baker, Chelsea Wolfe, Swans, Grass Widow, True Widow, Pharmakon, Grouper, Smog, Karen Dalton, Mary Lou Lord, Harold Budd, Brian Eno, Cocteau Twins, Townes Van Zandt, Patsy Cline, Drop Nineteens, The Breeders, Chad VanGaalen, Erykah Badu, Aphex Twin, David Lang, Savages, How to Dress Well, Joanna Gruesome, Twin Shadow, Dusty Springfield, Bronski Beat, Erasure, Baths, Sky Ferreira, Deafheaven, Heavenly, Oneohtrix Point Never, Laurel Halo, Perfume Genius, Linda Perhacs, Boards of Canada, Nils Frahm, Peter Broderick, Mark Kozelek, Sharon Van Etten, Nat Baldwin, Emmylou Harris, Dionne Warwick, Jenny Hval, Lizzy Mercier Descloux, Larkin Grimm, Lucrecia Dalt, The Stone Roses, Songs: Ohia, Ceremony, Fuck, Perfect Pussy, Hildur Gudnadottir, Little Annie, Woods, Kevin Morby, The Thermals, Sonic Youth, Parquet Courts, Courtney Barnett.
Food: Fuck. Oysters every way, hot wings, lamb, pho, all of the cruciferous vegetables, Sonoran hot dogs, tamales, raw lasagna, Maille dijon, panang curry, collard greens, chirashi, Black Russian bagels, Indian buffet food forever and always, avocados, chia pudding, dark chocolate. All things salty and herbaceous and overwrought. I had one great experience with a bacon-wrapped goat cheese stuffed jalapeño and one terrible one where I ended up with my mouth under the faucet in my kitchen feeling as though I'd been betrayed by a lover. I'm not the same.
- Reliable Internet access.
- Coffee: Hot, strong, black. This is not an innuendo.
- A good book to stave off vestigial social anxiety.
- Mementos of my dead grandmother, the maudlin soul I am.
- Coconut oil for everything else.
Consumption and more consumption. Oh well, okay.
"It takes guts to be gentle and kind."
The truth of the matter is that I started a pretty successful, thriving feminist collective in my hometown that I remotely manage (non-hierarchically, anti-authoritarianly) and it brings me THE MOST joy and I've realized that I miss having queer bbs and women friends in my life more than anything else, so I'd love anything in that realm because making friends in a new city is kind of hard and scary, especially because my work is client-based/one on one with no coworkers or anything and I graduated from college years ago. How do people do it? I don't understand.
Oh, and if you know anything about wheel throwing and wanna reenact that scene from Ghost!! Just kidding, but I really do want to start making pottery and ceramics, so I guess I'm not joking? It's a mystery even to me! Or if you wanna talk about how the new Mount Eerie record made all yr drone dreams come true, but that's probably even more unlikely than meeting THE REAL Patrick Swayze on OkCupid. Hyperbole and then some, but you get it.
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