If you were to ask me what I’m looking for as far as dating and relationships go, I’d have to tell you that I honestly don’t know for sure right now, but I think that’s OK. Really I’m just open to possibilities. As a young adult I thought I had my life all figured out. After divorcing I felt a little derailed for a while, but have worked hard at gaining back a sense of peace with my life and where I am.
I don’t have a predefined idea of exactly who I’m looking for, or what type of relationship I want. There are certain qualities I really enjoy and value in people, and that attract me in a man. Generally, I am attracted to men who are able to laugh easily and not embarrassed to get silly sometimes. I enjoy being with someone who is caring and feels proud of that quality in themselves. The world and politics are important to me, especially issues I feel passionately about. Its not important to me that we agree on all political issues, but I think it would make for a stronger connection if we share some of the same core values. I feel a strong sense of community with people who identify on the LGBT spectrum, and it would be important for a potential special friend or partner to be open to people in the queer community.
I’m open to the idea of different types of relationship possibilities. I’m not necessarily looking for marriage again, but I am open to the idea of it if I met someone special who also wanted it. I think it would depend on the person and our relationship.
I’m a complete and happy person. I don’t need someone to fix me and I don’t have some empty space that I need you to fill. But I do really enjoy human connection and intimacy. I’d like to find someone that I connect with on different levels and who would enjoy spending time together when we can.
I will also say that I’m not looking for random sex. For me, sex and intimacy are not the same thing, but for me sex is that much more awesome when there is intimacy there as well. Its hard expressing this idea without knowing how people will take it, because of course in our society women are not supposed to like sex. But I think sex is really important for healthy relationships and lives, and really important to be able to talk about. An ‘OK’ sex life is not OK for me at this point in life. I’d like to meet someone who understands what I mean when I say that I enjoy sex that doesn’t just involve only hormones and attraction, but that also includes connection and fun and passion.
Some other random stuff about me:
-I love animals. I have a small dog and two cats. If you are scared of animals or strongly aversive to them, we probably aren't a good fit.
-I have no kids, but I am still open to having kids or being with someone that already has kids, but its also not something I'm expecting or require for a relationship. Lately I’ve been thinking that it might be awesome to be a foster parent or adopt someday.
-I enjoy some outdoor activities, but I'm not a huge outdoorsy kind of person either. A little time hitting some golf balls, a walk on the beach or an occasional car camping trip is nice, but I'm not big into hiking. I do love the ocean, and a trip to Bodega Bay or San Francisco is always awesome.
-Music is something I enjoy a lot, and I love getting to some concerts when I can. I have a pretty eclectic taste, anything from pop, to alternative and Rap/hip hop. It would be fun to meet someone who shares a love of music and going to concerts.
-I ride a scooter for most of my day to day around town transportation, work, school, etc. I had always wanted to learn to ride a motorcycle and finally took a class about a year and a half ago. It was one of the best things I’ve ever done, I adore riding.
-I love going to movies but my movie schedule has been cramped a bit lately because of school responsibilities. But I love going when I can.
-I'm fairly liberal, especially on certain issues. I'm pretty sure that a very conservative person and I probably wouldn't hit it off. I believe strongly in equal rights for people in the LGBT community. A homophobic person and I will not be a good match for each other.