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41 F Sacramento, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 19
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
I'm an independent woman, with a fairly strong sense of self. I am funny, smart, and kind. I think people that know me well might describe me as sassy and silly. Sometimes I’m shy if I'm with a group of people I don't know, but I really love socializing with people I enjoy being around. I care about helping people, and enjoy working in fields that allow me to help those who are in need or suffering in some way.

If you were to ask me what I’m looking for as far as dating and relationships go, I’d have to tell you that I honestly don’t know for sure right now, but I think that’s OK. Really I’m just open to possibilities. As a young adult I thought I had my life all figured out. After divorcing I felt a little derailed for a while, but have worked hard at gaining back a sense of peace with my life and where I am.

I don’t have a predefined idea of exactly who I’m looking for, or what type of relationship I want. There are certain qualities I really enjoy and value in people, and that attract me in a man. Generally, I am attracted to men who are able to laugh easily and not embarrassed to get silly sometimes. I enjoy being with someone who is caring and feels proud of that quality in themselves. The world and politics are important to me, especially issues I feel passionately about. Its not important to me that we agree on all political issues, but I think it would make for a stronger connection if we share some of the same core values. I feel a strong sense of community with people who identify on the LGBT spectrum, and it would be important for a potential special friend or partner to be open to people in the queer community.

I’m open to the idea of different types of relationship possibilities. I’m not necessarily looking for marriage again, but I am open to the idea of it if I met someone special who also wanted it. I think it would depend on the person and our relationship.

I’m a complete and happy person. I don’t need someone to fix me and I don’t have some empty space that I need you to fill. But I do really enjoy human connection and intimacy. I’d like to find someone that I connect with on different levels and who would enjoy spending time together when we can.

I will also say that I’m not looking for random sex. For me, sex and intimacy are not the same thing, but for me sex is that much more awesome when there is intimacy there as well. Its hard expressing this idea without knowing how people will take it, because of course in our society women are not supposed to like sex. But I think sex is really important for healthy relationships and lives, and really important to be able to talk about. An ‘OK’ sex life is not OK for me at this point in life. I’d like to meet someone who understands what I mean when I say that I enjoy sex that doesn’t just involve only hormones and attraction, but that also includes connection and fun and passion.

Some other random stuff about me:

-I love animals. I have a small dog and two cats. If you are scared of animals or strongly aversive to them, we probably aren't a good fit.

-I have no kids, but I am still open to having kids or being with someone that already has kids, but its also not something I'm expecting or require for a relationship. Lately I’ve been thinking that it might be awesome to be a foster parent or adopt someday.

-I enjoy some outdoor activities, but I'm not a huge outdoorsy kind of person either. A little time hitting some golf balls, a walk on the beach or an occasional car camping trip is nice, but I'm not big into hiking. I do love the ocean, and a trip to Bodega Bay or San Francisco is always awesome.

-Music is something I enjoy a lot, and I love getting to some concerts when I can. I have a pretty eclectic taste, anything from pop, to alternative and Rap/hip hop. It would be fun to meet someone who shares a love of music and going to concerts.

-I ride a scooter for most of my day to day around town transportation, work, school, etc. I had always wanted to learn to ride a motorcycle and finally took a class about a year and a half ago. It was one of the best things I’ve ever done, I adore riding.

-I love going to movies but my movie schedule has been cramped a bit lately because of school responsibilities. But I love going when I can.

-I'm fairly liberal, especially on certain issues. I'm pretty sure that a very conservative person and I probably wouldn't hit it off. I believe strongly in equal rights for people in the LGBT community. A homophobic person and I will not be a good match for each other.
What I’m doing with my life
Right now my life is pretty busy. I work 80% time, and went back to school this year for a Master of Social Work. I work with children who have developmental disabilities, and love my job. I also intern for my Social Work program at a local small agency that provides mental health services to the LGBT community. Its important to me to have a good work/life balance, but right now that can be a challenge. I have dated people with busy schedules and I know it can be hard. So right now I'm looking for someone who is understanding of schedule issues and willing to be open minded to finding time to spend together if we hit it off, but who isn't expecting to find someone who can see them everyday.
I’m really good at
-Showing love to people I care about
-Board games
-planning how I'd spend my lottery winnings!
-Enjoying time with people I like even if its not exactly what I'd choose to be doing
-being an ally
-Going with the flow
-Finding my way around
The first things people usually notice about me
My laugh, my voice, not sure what else!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
authors: Dean Koontz, Patricia Cornwell, Mary Roach

books: To Kill a Mockingbird, Odd Thomas series, Gone Girl

movies: Inception, Argo, Unbreakable, The Sixth Sense, Loopers, The Others, Patriot Games...I love suspense, thriller, mystery type movies a lot, and definitely like a good scary one too!

TV shows: Girls, Daily Show/Colbert Report, Orange is the New Black, Key & Peele, Saturday Night Live, Breaking Bad, Its Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Archer, Nurse Jackie, Dexter, Weeds, South Park, Stand-up comedy

Music: I love music! I like pop, rap/hip hop, alternative, 90s, good dance music...some favorites lately are M83, Empire of the Sun, Phoenix, Capitol Cities, Usher, Drake, Foo Fighters, Lady Gaga, Deadmau5, Coldplay, Jay-Z, Kanye, Michael Jackson (PYT/Wanna Be Startin' Somethin' era is my favorite, but love a lot of his music)...old school Hip/Hop is awesome, 90s alternative always brings back good memories...Pearl Jam, Nirvana, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Tears for Fears, The Cure, I could go on and on.

Food: A great steak is definitely one of my favorites.
The six things I could never do without
humor, love, my scooter, some type of pet, my family, my friends
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My future, my job, things I want to accomplish, things I need to do, places I'd like to visit, how the people I've met who have had tough problems are doing
On a typical Friday night I am
At home with a beer or glass of wine winding down from the week, probably watching stand-up comedy on TV, maybe watching a movie, maybe staying up a little late playing games or doing mindless internet browsing, lately studying/reading for school, too
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I had lap-band surgery a few years ago. If you don't know what it is, feel free to ask me about it
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 32–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
-You're a positive, open minded person
-you're a good communicator
-you aren't afraid to show affection
-you enjoy getting out and also like being in

***if you're interested in me, please let me know. Saying 'sexy' or 'hi' and nothing else doesn't really do it for me and makes me think you're fake, playing around, or just saying the same thing to a ton of people just to get a bite from someone. If you haven't answered any of the questions or your profile is really bare, it's likely I won't reply, for various reasons, most of which should be obvious. I really value good communication, just putting that out there.