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smallraven

36 Bridgewater, NJ Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 17
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Curvy
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
When drinking
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Banking / Finance
Income
Rather not say
Status
Open relationship
Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm not a good selection for a one night stand or a strictly sexual relationship. It's not my bag.

Boys. (Because it's inevitably boys mailing me in this situation) I am polyamorous. This means I'm not interested in you unless your profile *explicitly* states that you are poly too. I *only* answer mail if your profile states that you are poly as well. You're wasting your time otherwise.

I am a courtesan, a writer of fictions, Queen o' th' May, an artisan, an agent provocateur and an amazon.

My gingerbread condo is full of books, spinning wheels, perfumery, shrines to heathen goddesses, cats, homemade cordials, delicious things for me to feed you and expensive shoes.

I blog about the occult and witchcraft and I'm a published author who writes erotica and spirituality pieces. Since that pays roughly what you expect it to pay, I also work in finance. It sounds v. exciting on paper (everyone's dirtiest secrets! The NSA!), but is actually mostly proofing numbers, numbers, numbers.

I make small batch artisan goods that I sell primarily at Punk Rock Flea Markets, Pagan Prides and SCA events.

I'm a passionate girl, I tend to love hard, if not easily. I'm polyamorous which means I love more than one person at a time. Currently, I have (1) husband, (1) girlfriend (who is slightly less local in Boston) and (1) Boy That I'm Beating. To me, being poly means being open and honest about my relationships with everyone and having a good understanding and respect for people's boundaries. Expect to meet my husband, shardkin. Expect that I'll want to meet your partners.

I'm kinked and consider that to be a core part of my person as well.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Practicing magic. Being a feminist. Learning yoga. Cooking new and exotic recipes. Drinking wine. Connecting with new and interesting people. Trying to interpret what my tiny nephew is saying. Going on adventures with my husband. Laughing with friends. Finding new and interesting places to see. Traveling. Seeing the ocean as much as possible.

My favorite thing in the world right now is hostessing cocktail parties. I love playing dress up, I love wearing ridiculous heels for the first half hour before I switch to ballet slippers, I love feeding people I love, I love the conversation, I love the smokiness in the room and I love that delicious feeling that comes from three cocktails. As an extroverted-introvert, it means I can feel social and flirt and dance when I want to and hide in the kitchen when I've had enough.

My favorite kind of wool to spin right now is Blue Faced Leichester because they sound like party sheep to me.

Spending time at conventions and festivals like Pennsic (it's my first year in 2015!), Wicked, Arisia, Floating Worlds, Free Spirit Gathering and The Faerie Festival.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
pushing my own boundaries, being a gracious hostess, la dolce vita, being adventurous, creating, knowing myself, learning about others.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
After trying not to be caught staring at my rack (and I always notice for the record), it would be my voluptuous, delicious, enticing brain.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
1. In my pile currently: Emergence of the Sensual Woman, French Provincial Cooking, Vampire 20th Edition OWoD and The Red Goddess

Faves: Palimpsest, The Julie & Julia Project, Eat, Pray, Love, The Coldest Girl in Cold Town, The White Queen and Kushiel's Dart

2. Dream for an Insomniac, Perks of Being a Wallflower, Only Lovers Left Alive, anything Baz Luhrmann, Jennifer's Body, Ginger Snaps, The Craft, Empire Records, Secretary, Clueless, Kevin Smith movies, Turner Classic Movies like North by Northwest, Now Voyager, The Stepford Wives, etc.

2.1 (tv) My So Called Life, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Law & Order, GossipGirl, 30 Rock, Mad Men, Gilmore Girls, Degrassi, Trashy Reality Television, Vampire Diaries, The Tudors, The Borgias, Weeds, Sherlock, American Horror Story, Star Trek and Downton Abbey.

3. There's not a lot I don't like. The Decemberists, Fiona Apple, Amy Winehouse, Adele, Lady GaGa, Dar Williams, Tori Amos, Ani Difranco, Rilo Kiley, Dresden Dolls, Rasputina, The Cure, The Smiths, Lordes, Lana del Rey, Fleetwood Mac, anything my parents listened to, etc. I like some bluegrass, country and rap too.

3a. In rotation right now: My Brightest Diamond, Toad the Wet Sprocket, The White Stripes, Marina and the Diamonds, MisterWives, Agnes Obel, Jenny Lewis, Fischerspooner, The Smiths, Daughter and London Grammar

4. I will eat anything that does not have bell peppers in it. Currently super into: anything pickled, ethic "fast food", local meat, produce and cheese, anything appealing both to the visual palette as well as the tongue. Local wines and beer as well as spirits.

5. Other. Typewriters, record players, a good dirty martini with extra olives, flannel sheets, sexy shoes, pinup dresses, gardening, , convertibles, tea and anything handmade.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My loved ones who are ride or die for me
2. Something to do with my hands
3. A kitchen (I'll commandeer yours)
4. New experiences
5. A soft, sexy bed
6. Something to read
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Plotting sex choreography for books which is a lot less "ooooooooooooooh baby!" and "wait, does she still have hair pins in her mouth? Then she can't kiss her." "She unbuttons-- crap, did they have buttons yet?", managing my fibromyalgia, what do I need to restock in my shop, what should I blog about, where can I wear my new shoes/dresses, am I having a mid life crisis?

Mostly, as they said constantly on Dollhouse, "Was I my best?"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Saturdays are more exciting! I'm at a bar, at the beach (or at a bar at the beach ;p), getting a pedi, throwing a party, going to a casino, shopping, seeing Sleep No More, going into NYC/Philly, going to a convention (gaming, sci-fi/fantasy, kinked, etc), going to a party, something fun!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am v. v. shy in person until I feel comfortable with you.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are clever, interesting and can intrigue me.

If you're going to Pennsic and you would like to find time to say hello and have suggestions on what I should do there.

If you are clearly poly. I am open to dating people of all genders and poly configurations but I am not one to quickly jump into bed. My poly configuration is not set up for "whatever happens, happens!".

If you are looking for a play partner for local events.

You understand I am not a unicorn, I'm a person. Yes! I will potentially date you as a couple if there's a good connection between us all. But! I'm not looking to complete your family. I have a family of my own, thank you. I'm not looking to cohabitate with anyone but my husband.

You don't mind that I'm secretly shy and socially anxious. My life is very full and rewarding right now and yours should be too! I am often very busy and sometimes don't have a lot of time.

You should have something to bring to the table besides immediate demands for sexting because um, no.