smart1165
64 Mission Viejo, CA
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My self-summary
Here I am.

I am looking for a special lady to build a relationship with. A special lady who walked away from the past and never goes back, enjoys the present and looks forward to tomorrow with a positive attitude. It normally takes 3 meetings or more to figure out potential mates. If the first meeting sizzles, chances are it will not fizzle. Acceptable means 3 dates to figure out partnership potential. And please post more pictures of you and not your beloved pet, your expensive shoes, your house or mansion, or your expensive car if you're not in the picture. I'm sure you love all of them. I'm interested in you and not what you have. Sorry, I'm just being honest.

About me:
I have a positive attitude, happy inside and out, and have an 'easy going simple guy' personality with a good sense of humor, level headed and fun to be with. Never a dull moment with me. I joke and I will make you smile and laugh - a lot. I am an easy going guy who does not sweat small stuff, very sociable and love meeting people - 'never a plant in the corner'.

Divorced 23 years. I have two grown children, on their own, and off my payroll HA. They live far away (SF bay area and NYC) and we visit often. Maybe I will be on their payroll someday ha ha ha....

I don't have baggage (I left it at a train station in NYC 23 years ago and never worried about it again - I think someone took it, ha). I am a good listener. I do not believe in astrological compatibility but if you do, I respect it.

In my younger days, I lived in several places - Hawaii, San Francisco, Michigan, and NYC where my family lives -and now Orange County. I travelled the 49 states and Puerto Rico by plane, train and bus (not been to Alaska though). I have to admit I have not been to Europe or on a cruise ship. I have three remaining to do in my bucket list of ten items: sky diving, driving a race car at 150 MPH in a NASCAR race track and then winning the big lottery (thinking positive).

Things I like to do to rest and relax:
Romantic weekend get aways, dancing, movies, beach, or just staying home enjoying each other's company or whatever we decide.

What I believe in:
A relationship is continuously nurtured over lifetime. A wink of love better than a butterfly kiss. I know the difference between when you say it's 'URGENT' or it's 'IMPORTANT'.

It is best to meet early to see where it goes - start early if it is going somewhere and move on early if it is going nowhere.

The road to success is always under construction. A good person is one who overlooks a broken fence and admires the flowers on the other side.

Let's meet:
A positive approach is important. First meeting is 'meet and greet' for coffee, tea, or social drink and see where it goes - 1 hour or less. One meeting does not define compatibility or 'chemistry'. It takes time.

My philosophy:
Life is what we make of it. OKC is a bridge to somewhere. Let's cross the bridge. To avoid disappointment, one should not have exceedingly high expectations. Take the chance - meet for coffee or tea for 20 minutes (or longer if all goes well). Play the law of averages - the more people you meet, the better the chance of finding the right one.

So always give it a try. Let's be positive.
What I’m doing with my life
I am enjoying life and the freedom to go anywhere, anytime as long as I am not working.
I’m really good at
Listening and paying attention to what you are saying and being open minded.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have no idea. I look very much like my posted pictures.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Ask me.
The six things I could never do without
-Family as they are always there for me.
-Friends, real friends, not acquaintances.
-Relaxing with you after a grueling day at work and not out with my friends (sometimes it should be OK, right?)
-Down time once in a while to recuperate physically and mentally
-Lots of Laughter - good for the soul and heart
-Hope and optimism - to live for
-Happy and positive attitude
I spend a lot of time thinking about
A happy and great life with the right lady. I don't think a lot about tomorrow as it may never come. Today is my 'present'. I also think about ladies who are negative about men looking for younger women but yet there are more women on every dating sites looking for way younger men sometimes 10-15 years younger. I can't figure out the double standard but that's life and we have to accept it.
On a typical Friday night I am
spontaneous. You or I can plan that we both will agree to or if there is no plan, we can both be spontaneous and do whatever we want.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My love for my children who are now adults and their well being. Although they are on their own, flying their wings and successful, I will always be there for them. I am their personal and career 'advisor', not a 'meddler'. When you meet them, ask them.
You should message me if
You feel it's worth the try if I am the right guy for you or if you just want to find out if I am. You must be interested in meeting to see where it goes and seriously looking for a long term relationship. In return, I promise to respond and let you know. I am a courteous guy and will respond. I am just an honest and simple guy. Please post a recent picture, AT least a 'selfie'. I am NOT looking for email or texting pal - I have plenty already!
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