26 Berkeley, CA
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My self-summary
I tend to believe that independently-owned coffee houses embody all that is good in the world: conversation, community, caffeine, and a sense that there is no where else in the world quite like where you are.

I try to find beauty in the subtle nuances of life and appreciate those that do the same.

I consider myself to be an empowered pessimist: the world is shitty and fucked up, but there are things that can be done to make it just a little bit better :)

Nothing brings me greater satisfaction than when someone believes that I was there to support them when no one else was.

Testimonials (lifted, with permission, from my past two breakups):
-"You are infinitely reasonable and unfailingly kind"
-"You have really been emotionally saintly both as friend and partner"
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a therapist-in-training. I almost never ask people: "And how does that make you feel?" I can probably not interpret your dreams but I probably can help you overcome a phobia.
I’m really good at
The first things people usually notice about me
my tall, lanky charm ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Perks of Being a Wallflower, Harry Potter, Series of Unfortunate Events, Les Miserables, 1984, To Kill a Mockingbird, Jane Eyre, Learned Optimism, The Lean Startup

Movies: Stand by Me, Jumanji, Airplane, How to Deal, Archie: Return to Riverdale, Dangerous Lives of Alter Boys, A Walk to Remember, The Ring, Finding Nemo, Now and Then, 10 Things I Hate About You, Saved, Runaway Jury, Christmas Story, Rent, Zoolander, Clue, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Breakfast Club, 16 Candles, Pretty in Pink, Lady in the Water, Series of Unfortunate Events, Harry Potter, A Mighty Wind, Batman (the Really Old one), Juno, Varsity Blues, Perks of Being a Wallflower.

TV Shows: Girls, How I Met Your Mother, Friends, The O.C., Colbert Report, Daily Show, Boy Meets World, The Big Bang Theory, Firefly, Dark Shadows, The Twilight Zone.

Music: I tend to enjoy lesbian folk music and music that is too mainstream for anyone to like.
The six things I could never do without
I don't like the framing of this question as "things I could never do without," particularly because when I read it, my first response was "beer" and I'm not ready to think of beer as something that is necessary for my survival.

I will instead answer the question: Six things that really enhance my quality of life:
-Interesting interactions with strangers (some of these are good/pleasant interesting, some are engaging fascinating interesting, and some of these are WTF? interesting, but in their own special ways, I appreciate all of these types of interesting.
-Urban exploring: I love tours ranging from brewery tours to ghost tours to self-guided abandoned building tours.
-Friends: I have a lot of different kinds of friends. Friends that I adventure with, friends that I talk about serious feelings with, friends that I discuss academic/intellectual issues with, friends that I think are some of the most brilliant/extraordinary/passionate people in the world, friends that I think are kind of jerks.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-how to balance my skepticism of most social programs with my desire to make the world a better place.
-my next Facebook status. You don't generate a steady stream of puns for four years without a little blood, sweat, tears, and ridiculous experiences you had only to generate double entendres you could share on social media.
On a typical Friday night I am
with friends at a small party. I can enjoy the party atmosphere but generally prefer it in small doses and prefer to appreciate it with people that I know.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes, when my recycling bin is full, I throw my beer bottles in the trash.

I've also written two (unpublished) romance novels.
You should message me if
-You are interested in social entreprenuership
-You enjoy witty banter, puns, sarcasm, etc.
-You think trying to figure out the inner workings of people's minds is the coolest pastime ever
-You are a nerd. I love to talk to people who get very passionate about their interests...I find enthusiasm contagious.
-You find anything in my profile of interest.