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60 Berkeley, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–99
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:38pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Not at all
Atheism, and very serious about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Less than $20,000
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Italian (Okay), Ancient Greek (Poorly), Esperanto (Okay), German (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"Those who made them did not desire strength or domination or hoarded wealth, but understanding, making, and healing, to preserve all things unstained."
--Elrond (J.R.R. Tolkien)

Looking for the right woman who knows our world's nuts!
AND who, like me, is striving constantly to expand not only in one or two directions, but also to expand the number of dimensions we want to expand in. Who knows what person--what experience--will unexpectedly lead to deep new interests, new insights, new awareness or compassion?

Passionate non-materialistic polymath and researcher seeks woman whose passions are intellectual, emotional, and physical.

(OKCupid seems to think that I'm a certain percentage "enemy" to most people here. I don't agree! I don't feel like an enemy to any woman here, even when I disagree with her on this or that--even when she would probably hate me for my unusual views and lifestyle.

I wish everyone here wisdom and luck in this difficult and confusing search to find agreeable company--and in trying to decide on which of the marvelous people here to focus.

I reread this later and realized that for some women--who for example answered they would dump their boyfriend for a billionaire they aren't even attracted to--the best I can do is wish them luck by wishing they'd change their values!)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
The scholarly life of study and research, together with exercise--including brain-training.
I'm a learning-junkie. You too?

Further explanation: I am constantly aware of my mediocrity, and fighting to push it back. Languages, Science & Mathematics, Literature, Drama. And I am trying to have some worthwhile original things to say which might enrich others' lives. But so far most of what I have discovered that is genuinely new is of only slight interest. But I am not done yet by a long shot!
If you too feel dissatisfied with yourself and want to go farther, and want to self-actualize to see what you can come up with that is genuinely original, you are *my* kind of person!

Sadly, most people misunderstand me: they think I merely want to learn this or that to accomplish this or that task or to get a job. They don't understand the passions to learn and to create as a way of life. If you do undertand this and have the same way of life (pursuing passionate interests), I probably at least want to say hello to you!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
*Making my own choices independently of the crowd.
*Knowing that I don't know.
*Knowing that others whose ways of looking at the world I've long passed may still as human beings be worthy of respect.
*Member of Mensa and the Triple Nine Society. So I seem to do well at highly g-loaded tests, especially when untimed.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Bipedal primate, opposable thumbs. More rational than most other mammals, but unable to adequately analyse the complex web of causation in this world. Loves to laugh. Glows when kissed passionately. This latter quality is very handy when you have to get up in the night to get something from the refrigerator and can't find the light switch.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
A Fable:
Three Questions (Lev Tolstoy)
( see )

Some Books:
Principles of Quantum Mechanics (Dirac)
Arrowsmith (Lewis)
Dramatic Technique (Baker)
History of the Peloponnesian War (Thucydides)
Last and First Men (Stapledon)

Some Films:
No Regrets for Our Youth, Ikiru (both dir. by Kurosawa)
Grand Illusion (Renoir)
Modern Times (Chaplin)
The Truman Show (Weir)
After The Dark (a.k.a. The Philosophers) (Huddles)

Some Plays:
The Iceman Cometh (O'Neill)
The Wild Duck (Ibsen)
Incident at Vichy (Miller)
Hamlet (Shakespeare)

TV Series:
*Star Trek and Star Trek: The Next Generation (but not for the pseudoscience)
*Shin Don
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Besides the usual survival items (food & clean water, nutritional supplements, shelter, medical care when needed (luckily rarely), enough money to survive, and health):
Free time; Library & Internet services
There's a lot more I love whose loss I could, though grieving, survive.
In this life, one loses very deep friends, one loses misplaced hopes, one loses even sometimes a sense of where one's true home is. One may feel in constant exile. But one can survive even these things if one still has some things left to do with one's life.
I have a surfeit of things left to do, to learn, to experience--much too much for one life! I shall surely die unsatisfied--but that is no reason to stop now!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Attic Greek, ancient history, and scientific and mathematical research problems. I spend a lot of time also wondering rather vainly how we might design a better society.
I also spend time learning foreign languages, ancient and modern, and am interested in playwriting.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Wondering how I'll ever find you!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Is that I have private things I'm not willing to admit publicly.
And so do you--and there's nothing wrong with that nor anything to be afraid of--in my case anyway!
OH OK--how about this:
I usually don't even know what SPORT competitive teams play. I try not to annoy others by pointing this out...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Anytime you want to anywhere you like, of course! (When we're in a relationship.)
What's that? It says, mEssage, not mAssage?
Where did my glasses go??
NOTE ON AGE RANGE: Really, being over 18 is the only firm requirement. All the rest is about your characteristics, which may not fit your actual age. I like some things which are considered youthful, but are only found in some of the young, and some things which are considered mature, which are only found in some of the older. Since there are many exceptions to age-based rules, my criteria are based on your characteristics--not your age. I like youthful idealism and engagement and health with a maturity of understanding and learning. One more comment: I think many adults forget--or are forced to put aside--what they knew when they were young: how important passion, learning, and freedom are to a happy life. Many times, people become cynical about love as they experience disappointment and betrayal. Sometimes I say I am looking for a young person so that I find people who have escaped this plight. But you can find them of many ages.

You want to thank me for having you read this article:

Watch this brief video; if you honestly think to yourself when considering the man in the video: now THERE is a man I'd be PROUD to call mine, and the word "loser" doesn't even enter your mind, please contact me!

You are extraordinary in any positive way, such as:
*very high libido
*very high intelligence (example: IQ > 140)
*inclination to philosophise independently of authority
*very big heart
*great love of life
*unusual wit
*great curiosity or creativity in any field
*very high interest in truth, independently of desires
*are serious about weight training or bodybuilding
you are intrigued enough that you really want to!