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44 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27–45
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  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Yesterday – 9:08pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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There's a lot of things about me you don't know anything about. Things you wouldn't understand. Things you couldn't understand. Things you shouldn't understand.

Packaging—5’9, 165#; often bruised, sore and scratched outer shell from Muay Thai, Crossfit, running, swimming and other shenanigans. Several awesome tattoos including one with a meerkat.

Creamy center: Thinky, quirky, and sometimes quiet with a hankering for political discussion, battling THE MAN for a better world; artistically inclined; creative job that involves writing, design, multi-media and the aforementioned fight against THE MAN.

I'm an INTJ if Myers-Briggs means anything to you. I'm an introvert not shy and gave up trying not to be in an introvert years ago and am comfortable in my own brain.

I do not work at Google or a start up.

Against: Fanny packs, mayonnaise,

For: Puppets, dreaming, wit, striving to always be better, bobbing and weaving, Olympic weight lifting (snatching and clean & jerk) compassion, empathy and nut butter. Books on history & politics and ones involving orcs, vampires, demons, and violent heroines. And while I am known to dish my fair share of snark when not listening to my better angels, I think the world could use more sincerity and earnestness and less irony and cynicism.

I am not one of the "cool kids."

I am quirky, a retired ninja, and often ridiculous
What I’m doing with my life
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I work in labor communications publishing newspapers and web sites. Its part PR, part labor journalism and involves copy writing, photography, web development, design and sometimes walking in a circle while chanting cliches.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Strategery. Analytical thinking, scheming, persevering, being consistent, inventing things; flying knees, right roundhouses, low kicks, writing, kettlebells, pull ups, talking shit, talking politics, talking to your mom. Scrabble. Kissing. Cuddling. Befriending dogs and cats.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My awesome meerkat tattoo. My awesome Scrabble tattoo.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Tastes are often signifiers of social class and status.
Books: non-fiction: books by Chomsky, CLR James, Mike Davis; history, politics, current events, social theory in general, political economy, critical race theory

Fiction tends towards books with violent heroines, orcs, vampires and werewolves.

Music--We all know that the Clash is the only band that matters and they are one of the reasons by taste tends toward old school punk: The Jam, Buzzcocks. Currently playing The Loved Ones, New Model Army, The Briefs and The Peacocks; Also like Avett Brother, Lucinda Williams, The Bittersweets. I appreciate a well written song, with thoughtful lyrics, a sense of melody, and a decent hook. Power pop? Yes please.

Movies--tend towards the pure escapism and documentaries.I like a good super hero movie, science fiction with communist subplots, John Woo, and things with muppets.

TV--Gave up cable awhile back--not for some weird "I'm better than you for not watching TV reason." It cost $100 a month and didn't watch it enough to justify it. I have an awesome plasma that I really like when I do get around to watching something. I mostly rely on Netflix or iTunes. Often dorky sci-fi and the occasional bloodsport--Muay Thai, K1, and MMA. Also everything Joss Whedon.

I am not a vegetarian though I probably eat more vegetables than most vegetarians. I avoid most starches and processed foods and sugar. Cashew nut butter is the way to my heart.

I like mid-century modern architecture and furniture.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I just need the love of a good woman. {Awwwwww}
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A world without cages.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The same thing I do every night, Pinky.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was once tricked into being "born again" by a puppet.
I collect broken people. Not intentionally. I was just drawn that way.
I painted my refrigerator so it's a chalkboard but haven't used it for anything except to draw dicks on it.
You should message me if
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You are not the loudest person in the room. Your profile doesn't use the phrase" "I work hard and play hard" nor "I love to laugh."

(Unless you're a hot Asian chick. Then its perfectly okay.)

(Just kidding about the Asian chick part). If you are into lefty politics, books, punk, meerkats and don't fail at being a good and decent human being. If you are a wiseacre, agitator or grifter with a heart. You don't have any books written by Ayn Rand in your favorites list and you understand why that might repulse me. You want to go rock climbing or white water rafting with me. You like left-wing, introverted sorts who like to lift heavy things over their heads.