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46 F Toronto, Ontario, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:58am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Finally, blissfully on two weeks' vacation. Any suggestions for great things to check out in the city? So far, my itinerary shows a lot of swimming, sleeping, singing, reading and patio hanging...

So here's a bit about me, as long as you're here...I'm a left-wing, sarcastic smart-ass with a kind heart and a long fuse. I know myself fairly well - superpowers, weird bits and all - and don't believe in pretending to be otherwise. I'm good to have around in a real crisis, but also at times when the crisis seems to be that we've run out of wine.

Looking to eventually find a partner but taking my time, cause I think love is the easy and respect are harder but make the rest possible. So I'll happily go on living my life til I, hopefully, find what I want - a guy whose superpowers and weird bits complement mine...

It should (but sadly, doesn't) go with out saying that I don't want to spend my days with someone who is racist, homophobic, fundamentalist, etc. You guys should check out 'Ok Ass Hat' maybe.
What I’m doing with my life
- wishing I'd known that, once I chose my OKC nickname in a moment of impulsive smartassery, I'd be stuck with it for all eternity. Sigh.
- working for a great non-profit with people I love, who do great things for others
- meditating, sometimes a little, sometimes a lot
- choir! choir! choir!
- learning the guitar
- at the moment wishing I played the guitar well enough that I could say I play badly
- wishing I had a dog. A lot.
- throwing stuff out
- swimming, being on/in/near water whenever possible
- trying to be a good aunt to the fabulous kidlets in my life
- did I mention choir! choir! choir!?
I’m really good at
See above list - I don't want to brag, but I'm really quite good at sucking at the guitar. Plus, I've been told I'm an above average kisser, and I make pecan toffee that will curl your toes.

I've also recently started doing career transition counseling - career therapy, really - for people who want to make a change or just feel stuck in their jobs. It's a pretty intuitive process, partly cause I've had some really horrible work experiences, leading up to a career I love. I deeply, passionately believe that everyone deserves to feel good about where they go and what they do when Monday morning rolls around...
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably not the first thing, but several people have told me recently that I make friends easily. I've never really thought about it, but given the family of friends that surrounds me, I'm taking it as a damned fine compliment.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Lots and lots and lots. Some of the same stuff you like. Some you don't. I was trying to avoid being all list-y, but here are some random samples...Fall on Your Knees, Good Night and Good Luck, paneer, Joni Mitchell, good tequila, Louis CK, A Fine Balance, watermelon and cherries in the summer, Chuck Palahniuk, The Newsroom, plus The West Wing, Charlie Wilson's War and anything Aaron Sorkiny. Ditto Joss Whedon. Popcorn. Miles and Ella and Nina. Cocktails with gin and cucumbers. Homeland. Bubbly. The smell of garlic and rosemary on my hands after I've been chopping them together.

There. So much for not being list-y.
The six things I could never do without
Strong tea in the morning
A good bed
A good shower
Physical contact
Six more things
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What's next. Great love. Big, hairy life questions. Sex. Really great kisses. Silence. Vegans - vegetarianism I understand, but a life without cheese just mystifies me. Scary, batshit crazy politicians...hoping that when the October election is over we can go five minutes without hearing about the Fords' latest adventures in debauchery and disgrace. Where I put my metropass.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty damned strong and used to doing things for myself, and I'm happy to be independent . But sometimes I really miss having a partner to lean on and share things with. Not earth-shattering, I know, but still kinda hard to admit sometimes.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 36–52
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you're a good guy. Or I've got some spinach stuck in my teeth.