I have only been single for a bit. I am still not yet divorced, but it is clear to me there is no going back. With that in mind my current intention is to go incredibly slow. I need to do this for the sake of my own nervous system and for my three year old daughter. If you want a one night stand or will be disappointed to not get sassy with me for a bit, read no further, you have picked the wrong woman.
I didn't used to be this way, but I have learned from my mistakes.
Although I say this, if I feel safe and if and when it feels right, I tend to be very affectionate. Please feel free to ask me where I am at and my hope is you will be open to the same.
I feel blessed to have created a career based on things I love to do and being of service to my community.
I have come a long way from how I was in my youth and feel proud of my ability to grow and change for the better and would seek this in anyone I date seriously. On the other hand, I think I can laugh at my flaws and if I feel safe with you, you are welcome to laugh at them too.
Living in the Happy Valley of super educated folks has raised my I Q and I have come to enjoy intellectual conversations. I say this and yet feel weird about that too. You see, while I have white privilege that gives me the opportunity to become more educated and to surround myself with smarty pants, I do not come from wealth and don't want to be smug or narrow minded in my preferences. I want to stay open to all folks, but I do have to say I really want to spend time with people who can teach me new things and whom I can share my knowledge with. This does not mean I need to be with someone who has a formal education, but I want to spend time with someone who has a passion for learning and enjoys sharing what they know and has an interest hearing my thoughts.
I prefer dating men who feel comfortable in social situations, who have a good sense of humor ( I suppose everyone wants that), is straight edge ( straight edge means some one who doesn't drink' do drugs or smoke) or close to it, generous and considerate, who I can share good conversation with, cares about their own health,can support themselves, has their own interests and passions,is caring, introspective and while they are logical, they are open to or have a spiritual path. Bonus points for being environmentally active and or for doing service for what you believe in.
I will offer the same to you.
Additionally, I am someone and I want to be with someone who fights fair, asks how your day is, actively seeks growth, will understand that offspring come first, is compassionate and sees that a relationship is its own entity. It's like a garden. It needs tending to or it dies.
I look forward to hearing from you.