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smushmonkey

44 Florence, MA Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 34–54
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:45am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and very serious about it
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a strong loving woman who values integrity, honesty, creativity, growth, passion, and evolving kindness. I value this in myself and others. I love to spend time with my daughter(obviously), with my friends, my extended family, and enjoy conversations with people wherever I go. While I do tend to be chatty, I do love quiet and I am very open to taking long walks or hikes and not saying a word.

I have been single for about a year now. I am still not yet divorced, but it is clear to me there is no going back.I am the kind of person that intentionally goes slow. I need to do this for the sake of my own nervous system and for my three year old daughter. If you want a one night stand or will be disappointed to not get sassy with me for a bit, read no further, you have picked the wrong woman.
I didn't used to be this way, but I have learned from my mistakes.
Although I say this, if I feel safe and if and when it feels right, I tend to be very affectionate. Please feel free to ask me where I am at and my hope is you will be open to the same.

I feel blessed to have created a career based on things I love to do and being of service to my community.

I have come a long way from how I was in my youth and feel proud of my ability to grow and change for the better and would seek this in anyone I date seriously. On the other hand, I think I can laugh at my flaws and if I feel safe with you, you are welcome to laugh at them too.

Living in the Happy Valley of super educated folks has raised my I Q and I have come to enjoy intellectual conversations. I say this and yet feel weird about that too. You see, while I have white privilege that gives me the opportunity to become more educated and to surround myself with smarty pants, I do not come from wealth and don't want to be smug or narrow minded in my preferences. I want to stay open to all folks, but I do have to say I really want to spend time with people who can teach me new things and whom I can share my knowledge with. This does not mean I need to be with someone who has a formal education, but I want to spend time with someone who has a passion for learning and enjoys sharing what they know and has an interest hearing my thoughts.

I prefer dating men who feel comfortable in social situations, who have a good sense of humor ( I suppose everyone wants that), is straight edge ( straight edge means some one who doesn't drink' do drugs or smoke) or close to it, generous and considerate, who I can share good conversation with, cares about their own health,can support themselves, has their own interests and passions,is caring, introspective and while they are logical, they are open to or have a spiritual path. Bonus points for being environmentally active and or for doing service for what you believe in.

I will offer the same to you.

Additionally, I am someone and I want to be with someone who fights fair, asks how your day is, actively seeks growth, will understand that offspring come first, is compassionate and sees that a relationship is its own entity. It's like a garden. It needs tending to or it dies.

I look forward to hearing from you.
What I’m doing with my life
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I would say I have a full life and yet at the same time much smaller than it used to be.
I have a three year old little girl and she is obviously my first and for most priority. When she and I aren't together...

I work several part-time jobs and have started my own personal training business, so I tend to be working quite a bit. The thing is I love all the work I do, so it doesn't feel like work. I teach dance and fitness classes. I am the life skills coordinator for an amazing program that I totally believe in and I love the young people I work with.
I teach Sunday school and I personal train my clients. Every bit of work I do I absolutely enjoy!!!

In my free time..(what little I have) I spend with friends, go out dancing, spend time in nature, or clean my home and try to hustle more work.

Side note: throughout my working life I have had many interesting and creative jobs. More later ( I have to leave something to talk about on our date)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Dance
Many forms of art
Having a balance between heart and logic
Communication
Conversation.. Gift for gab
Helping others feel comfortable
My brand of quirky humor.
Owning my stuff ( sometimes a little too good at that.)
Creating a beautiful space.
Teaching
Being teachable
Being a good friend
Being positive, while still maintaining a bit of my NY edge.
Fitness support
Momming
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyeballs maybe?
My toothy Smile?
My sparkly energy?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Glass Castle, Sula, Woman on the Edge of Time, Walk Across America, The Four Agreements, Books on different styles of spirituality, dance, and education.
Movies: HA... it has been a while since I have been able to see one of those. I saw Pina a little over a year ago and I LOVED it! I really enjoyed the Golden Compass, even though it was so different from the book ( I liked the book too)... other movies that have stayed with me are, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Terms of Endearment,n Being John Malkovich, Jacob's Ladder, Yellow Submarine, All That Jazz, Annie Hall,
When Harry Met Sally
Music: Balkan Beat Box,The Beatles, Grateful Dead, Beck, Stevie Wonder, Parliament, Phish, Tin Hat Trio, Lyle Lovett, Josh Ritter, Adam Ant, Fiona Apple, Brandi Carlile, Wilco, India Arie, Led Zepplin, De La Sol, Johnny Cash, Missy Elliot, Joni Mitchell, Elliot Smith, Thievery Corporation. Miles Davis,David Bowie, Antique Beats, Regina Spector, Non-misogynistic Hip-hop, Funk, Dance Music, Folk, Classic Rock, Some pop... but I am picky. I like old school country, some classical like Stravinsky, not much opera as of yet... except Tommy by the Who and maybe Hedwig and The Angry Inch.
TV: All I have is my computer. On my computer I have gotten into a few shows: 30 rock, Sex in the City, Northern Exposure, Flight of the Concord, The Colbert Report and of course, The Daily Show
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My Child (of course)
Trees
Conduits of communication
My ever growing spiritual path
Friends/Family and hugs/connection
The ability to create in many facets...dance, fine art, puppetry, abstract thinking
Other things I would really miss if they were no longer available to me:
NPR
Warm Showers and baths
art supplies
Laughing
Music
massages, give and take
yoga/pilates/dance classes
The ability to buy healthy food or pick healthy food
The functioning of my body (maybe I am getting a little too deep)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My daughter
The environment
Where did I put my cell phone etc.
How I can best be a power of love
How to be in balance with my integrity and the requests life demands
My family friends and work life
Am I remembering to breathe?
Lesson plans,fitness plans, time sheets and choreography
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
98 % of the time I am home with my little girl trying to go to sleep early, so I get as much sleep as her.
Once in a blue moon I will go out dancing or to a party and pray she sleeps longer.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
All in good time my friend :)
You should message me if
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You like what you read and you think there might be something there.
You are willing to go slow, be friends first and see where the journey takes us.
You are a personal trainer, dancer, or puppeteer and you want to talk shop!