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  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Yesterday – 2:27pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Okay)
My self-summary
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Over the last couple of years, I find I've been paring down my life to just the things that matter most. At heart, I'm a writer. Even if no one ever reads them, I need to tell stories to stay happy. I like being happy. That said, I would like to have an audience (and hey, if I were to start getting paid for my prattling on, that would be a bit of all right too). I like being fit and have found that martial arts is a great way to do that. I try and get to as many Karate classes a week as I possibly can (in many ways, this is one of the few purely selfish things I do). I'm still a novice, but try and find a few minutes a day to practice, or at least work on my physical conditioning. One of my goals is to be able to pass all the black belt physical requirements by the time I'm halfway there.

I like challenges. The harder the better. It's why I'm good a my job, managing software engineers in a support organization (seven figure deal on the line and the shit already on the fan? Let's rock!). It's why I like martial arts (I managed to fake a kick and land a back fist to the head of a third degree black belt on Saturday. Yes! [i.e. I'm proud of myself for hitting a girl. Although to be fair, she'd already hit me a number of times.]). It's also why I believe I'll be successful as a writer. Finishing a short story is hard. Sticking with it past "the end" to find and fix all of the problems big and small is harder. Getting it published, whew! not easy.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working. Lots of working. And then writing, which is like more working. And kicking ass. Hopefully more than I get mine kicked (although that can be incredibly instructive).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Storytelling. Pulling random facts out at odd times. Singing off key.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably my propensity to take any random thing and use it as a springboard into some story or interesting thing I just read.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Neil Gaiman, Terry Pratchett, Steven Brust, Dumas

Comics: Warren Ellis, Matt Fraction, Kelly Sue DeConnic

Movies: Doctor Strangelove (or how I learned to stop worrying and love the bomb), This is Spinal Tap, The Big Lebowski, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas

TV: Anything Joss Whedon (big Buffy and Firefly fan), Chuck, The Black List, Constantine and I have a habit of watching any bad show a friend has worked on, even after they've left (not counting reality shows. I love my friends and all, but not enough to watch Big Brother).

Music: Polar Bear Club, Does It Offend You, Yeah?, Sleigh Bells, The New Pornographers, The Cure, Faith No More, Pixies, Finntroll, Josh Ritter, Apoptygma Berzerk, Iron Maiden, Social Distortion, Johnny Cash, Modstep, Dirtyphonics, Titus Andronicus, The Gaslight Anthem, The Impossible Girl. Basically, I love music in any form I can get it.

Food: Thai, sushi, dim sum, Indian... OK, really, I'm not all that picky.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughter
My laptop (or at least the data on it)
My sense of humor
A hook kick to the head
A challenge
Enthusiastic consent
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Stories I'll never have time to write, how I'll be able to squeeze an extra Karate class into my week, how to better lead my team.

And why on Earth anyone would refer to the gods by their Roman names. It's like blasphemy or something.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either watching my daughter, or writing. Or sadly, exhausted and just passed out. So basically... the same stuff I do every night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
If you've got a question, ask. Honestly, I think that would be way more interesting than me trying to come up with something innocuous, but perhaps a little bit naughty. Don't get me wrong, I like naughty, but I also like to tailor my message to my specific audience. I'm sure after a bit of chatting, I could come up with something shocking that wouldn't make you lose (too much) respect for me.
You should message me if
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You think we'd hit it off.

Or do something fascinating.
Or do something dreadfully boring, but can talk about it in ways that make it seem interesting.
Or you think I have good taste in books, movies, TV and/or music
Or you think my taste sucks, but that you can save me.
Or if you want to spar sometime.

I dunno. If you're still reading, go ahead. I'm easily amused.