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30 Greenville, SC Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Mar 2
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So I come back and edit this thing a lot. Bottom line is, I'm a guy who likes getting himself into interesting (preferably the fun sort of interesting) situations with interesting people. My mind thrives on order and my soul thrives on chaos (and the two finally seem to be getting along--somewhat). I like to travel (something I plan to do a lot more of), make great performance art, be irresponsible when I can--and when I can't, responsibly make awesome things happen.

I'm a fan, personality-wise, of Humphrey Bogart, Frank Sinatra, post-Mecca Malcolm X, Andy Warhol, and pre-old and lecherous Hugh Hefner (though hey, when you've got it you've got it). I wish Marilyn Monroe had followed her heart and varied the spectrum of her acting career--or had the time to do so. I wish King or X had survived till at least the '90s to expand the mentality of black America and keep it out of the ghetto. I really wish Reagan, Nixon, or Goldwater could come back from the dead just for a day to see what has become of their beloved party--I wonder what they would do. I also think people should learn to use the Oxford comma, goddamn it...but I'm not enough of a grammar Nazi to always avoid ending sentences with a preposition, or utilizing *all* the punctuation to run a long thought into a single sentence. (I'm a playwright, which means I write like people speak; gimme a break.)

Musicals got me into acting, but I mostly sing offstage nowadays--mostly as a natural reaction to my mood, whatever it may be. Michael Jackson made me love to dance, Beatrix Potter made me love to read, Bernardo Bertolucci sparked my love for film, da Vinci and Michelangelo for art, Nat King Cole for music, and Brecht and Ibsen for theatre production. One day I will have a basement theatre, a smoking lounge, and a library the size of a small penthouse--I live for that day.
What I’m doing with my life
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Attempting to sustain physical and monetary comfort while pursuing various performing arts endeavors, working on a few company startups, and getting into film production. As of right now, I'm working on a multiple-season webseries examining the adult film industry from a female perspective and how it might be shaped into a more artistically erotic medium, taking cues from the porn chic era of the '70s and '80s. Feel free to ask if you're curious.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
theatre direction, listening, giving blunt advice, appearing upright and respectable, making mixed drinks without a recipe, remembering random facts to annoy people with later, finding a quote for every situation
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm black; that usually comes pretty fast for some reason. Otherwise, probably my voice--I'm originally from South Carolina and have also spent considerable time in Wisconsin, but apparently sound like I hail from neither of those places. Favorite guesses include South Africa, California, France, England, Australia, and New Zealand. None of these accents sound the same; all I know is that I hate the way it sounds on tape--but I suppose most people do with their own voices.
On the dance floor, it doesn't take much time to figure out I learned to dance watching Michael Jackson music videos.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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New trend: I'm going back to lists--this time, works that have influenced me most over time; and the musicians, food, and drink that I like most.

Books: Calvin and Hobbes, My Teacher Flunked the Planet, Bridge to Terabithia, A Raisin in the Sun, The Last Battle, Diary of a Young Girl, A Doll's House, A History of the Modern World (R. R. Palmer), A History of God, The Communist Manifesto, Six Characters in Search of an Author, Blogging the Bible (David Plotz), An Enemy of the People, American Constitutional Law (Alpheus Thomas Mason), House of Leaves, Broadway: The American Musical, 1984, Transmetropolitan, Topdog/Underdog, A Midsummer Night's Dream, Pattern Recognition, Ender's Game, Queen of Wands, Sophie's World, Snow Crash, Good Porn (Erika Lust), Neuromancer

Plays (seen): Les Miserables, Tartuffe, Into the Woods, Children of Eden, Master Harold...and the Boys, Gem of the Ocean, Lysistrata, Inherit the Wind, The Farnsworth Invention, The Lion King

Movies: South Park: Bigger, Longer & Uncut; Heavy Metal, Akira, Requiem for a Dream, Reservoir Dogs, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, Behind the Green Door, The Devil in Miss Jones, Caligula, The Great Dictator, The Last Temptation of Christ, Bowling for Columbine, The Dreamers, The Opening of Misty Beethoven, The Idiots, Stealing Beauty, Rope, The Cabin in the Woods

TV Shows: Where in the World Is Carmen Sandiego?, Animaniacs, Batman: The Animated Series, Neon Genesis Evangelion, Avatar: The Last Airbender, Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex, The Wire, House of Cards, Alias

Music: Queen, Fastball, the Ying Yang Twins, Blackstreet, Outkast, Aretha Franklin, AC/DC, Skrillex, Afroman, Yolanda Adams, Michael Jackson, Lana Del Rey, Ludacris, Leonard Cohen, LeAnn Rimes, Luther Vandross, My Brightest Diamond, Daft Punk, Snoop Dogg, the Mitchell Brothers, the Black Eyed Peas, Semisonic, Paula Abdul, Foxy Shazam, Kanye West, Tupac Shakur, Bob Dylan, Full Force, Nancy Sinatra, Linkin Park, Icona Pop, The Pogues, Postmodern Jukebox, Bill Withers, Dead Prez, Madonna, Rihanna, Dire Straits, Eminem, The Paper Chase, Radiohead, Caravan Palace, Billy Joel, Anna Kendrick, Bell Biv DeVoe, Katy Perry, Cake, Fun, Regina Spektor, Billie Holiday, Text, Lupe Fiasco, Nine Inch Nails, Lady Gaga, Macklemore, Lorde, Immortal Technique, Montell Jordan, Natasha Bedingfield, Nappy Roots

Food: Pizza with Feta Cheese, Super Volcano Rolls, Shrimp Quesadillas and Po' Boys, Boca Bruschetta Burgers, Sweet Potato anything, Crab anything, Cheese of all kinds (which I must now limit in my diet, grr)

Drinks: Gin anything (preferably Hendrick's or Bombay), Bulleit Sidecars, Jameson & Ginger, Caucasians, Ciders
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. The Internet: it's basically an extension of my brain at this point.

2. A good, physical book: no matter where the technology goes, I'll be alright with it, as I currently read PDFs and text files on my computer and listen to books on tape, and I could see myself getting a Kindle or Nook sometime soon for the convenience of travel (EDIT: Received a Kindle Fire for Christmas; so far have used it for scripts more often than books). If, however, we end up living in a world where only virtual copies are sold, I'll be the stubborn old guy with a house full of books and a printing press.

3. Good friends: I need them. I have always been lucky enough to have a few, and I gained two whole fraternal organizations full of them in college. They are my true family, and no person or situation could make me give them up. I should add that I'm always looking for more, and am just as willing and eager to hook up with awesome people for adventures as I am to hook up with awesome people for romantic relationships. These things are not mutually exclusive, by the way.

4. Tolerance: while I generally follow Voltaire's position of advocating strongly someone else's right to advocate against everything I believe in, I am heavily intolerant of a closed mind. The lack of a willingness to at least learn more about things you know nothing about is an instant dealbreaker for any sort of close relationship.

5. Diversity: I can't stand being in a place where people all look the same, act the same, and have the same interests; it's boring. When I find such a group I generally try very hard to introduce them to new people and new things.

6. Hedonism: "the doctrine that pleasure or happiness is the sole or chief good in life", according to Merriam-Webster. I strongly believe that one should work hard to make every living moment as happy and fulfilling as possible--and while some can achieve that happiness and fulfillment through the proverbial wine, women, and song, they don't necessarily do so all the time. (I also take pleasure in reading, dancing, and seeing a good show.) In fact, there are an infinity of personal pleasures to choose from, and almost every human being, whether they are aware of it or not, has their own personal cocktail. As far as I'm concerned, as long as it doesn't interfere with the happiness of others, an individual's personal pursuit is up to them--but they shouldn't resist the pursuit. To quote a Noel Coward play, "life is for living", and it's the only thing we know for certain is promised to us.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...well, lots of things. Among them:
--Life, as in where I'm going, where my friends are going, and who out of the many talented people in my life are going to reach the fame they deserve first
--Love, sex, sexuality, and relationships
--The political zeitgeist and how both the death of democracy and a people powered revolution are things I am now looking forward to in and after this last year on the Mayan calendar.
--Pop culture--the history and practice of which I have a somewhat unhealthy fascination with, though studying its ebbs and flows has helped me better understand the world around me, from many perspectives
--How much my moral values have changed since childhood
--The destructive folly that is organized religion.
--Being in a polyamorous relationship
--How I'm increasingly sure I'm never going to settle down enough to have kids, and how I feel about that (still unsure)
--Whether anything other than violence or physical abuse is truly obscene.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends, at the Inferno or Plan B, hanging with staff at one of the King and Main Street area's fabulous bars and restaurants, or at home working on one of my many personal study projects--it all depends on the rest of the week and weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am instantly smitten by a woman in fancy (traditionally) male dress. Androgyny can be an awesome thing.

Also, I'm finally willing to admit I'm one of the few people on here still looking for love. Not that I expect it or desire it in every encounter, but there it is.
You should message me if
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--you find this interesting.
--you'd be interested in working on an artistic venture together.
--you're looking for someone with whom to do fun, crazy, inappropriate, and/or silly things.
--you enjoy spending hours on the dance floor.
--you have an interest in formal pairs dancing, and wouldn't mind some refresher lessons--or giving me said lessons yourself.
--you'd like to introduce me to something new and interesting.
--you identify as a member of the kink community.
--you're not judging me for having "casual sex" among a lot of different relationship choices (all of which I'm equally open to pursuing)
--you identify with this:
--you want to.