Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So I come back and edit this thing a lot. Bottom line is, I'm a guy
who likes getting himself into interesting (preferably the fun sort
of interesting) situations with interesting people. My mind thrives
on order and my soul thrives on chaos (and the two finally seem to
be getting along--somewhat). I like to travel (something I plan to
do a lot more of), make great performance art, be irresponsible
when I can--and when I can't, responsibly make awesome things
I'm a fan, personality-wise, of Humphrey Bogart, Frank Sinatra,
post-Mecca Malcolm X, Andy Warhol, and pre-old and lecherous Hugh
Hefner (though hey, when you've got it you've got it). I wish
Marilyn Monroe had followed her heart and varied the spectrum of
her acting career--or had the time to do so. I wish King or X had
survived till at least the '90s to expand the mentality of black
America and keep it out of the ghetto. I really wish Reagan, Nixon,
or Goldwater could come back from the dead just for a day to see
what has become of their beloved party--I wonder what they would
do. I also think people should learn to use the Oxford comma,
goddamn it...but I'm not enough of a grammar Nazi to always avoid
ending sentences with a preposition, or utilizing *all* the
punctuation to run a long thought into a single sentence. (I'm a
playwright, which means I write like people speak; gimme a
Musicals got me into acting, but I mostly sing offstage
nowadays--mostly as a natural reaction to my mood, whatever it may
be. Michael Jackson made me love to dance, Beatrix Potter made me
love to read, Bernardo Bertolucci sparked my love for film, da
Vinci and Michelangelo for art, Nat King Cole for music, and Brecht
and Ibsen for theatre production. One day I will have a basement
theatre, a smoking lounge, and a library the size of a small
penthouse--I live for that day.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Attempting to sustain physical and monetary comfort while pursuing
various performing arts endeavors, working on a few company
startups, and getting into film production. As of right now, I'm
working on a multiple-season webseries examining the adult film
industry from a female perspective and how it might be shaped into
a more artistically erotic medium, taking cues from the porn chic
era of the '70s and '80s. Feel free to ask if you're curious.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
theatre direction, listening, giving blunt advice, appearing
upright and respectable, making mixed drinks without a recipe,
remembering random facts to annoy people with later, finding a
quote for every situation
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm black; that usually comes pretty fast for some reason.
Otherwise, probably my voice--I'm originally from South Carolina
and have also spent considerable time in Wisconsin, but apparently
sound like I hail from neither of those places. Favorite guesses
include South Africa, California, France, England, Australia, and
New Zealand. None of these accents sound the same; all I know is
that I hate the way it sounds on tape--but I suppose most people do
with their own voices.
On the dance floor, it doesn't take much time to figure out I
learned to dance watching Michael Jackson music videos.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
New trend: Top 3...
1. House of Leaves, by Mark Z. Danielewski
2. Sophie's World, by Jostein Gaarder
3. Ender's Game, by Orson Scott Card
1. The Dreamers, by Bernardo Bertolucci
2. The Great Dictator, by Charlie Chaplin
3. The Idiots, by Lars Van Trier
1. The Blue Room, by David Hare
2. Gem of the Ocean, by August Wilson
3. Assassins, by Stephen Sondheim & John Weidman
1. Planescape: Torment
2. Spec Ops: The Line
1. Crab Cakes
2. Super Volcano Rolls (from Red Sushi in Madison)
3. Fried Shrimp
Drinks (In Bottle Form)
1. Rare Wine Co. Historic Series New York Malmsey (best dessert
2. Glenmorangie Lasanta
3. Bols Genever
As for music, my tastes are all over the place--if you like a
genre, chances are I will love something within it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. The Internet: it's basically an extension of my brain at this
2. A good, physical book: no matter where the technology goes, I'll
be alright with it, as I currently read PDFs and text files on my
computer and listen to books on tape, and I could see myself
getting a Kindle or Nook sometime soon for the convenience of
travel (EDIT: Received a Kindle Fire for Christmas; so far have
used it for scripts more often than books). If, however, we end up
living in a world where only virtual copies are sold, I'll be the
stubborn old guy with a house full of books and a printing
3. Good friends: I need them. I have always been lucky enough to
have a few, and I gained two whole fraternal organizations full of
them in college. They are my true family, and no person or
situation could make me give them up. I should add that I'm always
looking for more, and am just as willing and eager to hook up with
awesome people for adventures as I am to hook up with awesome
people for romantic relationships. These things are not mutually
exclusive, by the way.
4. Tolerance: while I generally follow Voltaire's position of
advocating strongly someone else's right to advocate against
everything I believe in, I am heavily intolerant of a closed mind.
The lack of a willingness to at least learn more about things you
know nothing about is an instant dealbreaker for any sort of close
5. Diversity: I can't stand being in a place where people all look
the same, act the same, and have the same interests; it's boring.
When I find such a group I generally try very hard to introduce
them to new people and new things.
6. Hedonism: "the doctrine that pleasure or happiness is the sole
or chief good in life", according to Merriam-Webster. I strongly
believe that one should work hard to make every living moment as
happy and fulfilling as possible--and while some can achieve that
happiness and fulfillment through the proverbial wine, women, and
song, they don't necessarily do so all the time. (I also take
pleasure in reading, dancing, and seeing a good show.) In fact,
there are an infinity of personal pleasures to choose from, and
almost every human being, whether they are aware of it or not, has
their own personal cocktail. As far as I'm concerned, as long as it
doesn't interfere with the happiness of others, an individual's
personal pursuit is up to them--but they shouldn't resist the
pursuit. To quote a Noel Coward play, "life is for living", and
it's the only thing we know for certain is promised to us.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...well, lots of things. Among them:
--Life, as in where I'm going, where my friends are going, and who
out of the many talented people in my life are going to reach the
fame they deserve first
--Love, sex, sexuality, and relationships
--The political zeitgeist and how both the death of democracy and a
people powered revolution are things I am now looking forward to in
and after this last year on the Mayan calendar.
--Pop culture--the history and practice of which I have a somewhat
unhealthy fascination with, though studying its ebbs and flows has
helped me better understand the world around me, from many
--How much my moral values have changed since childhood
--The destructive folly that is organized religion.
--Being in a polyamorous relationship
--How I'm increasingly sure I'm never going to settle down enough
to have kids, and how I feel about that (still unsure)
--Whether anything other than violence or physical abuse is truly
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends, at the Inferno or Plan B, hanging with staff at
one of the King and Main Street area's fabulous bars and
restaurants, or at home working on one of my many personal study
projects--it all depends on the rest of the week and weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am instantly smitten by a woman in fancy (traditionally) male
dress. Androgyny can be an awesome thing.
Also, I'm finally willing to admit I'm one of the few people on
here still looking for love. Not that I expect it or desire it in
every encounter, but there it is.
You should message me if
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--you find this interesting.
--you'd be interested in working on an artistic venture
--you're looking for someone with whom to do fun, crazy,
inappropriate, and/or silly things.
--you enjoy spending hours on the dance floor.
--you have an interest in formal pairs dancing, and wouldn't mind
some refresher lessons--or giving me said lessons yourself.
--you'd like to introduce me to something new and
--you identify as a member of the kink community.
--you're not judging me for having "casual sex" among a lot of
different relationship choices (all of which I'm equally open to
--you identify with this:
--you want to.
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