if you dont know............it means having more than one loving and meaningful and committed relationship-with-integrity simultaneously.
if you think this relationship model doesnt work please ask yourself how well the monogamous model works.
friends first !! :)
i dont like using *poly* or *non-monogamy* or *open-relationship* as they limit by the very act of trying to define.
but in the hope of communication it seems we need to initially attach *words* to things even for just the sake of forming a mental picture for our brain to grasp.
its really just about the freedom for yourself and your significant other(s) to pursue and be available and open to other relationships without having to discard established relationships.
i have recently (december of 2006) discovered that my polyamorous orientation isnt --crazy--.
just out of a 15yr monogamous relationship where we were married for 13yrs and have 2 wonderful children.
ive also had a 10yr live-in relationship prior to that so dont even think that im poly/non-monogamous because i have some kind of problem with -commitment-.
am interested in quality relationships vs quantity.
i also dont meet people with -expectations- about a relationship and prefer to just let things progress without -effort-.
not afraid to roll my eyes and laugh when something happens like accidentally pouring curdled milk into my coffee this morning !! lololol
or like the other morning when i went to put lotion in my hand and got liquid soap instead! lololol :O
or like -this- morning 6.2.2008 when while making breakfast i dropped an egg and tried to stop it with my naked foot before it hit the floor.
duh? :O lolololololol
ive been embracing the tao te ching.
truly believe in universal harmonic resonance/life force/chi/god/hado/goddess and all the other names we have for it.
i love to get to the point in a physical activity like cycling/whitewater kayaking/trail running/martial arts sparring where there is no thought just response.
i am the happiest and most content now than i have ever been. :)
if you were openly flirting with me i probably most likely wouldnt realize it.
so if you want me to know something please just say it.
I am carbonbasedlifeform, pagantaoist, and inventive
it scares me when i see womyn looking for --my other half-- or --someone to complete me--.....please be whole and complete -before- entering into a relationship.