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so_it_goes60615

32 / M / Straight / Single

Chicago, Illinois

His Details

Last Online
Today – 9:40am
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m).
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Religion
Atheism but not too serious about it
Sign
Sagittarius but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Other
Income
Offspring
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I was a nerd before being a nerd became synonymous with quirky. For example, I walked around as a little kid writing in a notebook labeled "Space and Time" when I wasn't busy watching Star Trek or being introverted.

I've grown to be too well-adapted to feel truly at home with old school nerds, but not social enough to feel comfortable with people in general.

The best compromise I found was a group of punk rockers who didn't give a shit about who I was as long as I was a good person. Those friendships are still the most intimate and meaningful relationships I've ever had in my life, and I'm hoping that one day I'll find a similar group of kindred spirits. (Between you/me, I doubt they'll be the kind of people who talk about "kindred spirits".)
What I’m doing with my life
I have my own data science consulting business. It's a constant work in progress, but I'm serious about having a life balanced between academic research, consulting and family/friends.

I'm also finishing my PhD in sociology, looking at how people can end up having extreme religious beliefs when there's nowhere else to meet people except church.
I’m really good at
Understanding, listening, exploring, fixing things, anything with numbers, cursing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: 8 1/2, All That Jazz, Royal Tennenbaums, and if you don't like the Big Lebowski I have serious doubts about our compatibility.

Shows:The Wire, Breaking Bad, Law and Order, Oz

Books: Illusions, Siddhartha, anything Vonnegut but especially Player Piano. I also have a 3" thick book on General Relativity which doubles as a weapon against intruders.

Music: Nick Drake, The Beatles, Rolling Stones, Jimi Hendrix, Dave Brubeck, Pink Floyd (songs over 20 minutes, of late), Yes, Air, XXYYXX
The six things I could never do without
Friends
A purpose in life
Hills
Black comedy
Intelligent debate
Indian food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What it means to be satisfied versus happy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing whatever I want.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
First and foremost, I am willing to lie about how we met.

Also, situations where this image is applicable usually make me inordinately and inappropriately happy: http://i.imgur.com/zaGbV.gif
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–34
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
Given the extremely positive experience of two of my female friends on OkCupid, you should message me if you're a girl named Ben.