Just a few of my good qualities (but don’t take my word for it, find out for yourself)
I don’t like to chase
I don’t run easily
I’m adaptive, sensitive to others feelings, intuitive, and attentive.
I never judge people for being themselves, or their pasts, that’s just part of what made them what they are today
I stick to my values even when they are inconvenient and make my life a lot harder than it needs to be, but that’s what makes them ‘values’
I enjoy communicating on both an emotional and intellectual level. I can be articulate ideas and feelings with uncommon efficiency. I love deep and meaningful talks on nearly anything
I loved to be challenged, my thoughts, ideas and beliefs. When you can use reason and logic, you have a chance to change my world view
I have near infinite patience most of the time, except oddly with computer related matters. If I can’t solve it quickly, I get very frustrated
I understand what my motivational triggers are and what I respond to in others, and I pick the behavior responses that fit my values and minimize the ones that aren’t healthy. More people really should do this!
Honesty and faithful, that's probably the most frustrating words I see people use in dating. Everyone says they want it, but when it life gets complicated/real so many people seem to fold like cheap suit. Honest and/or faithful just when its easy, isn’t really honesty and faithful. Sometimes I think someone needs to create all new words for terms like Honesty, open and faithful...because I see the world around me apply completely different standards/definitions to these words than I expect.
Affectionate and Romantic
You’ll always know where you stand with me, and not afraid to talk about it
I can take a chance and put my heart out there if I think there is a possibility of something meaningful. If you’re mature enough I can turn off the ‘shiny dating veneer’ that people so often put up for months before you can penetrate and find out who they really are …of course after you are already attached!

Elements of me that are useful knowing up front:

I've taken a looong break, I'm pretty ive meet some sort of clause of qaulifing as a born again virgin...so if it may take me a few minutes to come up with something *I think* is clever or witty to introduce myself...or you could make my life easier and just say hi ;)
I’m always willing to try new things
I like to do volunteer work, I need to, it keeps me from getting to self centric
For me there is no greater quality or calling than helping others, I admire and envy those that have been able to make a career in helping to make the world a better Place. My natural talents have lead me down a path that has allowed me to support my daughter and family, but would jump at the chance to do something more meaningful.
Not married
I dote over my daughter, and would sacrifice anything to make her life better
Stable job, worked at my job for the last 10 years and mostly love my job
Own a house (well the bank does)
Own a car (well the bank does)
No drugs...welllll caffeine, but you know
Calm and easy going and slow to anger
Self reflective and well grounded, know what most of my faults are and aware of how other see me
I don’t like the chase, no interest. When it comes to love/intimacy I much prefer connecting with someone, someone getting me, and me getting the chance to seeing the world as they do
I've never let myself be the jealous type.
I prefer low key and drama free
When I’m in a relationship I need real intimacy, to touch, i need that connection, that reminder that we share a bond, though I also respect boundaries like with PDA and smothering someone. Its just when I care about a person, and i had a bad day, and I’m not ready to talk about it, the thing that keeps me going is knowing I'll be able hold them when i see them, until I am ready to talk about it.
Looking for someone with a strong sense of self and has their own mind and challenge me yet willing to give completely (as I am) if we are right for each other.
I don’t require someone to have all their stuff together, its more about how far you’ve gone and where you plan to go. Real life can be messy, and it can be fun to clean up a mess together with the right person.

I've been in a sort of a pseudo hibernation for a few years, just focused on my daughter, my job, my home, and somehow got into the rut of never making time for myself. I finally woke up, and saw a whole world of adventure and new things I’ve never done/seen/experienced to explore, and don’t want to miss another minute. Now really look into the mirror... I feel blessed with a great job, confident and comfortable of myself as a person, my values, my ambitions and my path, my emotional and intellectual maturity. I strive everyday to be a better person. Still, I look in the mirror and don’t see the sleek silhouette i sported before the birth my daughter. Its a fine line between vanity and healthy, and I'm running aggressively down the tightrope to be find the that spot that reflects the best version of myself. If you should happen to be on a similar life journey of getting fit/healthy and good eating, I would welcome a partner in the adventure...but can you keep up? :) If a 'work in process' in this area is off putting, wait 4 months and check back again if I’m still single. :)

If you still are reading and want to know more...
I'm often a contradiction.

Always appreciated my individuality and non conformity but cognizant and care how the people in my life view me.
Thinker and analyzer but impulsive when it comes to having fun
I can immerse myself in deep and meaningful conversations yet often find myself challenged by small talk.
I’ve been a sports jock and a a ultra geek, and both are still elements of me
I am family man but also been a loner, my circle of friends have shrunk but family is the most important thing to me
I'm both a hopeless romantic and practical
I can be a perfectionist and messy at the same time.
Successful and a hot mess, and for a encore I’ve been both at the same time
Ive been a prolific dater and now I don’t want to use any that knowledge and behavior, because its never resulted in anything meaningful. and so I come full circle and have no idea what I'm doing again
Confident and comfortable with who I am and the choices I've made, yet a bit conflicted about some of the results
I have a serious demeanor and can't tell a joke to save my life, and suspect most people probably don’t consider my quirky humor particularly funny but yet I love to laugh and yearn to lose myself in the joy of the moment and not so serious I can’t laugh at myself
I have calm and passive demeanor, but most of my previous jobs were all contrary to that, as I was in the military, Loss prevention Officer , Reserve sheriff, bouncer

What am I doing with my life? I care for my daughter and provide her the home I never had. I have a great job, challanging, it also allows for travel and working from home a lot to spend more time with my daughter! At some point I'll resume my writing career, worked for several publishers, freelance journalist, and writing cultural and political commentary. I'm a volunteer computer lab instructor at my daughters school for the past 5 years. I also love helping any cause that's *actually* helpful and NOT about status or prestiege.

Im quiet and focused, and dote over my daughter and like a simple minimalist style if I have a choice.