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sodapopnskii

36 Olympia, WA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–59
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Education
University
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am looking for:

Casual dating/ friendships.
A great love is rare. I am open to the possibility, but not activity searching for a primary partner at this time.

I am polyamorous. I have a kink play partner I see ~2 times a month and a partner I see 1-4 times a week.

Hello!
My name is Mark.

I am a warm, smart guy. I compromise, share, and believe in helping others. I am silly and can be very ANTI-tough guy at times.

I LOVE:
-History, science, nearly all space sci-fi geek stuff.
-Psychology and theories of social construction.
-Photography, this is my photography work:
flicker.com/photos/marksobba
-Dogs! --I have a 16 year old cat--
-Cupcakes!
-Burritos!
-Curry!
-Long walks!
-Being by water in the early morning.
-The Night.
-Going to movies.
-Crazy conversations made of laughter, fantasy and "What if" games
-Baseball is my religion. The games are my church; it renews my spirit and gives me straighten and hope in my life. I share this hobby with my mother. It allows us a good excuse to spend time together.
--I love our primate cousins the bonobo! This is a group of Bonobos "negotiating" over some apples left by researchers. http://www.youtube.com/bonobohandshake#p/u/3/PW-ssNf_RnE

I have earned my emotional scars. I have been half insane with rejection, hurt, celibacy, and grief and lived to love again. Though I paid dearly for those lessons in my life, I understand love, jealousy, commitment, and relationships on a much greater level than I ever did before.

I really prefer meeting in person. We can get a better feel for each other after a few minutes of talking then several hours of chatting online.

That said:
Kik: mas3778
Fetlife: EnthusiasticYes

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Deal-breakers: Drama Llama Hunters! (Drama happens in our world. But I have little patience for people that seek out drama.) Overly critical people. Republicans. People who are rude to waitstaff. Smokers (no no NO!). I am not interested in booze anymore. A drink with dinner, a few times a year is all I care to intake. People with control, manipulation, and jealousy issues. Yo no hablo Inglés!

Possible Deal-Breakers for you:
1) I am very talkative. I like to have conversations and tell stories (hyperboley forever!). For instance, this is the shortest my profile has ever been :D

2) I hate the phone because I never know when to stop talking without seeing facial ques.

3) I figure I lost about 10 of my 36 years to depression/anxiety. I am however, a person that tries to be positive, happy, objective and forward looking, though it is a daily struggle for me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am 36 and figuring out what I want to do with the rest of this life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
--holding a conversation like a pro. I can chit-chat with
anyone.
--photographer flicker.com/photos/marksobba
--Walking the 6 miles around Capital Lake.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
--my shaved head
--my beard
--my blue eyes
--my glasses and how I say big words sometimes so people think I am smart. Which is sometimes true and sometimes, not so much.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I wish I read more.

Books: a lot of non-fiction (i.e. text books) or graphic novels. Books I have loved: written on the body, sometimes a great notion, in the skin of a lion ... ethical slut, sex at dawn.

Music: I am a total music whore. I spent 5 years as a DJ for a community radio station.

Ani DiFranco is beyond "my favorite band". I have seen Ani in concert ~20 times.

Movies/TV:
I love SCI-FI! BattleStar Galactica Star Trek & Star Wars Babylon 5
FireFly Buffy the Vampire Slayer Angel (All Josh Whedon) StarDust (Neil Gaiman)

I really like comedies. All things Kevin Smith. The Big Lebowski. Howard and Kumar Reno 911

I enjoy foreign (I would watch Juliette Binoche read the phone book!) and indie films.

Food: Burritos is a common food in my house. Curry is life. I enjoy Indian, sushi, BBQ, really nearly every kind of food. I try to eat as little meat as possible and as much fruit and veggies as I can everyday.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
--baseball
--yummy yummy food
--sex/love/affection
--dream world a place to make some kind of art since my desire to make art changes.
--hope
--Insulin I have diabetes. I can manage it without meds but it take a huge amount of effort to control: food, exercise, stress, and sleep. All of which need to be working with me to be off meds :(
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"Making love is like hitting a baseball: you just gotta relax and concentrate."
-- Bull Durham
--baseball

--Batman!

--my photography flicker.com/photos/marksobba and if I will ever take my craft to the next level.

This scene from "Slacker".
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Muo5o2xeq0w

--what I will have for dinner; if I am being healthy that day.
--if I will do some kind of exercise for the day.
--politics and where history is going
--Sex and friendship and relationships and how to get everyone to play nice together.
-- AND how sex is a symbolic action covering various meanings within our lives, connected to the physical, emotional and, if lucky, even spiritual. Sex can be for fun and games without it negating the desire to "make love".
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
--I go for a long 6 mile walk. Coming back to a dinner and watching the baseball game.

--Netflixs

--Looking up stupid stuff on line. (Statistics to history to weird facts that answer questions I might suddenly have.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I read people's "most private thing" first.

I have a different interpretive dance for the opening for each of the different Doctors. I might even show you.

I like Kevin Smith movies and podcasts way too much.

Rachel Maddow is my celebrity crush. I think that says more about me than any other single thing in this profile.

In addition to being poly and kinky, I am an ethical slut. The ethical part is very important to me.

Sharing half a unit of marijuana once a week (or so) is really nice for me, and VERY nice for my partner.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
1) You want to do some photography. flicker.com/photos/marksobba

2) Want to meet and chat because you think we might click.

3) To Guys looking for friendship... Though I am sure you are a good person, I wanted to let you know it does take me awhile before I am comfortable around men.

4) You read this whole thing (can you believe this is the short version!) you deserve a reward, like a cupcake. Give me an email and I will buy you one.