"Making love is like hitting a baseball: you just gotta relax and concentrate."
-- Bull Durham

I am poly or I only do poly relationships or poly relationships are my romantic preference.

--My "Girlfriend for Life" Adjha is in Olympia. We see each other 2-3 weekends out of the month.
--I flirt A LOT. Come flirt with me :D

I am looking for:

1) A relationship that is more intimate than friends with benefits but not quite a girlfriend. Or a girlfriend that is not asking for courtship. It is a relationship I don't have a word for.
2) Ethical lovers/Play partners
3) Platonic and non-platonic friendships who want to hang out and maybe cuddle.

Further information can be read on my journal.

Hello!
My name is Mark.

I am a warm, smart guy. I compromise, share, and believe in helping others. I am silly and can be very ANTI-tough guy at times.

I LOVE:
-History, science, nearly all space sci-fi geek stuff.
-Psychology and theories of social construction.
-Photography This is my photography work:
flicker.com/photos/marksobba
-Dogs! (I have two cats now.)
-Cupcakes!
-Burritos!
-Curry!
-Long walks!
-Being by water in the early morning.
-The Night.
-Go to movies.
-Crazy conversations made of laughter, fantasy and "What if" games
-Baseball is my religion. The games are my church; it renews my spirit and gives me straighten and hope in my life. I share this hobby with my mother. It allows us a good excuse to spend time together.
--I love our primate cousins the bonobo! This is a group of Bonobos "negotiating" over some apples left by researchers. http://www.youtube.com/bonobohandshake#p/u/3/PW-ssNf_RnE

I have earned my emotional scars. I have been half insane with rejection, hurt, celibacy, and grief and lived to love again. Though I paid dearly for those lessons in my life, I understand love, jealousy, commitment, and relationships on a much greater level than I ever did before.

I really prefer meeting in person. We can get a better feel for each other after a few minutes of talking then several hours of chatting online.

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Deal-breakers: Drama Llama Hunters! (Drama happens in our world. But I have little patience for people that seek out drama.) Overly critical people. Republicans. People who are rude to waitstaff. Smokers (no no NO!). Marijuana is nice but more than once a week is far too much! I am not all that interested in booze anymore. People with control, manipulation, and jealousy issues. Yo no hablo Inglés!

Possible Deal-Breakers for you:
1) I am very talkative. I like to have conversations and tell stories (hyperboley forever!). For instance, this is the shortest my profile has ever been :D

2) I hate the phone because I never know when to stop talking without seeing facial ques.

3) I figure I lost about 10 of my 34 years to depression/anxiety. I am however, a person that tries to be positive, happy, objective and forward looking, though it is a daily struggle for me.

I am 35 and figuring out what I want to do with the rest of this life.

--holding a conversation like a pro. I can chit-chat with
anyone.
--photographer flicker.com/photos/marksobba
--Walking the 6 miles around Capital Lake.

--my shaved head
--my beard
--my blue eyes
--my glasses and how I say big words sometimes so people think I am smart. Which is sometimes true and sometimes, not so much.

I wish I read more.

Books: a lot of non-fiction (i.e. text books) or graphic novels. Books I have loved: written on the body, sometimes a great notion, in the skin of a lion ... ethical slut, sex at dawn.

Music: I am a total music whore. I spent 5 years as a DJ for a community radio station.

Ani DiFranco is beyond "my favorite band". I have seen Ani in concert ~20 times.

Movies/TV:
I love SCI-FI! BattleStar Galactica Star Trek & Star Wars Babylon 5
FireFly Buffy the Vampire Slayer Angel (All Josh Whedon) StarDust (Neil Gaiman) The Big Lebowski.

I love foreign (I would watch Juliette Binoche read the phone book!) and indie films!

Food: Burritos is a common food in my house. Curry is life. I enjoy Indian, sushi, BBQ, really nearly every kind of food. I try to eat as little meat as possible and as much fruit and veggies as I can everyday.

--baseball
--yummy yummy food
--sex/love/affection
--dream world a place to make some kind of art since my desire to make art changes.
--hope
--Insulin I have diabetes. I can manage it without meds but it take a huge amount of effort to control: food, exercise, stress, and sleep. All of which need to be working with me to be off meds :(

--Batman!

--my photography flicker.com/photos/marksobba and if I will ever get it to a really good level.
--baseball
--what I will have for dinner; if I am being healthy that day.
--if I will do some kind of exercise for the day.
--politics and where history is going
--Sex and friendship and relationships and how to get everyone to play nice together.
-- AND how sex is a symbolic action covering various meanings within our lives, connected to the physical, emotional and, if lucky, even spiritual. Sex can be for fun and games without it negating the desire to "make love".

--I go for a long 6 mile walk. Coming back to a dinner and watching the baseball game.

--Watching a movie.

--Looking up stupid stuff on line. (Statistics to history to weird facts that answer questions I might suddenly have.)

I read people's "most private thing" first.

I like Kevin Smith's movies and podcasts way too much.

In addition to being poly and kinky, I am an ethical slut. The ethical part is very important to me.

1) You want to do some photography. flicker.com/photos/marksobba

2) Want to meet and chat because you think we might click.

3) To Guys looking for friendship... My opinion of males, in general, is very low. It takes a long time before I trust men, and only rarely do I seek out their friendship. Though I am sure you are a good person, I wanted to let you know it does take me awhile before I am comfortable around men.

4) You read this whole thing (can you believe this is the short version!) you deserve a reward, like a cupcake. I know a place. Give me an email and I will buy you one. ... Well, I knew a place in Olympia. I have moved to Seattle and trying to learn all about the new cupcake/dessert places in the direct areas of Seattle.