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softlord

35 Atlanta, GA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 26–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I often make bad puns, but I mean well. I come off as more intense than I am, sometimes. Scooter is the best Muppet.

Inspired by Jim Henson, Groucho Marx, Amy Poehler, Laci Green and Alton Brown.

In an open relationship. Also looking for kickass friends to invite to dinner parties.

I'm a feminist because women are awesome and get treated disgustingly by society and also because what society tells us men should be is pretty abhorrent, and the success of feminism fixes both of these things in that order.
What I’m doing with my life
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Used to work for record labels, while that was still a viable thing. Scored my share of free CDs and stories about hanging out with artists.

I have a freelance biz aimed at creating online audio and video telling the stories behind how things came to be. Also I make websites for small organizations, because restaurant and B&B websites are the worst.

When it's nice out, I take my fancy (Canon) DSLR out and take pictures of whatever happens to catch my eye.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Recommending music, being curious rather than judgmental, combining flavors to make awesome iced tea, making Muppet references in everyday conversation.

I also make kickass brownies. Fudgy, not cakey.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Tall. Look younger than I am. Three arms.

Oh also that I'm not wearing any pants.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books. Recent favorites include Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain, This Is Your Brain On Music, Predictably Irrational. On the fiction side, I digmagical realism such as Douglas Adams, Neil Gaiman, Matt Ruff and such. More on my GoodReads profile, of course.

Movies. My all time favorite movie (at the moment is Almost Famous). I love all things Muppet (while Jim/Jerry were still alive), and documentaries about food. Feel free to make me watch them, though I've already seen Jiro Dreams of Sushi.

Music. last.fm says my most played artists are Crowded House, Apparat, The Weepies, A Tribe Called Quest and David Bowie. I suppose that's a start. (softlord is my name on there if you're curious for more). If you have bands on your list that I haven't heard, I will listen and I will message you about them. It's pretty rare that it happens, though. :)

Podcasts.Harmontown, Comedy Bang! Bang!, Cheap Heat.

TV Shows. The West Wing, 3-2-1 Contact, NewsRadio, Everwood, Better Off Ted, BritComs. Those pretty much sum me up. Currently: GoT (like everyone else), Parks and Recreation, Broad City, Black-Ish, @midnight.

Food. Sushi, Thai food, Golden Grahams, dark chocolate (milk chocolate is BS. Seriously, what is that stuff?), homemade baked ziti when the cheese is a little burned so it has a crispy crunchy shell on it, paper-thin slices of prosciutto, chewy oatmeal cookies.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Curiosity
- Tea (Find me on Steepster.)
- Hugs (I am an awesome hugger.)
- The half-second before a first kiss
- Slow deep breaths
- Wordplay and silliness.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cooking dinner, catching up on DVR, sitting on the porch if it's nice out. I'm boring on Fridays. You should see me on Tuesdays, though.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Sometimes I like to be the little spoon. Don't tell anyone.
You should message me if
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I'm in an monogamish relationship with the insanely awesome alamo_basement. I consider non-exclusivity to be a feature of my relationship, rather than a core component of my overall identity. If you message her, don't be an idiot or we will both read your message and laugh and laugh.

YAY: If you're on a path. If you smile back. If you're silly and enjoy mischief. If you like to cook and be cooked for. If you have your shit together enough to know that nobody really has their shit together. If you wanna talk monogamy and non-monogamy. If you're interested in making a new friend-maybe-flirting-partner-maybe-makeout-partner-maybe-more.

BOO: If you put "if I told you, it wouldn't be private" in the "The most private thing I'm willing to admit here." field or complain about the length of the "about me" section. Come on now.