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softlord

36 Atlanta, GA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 26–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:20am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
Rather not say
Status
Open relationship
Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"I'm a simple man. I like pretty, dark-haired women and breakfast food" -Ron Swanson

I also make kickass brownies. Fudgy, not cakey. If you're lucky, I'll make you some.

Inspired by Jim Henson, Groucho Marx, Amy Poehler, Laci Green and Alton Brown.

In an open relationship. Also looking for friends to invite to dinner parties.

I'm a feminist because women are awesome and get treated disgustingly by society and also because what society tells us men "should be" is pretty abhorrent, and the success of feminism addresses both of these things in that order.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Used to work for record labels, while that was still a viable thing. Scored my share of free CDs and stories about hanging out with artists. Friends with Lil Jon on Facebook.

I have a freelance biz aimed at creating online audio and video telling the stories behind how things came to be. Also I make websites for small organizations, because restaurant and B&B websites are the worst with their flash intros and music playing and nonsense.

When it's nice out, I take my fancy (Canon) DSLR out and take pictures of whatever happens to catch my eye.

Attempting to stay on the right side of the war between getting into better shape (thanks, FitBit, for pushing me to take walks) and perfecting my baking skills. Want some cookies?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Recommending music, being curious rather than judgmental, combining flavors to make awesome iced tea, making really bad puns (sorry in advance).

I play a bunch of instruments with varying degrees of skill, and was an DJ of 80s music in New York for a bunch of years.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorites are hard. Here are some lists of things I think are awesome.

Books. Recent favorites include Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain, This Is Your Brain On Music, and the ?uestlove autobiography. On the fiction side, I dig magical realism such as Douglas Adams, Neil Gaiman, Matt Ruff and such. More on my GoodReads profile, of course.

Movies. My all-time favorite movie (at the moment) is Almost Famous. It frequently switches off with Empire Records. I love all things Muppet (mostly from when Jim/Jerry were still alive), and documentaries about food. Feel free to make me watch them, though I've already seen Jiro Dreams of Sushi.

Music. last.fm says my most played artists are Crowded House, Apparat, The Weepies, A Tribe Called Quest and David Bowie. I suppose that's a start. (softlord is my name on there if you're curious for more). If you have bands on your list that I haven't heard, I will listen and I will message you about them. It's pretty rare that it happens, though. :)

Podcasts. Harmontown, Comedy Bang! Bang!, Tara Brach.

TV Shows. The West Wing, 3-2-1 Contact, NewsRadio, Everwood, Better Off Ted, BritComs. Those pretty much sum me up. Currently: GoT (like everyone else), Parks and Recreation, Broad City, Black-Ish, @midnight, Kroll Show.

Food. Sushi, Thai food, Golden Grahams, dark chocolate (milk chocolate is BS. Seriously, what is that stuff?), homemade baked ziti when the cheese is a little burned so it has a crispy crunchy shell on it, paper-thin slices of prosciutto, chewy oatmeal cookies.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Curiosity
- Tea (Find me on Steepster.)
- Hugs (I am an awesome hugger.)
- The half-second before a first kiss
- Slow deep breaths
- Wordplay.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How and why "sarcastic" became a selling point.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cooking dinner, catching up on DVR, sitting on the porch if it's nice out. I'm boring on Fridays. You should see me on Tuesdays, though.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Sometimes I like to be the little spoon. Don't tell anyone.
You should message me if
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I'm in an monogamish relationship with the amazing alamo_basement. I consider non-exclusivity to be a feature of my relationship, rather than a core character trait of my being.

YAY: If you're on a path. If you smile back. If you're silly and revel in harmless mischief. If you like to cook and be cooked for. If you have your shit together enough to know that nobody really has their shit together. If you enjoy long meandering conversations over caffeinated beverages at a shop where the staff knows our names and default orders. If you're interested in making a new friend-maybe-flirting-partner-maybe-makeout-partner-maybe-more.

BOO: If you put "if I told you, it wouldn't be private" in the "The most private thing I'm willing to admit here." field or complain about the length of the "about me" section. Come on now.