Okay, I'm being dramatic for effect, but let me explain… When we write an online profile we’re essentially revealing ourselves, but the trick is to strike a balance - revealing enough to assess if there is common ground, but not revealing too much, given the lack of context, that it gives the wrong impression. If this resonates with you, let me know so that I don’t continue to think that I’m the only aspiring exhibitionist with prudish tendencies here on OkC. If you think I’m the only AEwPT, then let me know too!
I'm starting off my strip tease with a quote that reflects my attitude on growth:
"The greatest gift you can give to somebody is
Your own personal development.
I used to say, 'if you will take care of me,
I will take care of you.'
Now I say, 'I will take care of me for you,
If you will take care of you for me.'"
I was the first in my family of six to go to college and the first to go to graduate school. I’m a creative problem solver with a high emotional IQ, which I think most would say is a pretty good balance. I also have a strong sense of community and enjoy spending time with my family and friends. I’m a very hands-on dad. I adore my kids and they're a priority in my life ...for right now that is, until I find a pet Iguana that doesn't throw tantrums or demand that I cook their favorite dish, which for right now is pad thai, for the umpteenth time in a week. I enjoy trying out new recipes, however, my children, adventurous as they are compared to their peers, still have fairly under-developed palates. My friends, on the other hand, are another story…
I have two groups of friends that I get together with on a fairly regular basis for meals and recreational activities. Since these are two separate groups, we get together for different occasions, and so I have my social calendar very well balanced with my need for family and me time. It also works out well because with one group we all take turns hosting and so I get to taste different dishes and then experiment with different dishes when it’s my turn to host.
The other group of friends I met through ballroom dancing. I enjoy ballroom dancing, which I’m getting back into after an eight-month absence when I was in a relationship with someone who did not dance. And it wasn't because she didn't want to try, but simply because we were busy doing a lot of other things we both enjoyed. I've been easing back into the dance scene over the past five months when that relationship ended.
I listen to NPR to stay informed and TED Talks to be inspired. I don't have a green thumb, but decided to start a vegetable and herb garden this year, so that'll tell you that I'm willing to stretch myself (in a non-yoga way) and try new things. You may be thinking "so what's the big deal?". Since you don't yet know me you won't know that I absolutely abhor yard work… 'nuff said.