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36 / M / straight / Single

Montreal, Quebec, Canada

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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 10" (1.77m).
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New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Religion
Other and laughing about it
Sign
Leo and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Construction / Craftsmanship
Income
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes cats
Languages
English, French

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I am creative, friendly, and introverted.

My Self-Summary

im creative artistic musical.

im introverted spend alot of time alone and can feel awkward when meeting new people. a bit shy. im friendly though.

once i know you though i can sometimes talk to much and about the most trivial items. for example i just transplanted my green pepper plants to a new pot. oh how excited you are to know that im sure. ha

i am somewhat obsessed about social issues and human behavior.

love science stuff.

geeky.

not mainstream

trying to always improve myself. not always as motivated as i wish. can be guilty of stagnation and even regression. i fall but i get back up again.

enjoy being in nature. love camping and canoeing hiking, walking, cycling, yoga. enjoy going to concerts or any cultural event. grabbing a drink at a local pub,

its always more fun to do many of these things with a beautiful smart woman. its great to share life experiences and make new ones.

What I’m doing with my life

im trying to gain more creativity, health, and knowledge

I’m really good at

listening to others when im not talking too much about myself

photography
playing guitar classical and folk style fingerpicking acoustic instrumental.

playing harmonica.

composing music.

creative writing,

cycling long distance

refinishing wood furniture

procrastinating unfortunately i spend much time thinking about things i would like to do but dont do them as soon as i could.

The first things people usually notice about me

im polite, a bit shy.

sometimes talk too much or dont talk much at all.

tolerant but sometimes impatient

serious yet surprisingly at times able to make people laugh.

very open once i am comfortable to talk.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

currently reading henrik ibsen wild duck

books: i like to read them.
last read:
henrik ibsen - enemy of the people, ghost and doll house.
ursula LeGuin ive only read the dispossessed and the left hand of darkness im planning to read more by her,

i like books that challenge conventional wisdom. i want to have my thought patterns challenged. i want to see things differently. social political issues. philosophical based. sci fi fantasy that inteligently examines human/social behavior.

i always forget the titles and authors. i remember the ideas i enjoyed and grow from the experience. i rarely care to discuss for the sake of discussing what books ive read. i journal any inspiring quotes from what ive read. when looking for my next read i refer back to past books read. i trust a few friends to recommend books as well.

music - im very open minded about music but i prefer instrumental and ethnic exotic foreign music. flamenco, classical sufi music, music from india, china, japan pakistan, mongolian overtone singing, acoustic guitar stuff, folk,...
i can handle a dose of almost any style depending on the mood im in.

recent listening i like: Natalie Merchant, joanna newsom, iron and wine, young and sexy, jill barber, Death Cab for Cutie, Ani Difranco, Radiohead, The Smiths, ...

food: i try to eat healthy but not very sucessful at it. i have a terrible eating schedule. no junk food in my house but i do go out a lot to eat. i dont eat meat but will sometimes eat fish.

i like documentaries. something else to make my think and possibly get my blood boiling over some terrible thing government or corporations are doing unethically. then i obsess about the remedies for human kind to self us from ourselves. how foolish. i frustrate myself so much doing this.

The six things I could never do without

my guitar and camera - to be able to listen to, see, and to create inspiring sounds and images.

new ideas that break with convention and improve the human condition.

a peaceful living environment with a comfortable bed

the ability to see the beauty in the world and in people - sensitivity to the beauty around me

hope

patience to tolerate that which is not so beautiful

I spend a lot of time thinking about

my friends and family,

social issues,

creative projects, photography, music,

current things i need to do and probably have been putting off for too long

the meaning of life

the differences and similarities between people and what motivates us all,

science,

spirituality, philosophy,

my dreams, my actions, emotional motivation for my responses to life events,

the lack of justice and fairness in the world. unethical human behavior and the remedy to save us all from our own undoing.

free education.

human nature - greed, motivation, creativeness. the darkness and light in us all

On a typical Friday night I am

i spend a lot of time alone and wish for some good company and more excitement on any night of the week. an activity partner. someone to make experiences with and share life with. i dont go out enough and wish i did.

i dont give special attention to fridays since my work schedule is flexible.

i am often out with a book and pen and paper to a local bar or diner to read and write and relax but could surely benifit from something a bit more fun.

always welcoming the chance to meet someone interesting and new to chat with.

You should message me if

you want a guy with whom
...you can share your dreams sorrows joys and secrets with,
...is trustworthy, kind considerate compassionate polite,
...enjoys and is very willing to listen, share, and cooperate,
...is interested in being an activity partner to go do fun things and build wonderful memories,
...is laid back, down to earth trying always to be more and more relaxed and calm, open to new ideas
...isnt perfect but desires and is willing to receive constructive criticism delivered in a caring friendly way. is willing to return the favor.
...doesnt wish to rush through life,
...enjoys the little moments in life,
...doesnt want any drama but rather open discussions