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  • Ages 34-60
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Last online
Nov 26
Black, Native American, Other
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Might want kids
My self-summary
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I'm a life-long New Yorker, highly creatively inclined (photography and writing, mostly), more interested in creating art and culture than merely consuming it. Music's a big deal in my life as well (especially, but hardly limited to orchestral & chamber music). Prefer an hour on the bicycle to an hour of TV, a fountain pen to a keyboard (obviously adept with both), a film with a good story to anything in 3D (and often a good book to either). A walk through an unfamiliar part of the city can be inspiring
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Non-specific answer: Living it.

More-specific answer:
What I Have To Do: Freelance computer tech. (Actually not that unpleasant...just don't throw the "G" word around me too much.)

What I Love To Do and Work Pretty Damned Hard At: fine-art photographer. (This covers a lot of territory; just ask.)

Trying to live by the simple edict of Blooming Where You're Planted. (Thank you, Mary Engelbreit.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- All sorts of problem-solving: fixing broken stuff, unsticking wickets, etc. I think it's a childhood trait.

- Listening/empathy. (Most of the time.)

- Other stuff. I'm pretty sure of that.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That depends...but it's nice being noticed for something nice!
(But, usually: upbeat, approachable, warm, patient.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music: Lots of orchestral/chamber works (ancient to classical to some contemporary); an eclectic mix of jazz, pop and rock (Example: last "classical" album purchased: Emerson Quartet's Old World/New World; last "pop" album purchased: Patti Smith's Banga)

Books: Last nonfiction read: James Glieck's "Faster: The Acceleration of Just About Everything"; Last fiction read: "Hotel Angeline" (still reading; numerous authors); others (of course).

Favorite movies: Brazil; Wings of Desire; West Side Story (a tiny part of which I actually saw being filmed); Man Facing Southeast; anything directed by Sergio Leone; almost anything directed by Mike Leigh; Most anything directed by hometown fave John Turturro (Romance and Cigarettes was sweet, outrageous fun, while Passione was everything a great documentary should be, and too often isn't); Much of the Coen Brothers' canon; almost nothing directed by Jerry Bruckheimer: others (of course).

Food: mostly simple dishes, well-executed. (not always as easy as it sounds.)

Favorite Quote of the Moment: "I've gotten old enough that I want to be paid for my drama. I don't want drama in my life anymore." - Tyne Daly.

Inscrutable Quote of the Moment: “Private equity is a little like sex. When it’s good, it’s very, very good. When it’s bad, it’s still pretty good.” - Howard Anderson, M.I.T.

My-Kind-of-Gal Quote of the Moment: “People look better in black and white — it’s so much more powerful.” - Kirsten Dunst.

Fantastic Quote for the Ages: “My heart makes me tick, and it’s my heart that makes me do these things. I don’t think I have any better answer than that, except that everyone is built a little differently, and my heart and my will and my desires are mixed up with challenge.” - Betty Skelton, 1926-2011
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Let's qualify that heading a bit: this is a list of things I obviously could live without, but would very much prefer not to:

In no particular order:

- My music collection (and something halfway-decent to listen to it on)

- My photo goes back decades, and tells a lot about who I am and where I've been.

- My cameras, for obvious reasons. (And film. Don't get started with me about digital.)

- My Fair City. Yes, NYC. Warts and all.

- My bicycles. The better to explore the above with.

- Time. For everything listed, and sometimes for doing nothing at all. Never undervalue "idle" time.

- (6a) Desire. Holding hands with Time, spinning possibilities from life's many threads, grand and small, cerebral and (decidedly!) earthy.

(You ask, "What about food/water/shelter/family/friends?" We ALL need at least most of those things, but I don't think that's what's being asked here.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
(This is a dating site...what do you think I think about, albeit not every 45 minutes?)


- My next one-person exhibit. Several ideas, lots to think over.

- Making The Art 150% self-sustainable. Entirely possible, but it doesn't happen by itself.

- Fighting the good fight against the current craziness the country finds itself in. (And kicking the current Commander in Chief in the shins to grow an FDR-thickness spine.)

- The fact that my LP collection is apparently one-tenth the size of Haruki Murakami's. (Time to start reading him, I guess?)

- Reminder to myself (and other menfolk): HER "lust" is for life, too.

- Nimet Habachy. (Relax...I mean via radio [WQXR]. Glad that she's back.)

- 256 Shades of Grey. That's how photographers do it. ;-)

- Why *this* isn't our "alternate" National Anthem:

- How, at its current rate of growth, NYU will likely edge out Puerto Rico in
becoming our 51st state by 2025.

- Just how many people on OKC have gotten a gander at this:


- How a piece of music such as Debussy's Suite bergamasque can pass through hands as diverse as Jean-Yves Thibaudet and Tomita and still remain true and identifiable, yet utterly transformed. It's been well over twenty-five years, and I still ponder this. Am I deep, or just dense?

- How, to a large extent, if it wasn't for Steve Jobs, we wouldn't be doing this right now.

- How I've completely gone off the idea of making oneself "ready" for a relationship. You can supposedly have all your ducks in a row (career, home, personal trainer et cetera), run your loveworthy flag up the pole and find no one in the mood for saluting. The most significant loves of my life occurred when none of the above was at all together, yet great things happened. It's not a question of when you're "ready" in the superfluous sense, but whether you're set to yell "Geronimo!" when the moment presents itself.

- (WARNING: Late Night Thought While Listening to Elgar's Children's Suite No. 2): How, as an industrialized nation, we used to build things to a standard; now we design things to a business model.

- How, in the end, I think most of us are looking for something that feels...well, like this:

- Why the idea of "THE one" isn't so hot to me:


Love's the erratic comet, following the most uneven trajectory imaginable: you can try and trace its path, mark the spot and guess the moment it will appear, even build your own damn rocket and try to chase it, and it all comes to naught...until the night something appears from the corner of your eye, out of nowhere, and suddenly it's all blinding sparkling reality-defying wonder, lighting up everything inside and out. Then, at some undetermined point, it leaves, but you've been moved, and changed, and you know there's nothing in the world like this. At all.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
a) Out on the bike (pedal-powered variety)
b) Out with a few friends for drinks
c) Possibly working (the freelancer's curse)
d) Home, editing photos/reading/writing/Just Chilling Out (and not moping about it)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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(Updated weekly-ish): I have a thing for Kyra Sedgwick. That's as "private" as I get on here. So sue me.
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