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23 Skillman, NJ Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 22–30
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Today – 4:31pm
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm Melissa. I'm a psych major with a Brit-Lit twist. ENFP. Grad school is somewhere in the works, as is living abroad. I'm relentlessly optimistic, completely sarcastic, passionate, energetic, and a bit too smart for my own good. I absolutely refuse to take myself too seriously, and I use far too many modifiers. I love my dogs more than anything in the world. If you can make me laugh, and hard, and tolerate the occasional nerdgasm, I'm yours.
What I’m doing with my life
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Studying, working with special-needs children, looking at grad schools, angsting about the future, getting my shit together, and traveling (Barcelona, Madrid x2, and Dublin comprised summer 2k12).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
rationalizations, witticisms, escapism, seeing just about everything on the internet before you can show me. Things I'm really bad at: being succinct.
The first things people usually notice about me
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"Hi I'm a mildly attractive 24[23] year old with Internet access and a camera and a handle on sarcasm aren't I precious" --@trolleycat
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Anything Jane Austen, anything John Green, especially The Fault in our Stars, the Hunger Games trilogy, Hitchhiker's Guide, The Handmaid's Tale, Catch 22, the Princess Bride, The Catcher in the Rye, Spanking Shakespeare, Outliers. A Song of Ice and Fire. Just finished Gone Girl, which was phenomenally damaged in the best way. Trying to make a list of high-brow classics and reading young adult trash instead.

Movies: The Princess Bride, hands down. Also anything Monty Python or Mel Brooks. Animal House. Grosse Pointe Blank. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Across the Universe. Pirate Radio. Ever After. Wedding Crashers. The Bourne trilogy. Tangled and How to Train your Dragon. The Fall. 10 Things I Hate About You. Man on Fire.

Shows: How I Met Your Mother, Hell's Kitchen, Chopped, House, The Big Bang Theory, Modern Family, Kitchen Confidential, Arrested Development, Top Gear (the British version is the only real version.)

Music: A little bit of everything (Meaning I have notoriously terrible taste in music but my taste is eclectic enough to cover most genres.)

Food: Sushi!

Punctuation marks: the semicolon, followed closely by the Oxford comma. It's a lost art, really.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My dogs
A steady supply of books
My car
Internet access
My phone, unfortunately
And I could probably do without hockey tickets, but what a sad world that would be.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Exploring a lot of what-ifs, a nearly constant reel of song lyrics and movie quotes, potential and impractical thesis topics, and how to be vague in as many words as possible.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
making poor life choices, generally.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I will happily ignore everything and everyone around me if there is a friendly puppy in my immediate vicinity who will roll around on the floor with me.

Also, I've known more about hockey than every guy I've ever dated. It's fine, I'm a lady.
You should message me if
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you're totally fine with someone who spends more time diagnosing the personality disorders of reality stars than investing any attention to their day-to-day lives. Bonus points if you're articulate.