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31 New York, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30-38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 6:10pm
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has dogs and Has cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
In general, I seem to get along best with people who have opinions, but not those whose highest opinion is of themselves. I like conversationalists. Thinkers. Slightly giddy touchy-feely people, who think reason is sexy and unreason is a fight-club for the self-interested. Except when its mystical. I like people who enjoy mystery, but aren't culty about it. I like people who like to laugh. I like people who dance when everyone's watching. Because they know they can. People who don't mind fragments, if it renders the right effect. I like people who know the difference between effect and affect, and who still manage to confuse the two. I like people who sometimes sleep-in because they were thinking all night about the painfully irrelevant. I like nature over nurture, and those who forgive their parents for screwing up. I like people who think farting is funny, and don't think women should be the tormented shadows of photoshop. I like people who appreciate poetry, and money. And those who are willing to do without both to piss off their mom. I like people who are familiar with failure because they try too hard. I think if I had more to drink, I could keep going....

Does anyone else think this is just another online shopping site?

proviso: please do not email me blatantly sexual observations. I do not care how much you bench press. I do care about everything else. If you have a sense of humor and a modicum of intelligence, use it. Otherwise, I'm fair game. Giddyup.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm in Development.

Also: I make plays, publish articles, scan poetry well into the early hours and travel frequently. I'm working on the libretto for an opera. I'm working on a novel. I'm distracted by the concept of getting to work on time. I probably should work harder.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Talking to myself out loud--typically about something lewd. But that's because I have a foul mouth, a loud laugh. And I like to talk.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My eyes. And my inordinate desire to say something I've just said.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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extensive list follows:

James Agee, Ashbery, Artaud, Berryman, Bernhard, Charles Bernstein (sometimes...), Elizabeth Bishop, Robin Blaser, Blake, Borges, Anne Bradstreet, Beckett, Brecht, Breton, Buchner, Burroughs, Hart Crane, Carson, Emily Dickenson, Kafka, Musil, Joyce, Seneca, Charles Olson, Alexander Poe, Woolf, Creeley, Chekhov, Shakespeare, Laura Riding, Sontag, Stein, Stevens, Walser, Williams, O'neill, Yeats...this is stupid. I like to read.

My favorite room is the periodicals room...I take 3 chairs and sit
all day with a stack of journals.

Music: Harry Nilsson, Frank Zappa, Conlon Nancarrow, Noir Désir, Lou Reed, Alexis H.K. Nick Cave, David Bowie, Talking heads, beatles, rolling stones, pixies, meredith monk, Tom Waits, Ray Charles, Martha Argerich, Gidon Kremer, Sviatoslav Richter, monk, thelonious monk, bach, beethoven, mozart, ravel, boulez, international contemporary ensemble is just great...mario davidovsky, Astor Piazzolla, messiaen, ligeti, xenakis, berg, webern, schonberg, elvis, bartok, feldman, nono, cage, berio, scelsi, elliot carter, terry riley, pauline oliveros, la monte young, brian eno, david byrne, georges brassens, jacques brel, edith piaf, patsy cline, leonard cohen...this is also getting silly, uhn...mahalia jackson, michael jackson, simon & garfunkle, the doors, dylan, kinks, eric clapton (early stuff), stevens, nina simone, ella & louie; I'm going to stop there.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
sunlight, fresh air, time, space, companionship (read: animals, friends, family, art/literature)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
deadlines vs death.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
working...or evidently scoping out guys on okcupid
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm willing to admit most things to most people, whether they are true or not. Suffice it to say, a personals platform is not the best place to do so.
You should message me if
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you are funny, intelligent and good with your hips.

Also: must like cats. Must secretly want a cat for a girlfriend. ...I am that cat.