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35 Northfield, MN Man


I’m looking for

  • Men who like men
  • Ages 24–39
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:52pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am at various times a critic, a cook, a formidable Scrabble opponent, a dance partner, a less than formidable tennis opponent, a tourist, a teacher, a big brother, a writer, a goofball, a pedestrian, a makes-up-in-enthusiasm-what-he-lacks-in-talent singer, a Phillies fan, and an avid conversationalist.
What I’m doing with my life
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I grew up as a math-and-sciencey kid in the midwest and headed to Swarthmore as a prospective chemistry major, but changed tracks partway and got degrees in art history and music. After a couple years, I went back for a PhD in musicology from Michigan. Now patching together a satisfying if parapatetic career in academia.

If all else fails, Plan B is to open an all-male bakery called Pastriarchy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I won Punderdome ("NYC's most puntastic pun competition") on my first try. I'm finding that this is not a marketable skill, but I was recognized twice while walking around Brooklyn.

Also good at cooking, Scrabble and Boggle, overthinking, and keeping a positive attitude.

I aim to be better at baking bread, editing my own work, and making playlists.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My location, unless I'm sneaking up on them or they are looking at their phone while walking.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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_Best of the Best_
Book: The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay (Chabon)
Movie: Singin' in the Rain
TV show: Season 6 of the Simpsons
Stage show: Sweeney Todd
Stage production: Lincoln Center's revival of South Pacific
Music: Mahler, Symphony No. 9
Live Concert: Singalong with Pete Seeger at the Newport Folk Festival
Artist: Paul Cezanne
Food: Fruit pies with ice cream
Drink: mulled cider

_Other favorites_
Books: Never Let Me Go (Ishiguro); Freedom (Franzen); The Art of Fielding (Harbach); Atonement (McEwan); The Poisonwood Bible (Kingsolver)

Movies: Annie Hall, Another Year, Bringing Up Baby, The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, Dr. Strangelove, Exit Through the Gift Shop, Grand Illusion, Her, Nashville, Ratatouille, Sherlock Jr., The Social Network, Stories We Tell, Talk to Her, There Will Be Blood, Tree of Life, Tokyo Story, Touch of Evil, Vertigo

TV shows: Arrested Development, Sports Night, West Wing, Flight of the Conchords, Friday Night Lights, 30 Rock, Veep

Music: Charles Ives, Antonin Dvorak, The Avett Brothers, Gustav Mahler, Benjamin Britten, The Head and the Heart, Vampire Weekend, Sufjan Stevens, Leonard Bernstein, Ella Fitzgerald, Steve Reich, The National, Gabriel Yared, Stephen Sondheim, Josh Ritter, David Lang, Bock and Harnick, Of Montreal, The Lumineers, Kacey Musgraves, Dr. Dog, San Fermin, Francis Poulenc

Food: Guacamole, sweet potato fries, sourdough bread, dark chocolate, barbecue, cheese, ginger anything, mango
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
(1) Deceptive cadences
(2) The Criterion Collection
(3) Maps
(4) The New Yorker and the Sunday NYTimes Crossword over late breakfast
(5) This American Life and All Songs Considered podcasts
(6) Overhearing conversations in museums
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Music, since it's my vocation. I'm definitely a fan of talking about any cultural experience after I've had it.

Whatever I've been reading about or observing lately. Recently: the role of orchestras in the 21st century, standardized testing, the aesthetics of documentaries, and the evolution of language.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
keeping myself entertained, usually: board games, a movie, an orchestra concert, dinner and conversation with good friends, reading, contra dancing, baking a pie and eating it while watching old episodes of The Simpsons. You're welcome to join in.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
On multiple occasions, I have dreamt about cryptic crossword clues, and then spent all day in frustration that I can't solve them.

I find it maddening that the streets in downtown Chicago named after presidents are almost but not entirely in order.
You should message me if
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you want. Ultimately, I'm looking for a relationship where we challenge, inspire, amuse, balance, support, grow with, and build on one another. But for now, let's start with a conversation.