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34 M Brooklyn, NY

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Graduated from Ph.D program
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English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I am at various times a critic, a cook, a formidable Scrabble opponent, a dance partner, a less than formidable tennis opponent, a tourist, a teacher, a big brother, a writer, a goofball, a pedestrian, a makes-up-in-enthusiasm-what-he-lacks-in-talent singer, a Phillies fan, and an avid conversationalist.
What I’m doing with my life
I grew up as a math-and-sciencey kid in the midwest and headed to Swarthmore as a prospective chemistry major. The victim of a liberal arts education, I left with degrees in art history and music and ultimately ended up with a PhD in musicology from Michigan. This year, I'm starting my first job as a professor. It's still all a bit surreal.

If all else fails, Plan B is to open an all-male bakery called Pastriarchy.
I’m really good at
Clever wordplay. Cooking. The higher levels of Bloom's taxonomy. Estimating the amount of syrup needed for my pancakes.

I aim to better at: Baking bread. Editing my own work. Making playlists.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm not sure, though if you're one of those motion-activated paper towel dispensers, chances are you don't notice me or my wet hands at all.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
_Best of the Best_
Book: The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay (Chabon)
Movie: Singin' in the Rain
TV show: Season 6 of the Simpsons
Stage show: Sweeney Todd
Music: Mahler, Symphony No. 9
Artist: Paul Cezanne
Food: Fruit pies with ice cream
Drink: mulled cider

_Other favorites_
Books: Never Let Me Go (Ishiguro); Freedom (Franzen); The Art of Fielding (Harbach)

Movies: Annie Hall, Bringing Up Baby, The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, Dr. Strangelove, Exit Through the Gift Shop, Grand Illusion, Nashville, Ratatouille, Sherlock Jr., The Social Network, Stories We Tell, Talk to Her, There Will Be Blood, Tree of Life, Tokyo Story, Touch of Evil, Vertigo

TV shows: Arrested Development, Sports Night, West Wing, Flight of the Conchords, Friday Night Lights, 30 Rock

Stage shows: Book of Mormon, Gypsy, She Loves Me, West Side Story, Follies, Guys and Dolls, the Lincoln Center revival of South Pacific, the David Cromer revival of Our Town

Music: Charles Ives, Antonin Dvorak, Alison Krauss, The Avett Brothers, Gustav Mahler, Benjamin Britten, The Head and the Heart, Vampire Weekend, Sufjan Stevens, Leonard Bernstein, Ella Fitzgerald, Steve Reich, The National, Gabriel Yared, Stephen Sondheim, Josh Ritter, David Lang, William Bolcom, Adam Guettel, Of Montreal, The Lumineers, Kacey Musgraves, Dr. Dog

Artist: Barnett Newman, Edouard Manet, JMW Turner

Food: Guacamole, sweet potato fries, sourdough bread, dark chocolate, barbecue, cheese, ginger anything, mango

Beverage: chai, mojitos, malts
The six things I could never do without
(1) Deceptive cadences
(2) The Criterion Collection
(3) Maps
(4) The New Yorker and the Sunday NYTimes Crossword over late breakfast
(5) This American Life and All Songs Considered podcasts
(6) Overhearing conversations in museums
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Music, since it's my vocation. Movies, books, shows, really anything I listed above.

The evolution of things, such as neighborhoods and cities, the English language, senses of humor, social norms.

How and why we make lists.

Whatever I've been reading about or observing. Recently: the role of orchestras in the 21st century, standardized testing, the aesthetics of documentaries, why is it we say "the baby was early or late" and not "the doctor was wrong?"
On a typical Friday night I am
maybe doing something fairly low-key: board games, a movie, an orchestra concert, dinner and conversation with good friends, reading, contra dancing, baking a pie and eating it while watching old episodes of The Simpsons. You're welcome to join in.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
On multiple occasions, I have dreamt about cryptic crossword clues, and then spent all day in frustration that I can't solve them.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 24–39
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you can be witty and grammatical.