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sonderfall

34 M San Francisco, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–37
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
May 31
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English, German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I know who I am - the good and the bad - and I would like you to know who you are -- also the good and the bad.

I know what's important and what isn't -- to me.

I'll surprise you. And I'll challenge you.

I'll be your knight in shining armor -- not to rescue you, but to ride to battle beside you.

I'll make you think. I'll make you laugh.

I'm still learning. You should push me.

I'll tell you the truth when your jeans make your butt look big. But only if you ask.
I'll also tell you the truth when you're the only woman in the world for me.

I'll expect nothing less than the truth in return. The good and the bad.

I won't shower you with diamonds or hang on your every word,
but one day you'll wake up and discover my heart in your hands.

I am focused, curious, and happy
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work at Asana, a tech startup. And in a typical week I also do yoga (at work, though, so that's easy), learn German and practice krav maga. I'm normally very busy during the week but I make time for people.

I also like hiking, especially Half Dome.

I co-founded Candor Club (candorclub.org) with a friend.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Asking lots of questions, seeing the world in different ways and generally striking people as an odd duck.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'll say just about anything. I am trying (and succeeding, somewhat) to be more restrained about this or at least to avoid any hint of judgement but I have a reputation for approaching topics, uh, boldly.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I think that Bonk (The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex) is an excellent book. I listened to the audio version and was frequently laughing out loud as I walked around. It's also interesting, though I'm not clear about how many of the theories that it describes turned out to be correct.

Possibly my favorite book ever is The Beginning of Infinity, which is a somewhat rambling but fascinating theory about how we (as a society) learn things, the requirements for doing so, this history of doing so and speculation about the future of knowledge.

I'm now reading A Farewell to Alms, which examines the origins of the industrial revolution and why it happened where and when it did. Fascinating stuff if you ask me.

As for movies, I like intelligent scary movies, just about any decent romantic comedy and secret-agent movies. I think that Burn Notice could not appeal to me more if it were designed specifically for me. White Collar is fun too. (I don't have a TV but who needs one with the internet these days?)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Close trustworthy friends
Stimulating conversation
Interesting work
Martial arts and exercise
Love, except that I'm forced to make do without it. Boo hoo.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The world: What's the right way to address climate change? And population growth? If you could change something about how American democracy works, what would it be?

I listen to a lot of audio books and lectures. I can almost always talk your ear off about the interesting things that I have learned recently.

I'm constantly curious about the world. How could one design a better toilet seat (that's easier to clean, for example)? What would an intelligent terrorist do if they wanted to cause damage to things other than their groin? (I'm also interested in serious questions, BTW, such as whether there is an objective reality, why the world is becoming more peaceful, etc.)

And my job gives me plenty of interesting problems to think about too, ranging from technical and product questions to ones about how a company should be run.

I'm often thinking about the next fun class to take. Some recent classes I have taken are urban escape and evasion, driving in emergency situations and wilderness survival.

Also, I think about how to enter abandoned buildings and how to reduce the weight of the gear that I need when backpacking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
seeing friends or working on a project at home. Social time is important to me but it's not important to me when it happens.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- you are an atheist/agnostic. I've tried being open minded about this but after some recent books have ended that.
- you are not determined to have children. I may decide, with the right woman, to have a child (or, I guess, more than one). But if you have already decided on this then I'm not the person for you. I see lots of downsides to having children.
- honesty and integrity are important to you
- you are intellectually energetic and love discussing all kinds of topics.
- you are physically active (and perhaps like biking around around SF) (Less important than the one above.)
- you think that any of the classes that I mentioned above sound like fun.