Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm an American writer and editor, living in Milan, Italy. I like
photography and cook often (see my photos). I do not like watching
sports, but I do like to ride my bike and sometimes I play
I'm looking for a woman who is calm, but gets excited about life. I
want a woman who has her projects and goals in life, but who
encourages me in mine. I want to be the head of her fan club, and I
want her to be my biggest fan. I like intelligent women: I want
metaphorically a chess player, not a checker player and definitely
not a tic-tac-toe player. I've been too often with the latter two:
they're boring no matter how beautiful or how good they are at sex.
Most of all, I want a woman who knows herself well, who is mature,
and who knows what she wants in life.
♣ Clarity of thought in a woman and the ability to express herself
is sexy, above all else, for me. ♣
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm living in Italy and writing books and decorating my apartment
and getting better at photography and cooking. I've been taking
private cooking lessons in my home. I'm not doing this for a career
change, though. I don't like to cook. I just like to eat well and
want to learn to cook better for that purpose.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at talking--this is probably why I am a writer.
Conversely, I'm good at listening. I'm also good at making others
feel good about themselves. It's easy since I think they're all
The first things people usually notice about me
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It depends on how you first see me. If I'm a stranger passing you
on the street, you may notice I have no hair on my head--I hope
not, but that may be true. If you meet me, though, you might notice
I am silly. If you hear me talking to a friend, you might notice I
am funny. If you ask me questions when we first meet, you may
notice that I'm intelligent. But not bald, please: learn to focus
on the positive things about a person.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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• Graham Greene
• Fyodor Dostoyevsky
• E.M. Forster
• Franz Kafka
• Henry James
• Jane Austen
• Italo Calvino
• Steven Moffat
• The Lady Eve--it's about a strong woman. I like strong
• Casablanca--it's about passionate love regardless of the
• Great Expectations--it's beautiful, romantic, and about
• The Thirty Nine Steps--this is a classic thriller.
• Michael Clayton--I'm not sure why I like this full-length
Mercedes commercial, but I do.
• 1941--it's spectacularly humorous.
• O Brother, Where Art Thou?--this is another Preston
Sturgess film; it's artistic and hilarious.
• The Big Lebowski--this movie is just fabulous.
• An Education--it's about a young woman who is unassuming,
but trumps all of the men around her. I like that.
Favorite Things I Cook
• Lasagna--my own recipe, with or without meat (see photos)
• Cheesecake (see photos)
• Chocolate Cream Pie (see photos)
• Fried Cod with a Lemon Capper Sauce
• Sautéed Shrimp with Pasta made with a Cream Sauce
• Honey Baked Chicken
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I've altered this category. First I list the things that I prefer
never to be without. Then I list things I never want in my
Things I Always Want in my Life
• Love and Romance--without it, life is terribly dull.
• Affection--this is critical.
• A Pleasant Home--it's how I feel safe.
• A Connection to the Internet--it's my Deus Ex
• Iced Tea and good American Coffee--I drank iced tea in my bottle
as a baby, and had coffee for breakfast starting when I was
• CNN News--I'm always curious about the world.
Things I Never Want in my Life
• Football and almost all Professional, Team Sports--I'm not a team
player and find watching sports pretty boring.
• Beer and Getting Drunk--I drink wine and the like, but not
• To Fight with Someone I Love--it's a miserable thing to do.
• Someone who is with me for the Wrong Reasons--this has happened
to me many times.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
It may seem strange for a heterosexual man to say this, but I spend
an inordinate amount of time thinking about how to furnish and
decorate my apartment. I moved into my current apartment two
summers ago and I'm still buying furniture, lamps, and pillows. I'm
still building and fixing and installing and painting and
organizing. I enjoy it and I think the results are good. Look at my
photos if you want to see some of the rooms.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cooking dinner for friends--at least I should be, but it doesn't
happen often. Actually, I'm never sure when it's Friday or what day
is today. There are times when I don't realize it's night time or
day time. Clocks and calendars are for those other people; they're
background noise. This is one thing that's usually good for me
about a woman: she introduces structure and rhythm to my life.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'll just mention some private, but silly things that I do when
watching movies at home, alone. I cry when I watch certain romantic
or sentimental movies (e.g., "Love Actually", "August Rush") during
key scenes. When I watch scary movies, at intense moments,
sometimes I run out of the room yelling, "Oh! Oh!" and then hide
around the doorway and peek back at the TV until the scene is over.
When people kiss in a movie, unless they're in love and the moment
is passionate, I cover my eyes and say aloud, "Oh! I don't want to
see them smooching!" I guess in some ways I will always be a boy.
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