I am a well-educated, emotionally available computer science Ph.D. candidate and freelance men's swimwear model, who has the exact libido and housecleaning preferences you do.

Well, not really. But I'm pretty good anyway. Here is an easily digestible list of facts:

I have been to 43 of 50 states; lived in Virginia, California and Maine; visited the U.S., Germany, Switzerland, Italy, France, Ukraine, Romania and Ecuador. I swam with sea turtles in the Galápagos.

I am so glad I got over my adolescent moodiness. I am having so much more fun now.

When I was 19, it took me four weeks to grow a halfway decent beard. Now it takes two.

I am learning how to take more risks.

In 8th grade, my two best friends and I started a "band," as 13-year-olds are wont to do. By 12th grade, the three of us had a real band. By college, we didn't suck anymore. I still play solo every now and then, and I'm always writing songs.

I am fiercely defensive about the places I call home. Mentally, I cannot arrive at the place where you become fashionable or interesting by hating the choices you made, or the places you came from.

A few roles have I played in my sporadic acting career: Prof. Bhaer from Little Women, a Russian doctor, a sketchy justice of the peace, Mitch Albom, a drill sergeant, God, a diabolical fetus, Link and Mercutio. I also played an owl who was shot in the head and thrown from a roof.

I love time travel stories.

I am not sure patience is a virtue. Ditto for forgiveness.

I don't ever want to be so elitist that I can't enjoy a beer and a hot dog, or ever so lowbrow that I feel uncomfortable at a fancy cocktail party.

There is no better feeling than looking out into the crowd and seeing someone sing a song you wrote one night all alone in your bedroom.

I once wrote, edited, took photos and organized a magazine for a living. Now I write material for international scholars at Stanford. In my spare time I read, write and make music.

Stretch goals:
-a universally acclaimed novel
-a top-40 single
-a fulfilling marriage
-a well-adjusted, kind kid or two

sense of direction, writing catchy melodies, keeping in touch, remembering trivia facts, trying new and exciting beers, building elaborate Halloween costumes, sleeping late, drawing a fairly accurate map of the United States from memory, attending sporting events and probably a few other things as well.

I've been told I seem intimidatingly smart, which might not be true now that I live in the land of graduate degrees and software engineers. At any rate, I don't mean to intimidate and it really just makes me great at bar trivia. Also I have a badass 8-inch scar on my right elbow, but for a stupid reason.

I'm not even going to try to make this complete.

I just finished "Shine Shine Shine" by Lydia Netzer, which was quite good in a quirky sort of way. Other books that stand out in my memory are "Tinkers" by Paul Harding (if you like tone poems, that is), "Empire Falls" by Richard Russo (except the ending), "A Man in Full" by Tom Wolfe and anything by Hermann Hesse.

Musically I love alternative and indie rock. Lately there's been lots of Japandroids, Cloud Nothings, Yuck and so on in the diet. Historically I have to give the nod to Smashing Pumpkins, Arkells, Matthew Good Band, Karate, Dismemberment Plan, Tortoise, Trail of Dead, the Avett Brothers, Ben Folds Five, Grizzly Bear, Bon Iver, Josh Ritter, Neutral Milk Hotel, Spymob, etc. etc. You will be amazed at the little things I pick out of a song that I love, that nobody else ever notices. I have a great ear.

I will happily watch a movie with you, but I'm not *into* movies.

On TV I watch a fair amount of sports (basketball and football, primarily), Workaholics, Community and Archer. I do love Star Trek, and if you write me off because of that, you've saved us both some work.

I'm not a foodie, though I like good food. I just don't like the foodie culture. I love a nice dinner out, but I don't ever want to be too good to get fast food every once in a while. Moderation, folks.

my guitar, a yellow legal pad, a pen, my bike, a copy of Siddhartha and my digital camera.

The kind of man I want to be; if there is a good barbecue restaurant in the Bay Area; how to balance generosity with taking care of oneself; how to save my hometown; whether I want to start a band; how to write decent fiction; how I can pitch in for my alma mater; where to find good music; how not to calcify into a boring person in adulthood; what JJ Abrams is trying to do with Star Trek; when I will feel at home in California; so on and so forth.

I like some chain restaurants and I refuse to feel guilty about it.

If you're interested in someone who's extremely genuine, goofy, steady, cautious, unpredictable and mostly optimistic. Or if you want a two-person '90s rock singalong.