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southeasterly

30 M Palo Alto, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:31pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English, Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I am a well-educated, emotionally available computer science Ph.D. candidate and freelance men's swimwear model, who has the exact libido and housecleaning preferences you do.

Well, not really. But I'm pretty good anyway. Here is an easily digestible list of facts:

I have been to 43 of 50 states; lived in Virginia, California and Maine; visited the U.S., Germany, Switzerland, Italy, France, Ukraine, Romania and Ecuador. I swam with sea turtles in the Galápagos.

I am so glad I got over my adolescent moodiness. I am having so much more fun now.

When I was 19, it took me four weeks to grow a halfway decent beard. Now it takes two.

I am learning how to take more risks.

In 8th grade, my two best friends and I started a "band," as 13-year-olds are wont to do. By 12th grade, the three of us had a real band. By college, we didn't suck anymore. I still play solo every now and then, and I'm always writing songs.

I am fiercely defensive about the places I call home. Mentally, I cannot arrive at the place where you become fashionable or interesting by hating the choices you made, or the places you came from.

A few roles have I played in my sporadic acting career: Prof. Bhaer from Little Women, a Russian doctor, a sketchy justice of the peace, Mitch Albom, a drill sergeant, God, a diabolical fetus, Link and Mercutio. I also played an owl who was shot in the head and thrown from a roof.

I love time travel stories.

I am not sure patience is a virtue. Ditto for forgiveness.

I love to play basketball but I'm bad at it. I'm the least competitive runner you will ever meet.

I don't ever want to be so elitist that I can't enjoy a beer and a hot dog, or ever so lowbrow that I feel uncomfortable at a fancy cocktail party.

There is no better feeling than looking out into the crowd and seeing someone sing a song you wrote one night all alone in your bedroom.

...perhaps you enjoyed that easily digestible list of facts. Perhaps it inclined you toward sending me a message. Perhaps you didn't get this far. As a writer, I respect that. That's on me.
What I’m doing with my life
I once wrote, edited, took photos and organized a magazine for a living. Now I write material for international scholars at Stanford. In my spare time I read, try to stay in shape, write and make music.
I’m really good at
sense of direction, writing catchy melodies, keeping in touch, remembering trivia facts, trying new and exciting beers, building elaborate Halloween costumes, sleeping late, taking a ton of digital photos, drawing a fairly accurate map of the United States from memory, attending sporting events and probably a few other things as well.
The first things people usually notice about me
My beard? Except when I don't have one. Then maybe my height?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm not even going to try to make this complete.

Major recommendation of the year so far is "The Interestings" by Meg Wolitzer. One of those books that really sticks with you. Now I'm reading about the year 1913. I just finished my first Steinbeck ("Cannery Row"). Also recently got through "A Working Theory of Love" by Stanford's own Scott Hutchins, which was recommended to me by a friend because it reminded her of me. After reading it, I am happy to say it *appears* to be a positive thing. Also recently read "Shine Shine Shine" by Lydia Netzer, which was quite good in a quirky sort of way. Other books that stand out in my memory are "Tinkers" by Paul Harding (if you like tone poems, that is), "Empire Falls" by Richard Russo (except the ending), "A Man in Full" by Tom Wolfe and anything by Hermann Hesse.

Musically I love alternative and indie rock (with some hip-hop and country thrown in for good measure). Lately there's been lots of Yo La Tengo, Dinosaur Jr., Japandroids, Cloud Nothings, Yuck and so on in the diet. When I write, I listen to Portico Quartet, Steve Reich, etc. Historically I have to give the nod to Smashing Pumpkins, Arkells, Matthew Good Band, Karate, Dismemberment Plan, Tortoise, Trail of Dead, the Avett Brothers, Ben Folds Five, Grizzly Bear, Bon Iver, Josh Ritter, Neutral Milk Hotel, Spymob, etc. etc. You will be amazed at the little things I pick out of a song that I love, that nobody else ever notices. I have a great ear.

On TV I watch a fair amount of sports (basketball and football, primarily), Workaholics, Community and Archer. I do love Star Trek, and if you write me off because of that, you've saved us both some work.

I'm not a foodie, though I like good food. I just don't like the foodie culture. I love a nice dinner out, but I don't ever want to be too good to get fast food every once in a while. Moderation, folks.
The six things I could never do without
my guitar, a yellow legal pad, a pen, my bike, a copy of Siddhartha and my digital camera.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The kind of man I want to be; if there is a good barbecue restaurant in the Bay Area; how to balance generosity with taking care of oneself; how to save my hometown; whether I want to start a band; how to write decent fiction; how I can pitch in for my alma mater; where to find good music; how not to calcify into a boring person in adulthood; what JJ Abrams is trying to do with Star Trek; when I will feel at home in California; so on and so forth.

UPDATE: There IS a good barbecue restaurant in the Bay Area, and it's called Southpaw, at 18th and Mission in San Francisco.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like some chain restaurants and I refuse to feel guilty about it.

(Also, why do so many people misunderstand this question?)
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 23–32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you're interested in someone who's extremely genuine, goofy, steady, cautious, unpredictable and mostly optimistic. Or if you want a two-person '90s rock singalong.