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southwesterberg

37 Berkeley, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:42am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 5″ (1.96m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Buddhism, and very serious about it
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on masters program
Job
Student
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I explore landscapes and libraries. Ocean and desert energies charm me. Always listening for another great song.

Friends and colleagues tend to call me "gentle," and I tend to agree with that assessment.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In 2011 I decided to return to school. My existential waters had grown stagnant, and I perceived the vibrancy of a college campus to be an ideal setting for reinvention. I moved from Los Angeles (where I lived for a decade) to northern Wisconsin, an unexpected stronghold of progressive thought and environmental concern. While there I wound up developing a degree called Ecospirituality; this coursework and experience inspired me to become a chaplain—someone who is an audience and an advocate, a colleague and a confidant. My current pursuit is a Master of Divinity degree with the goal of either working in hospice or campus ministry, perhaps placing such work in wilderness settings.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I try to be an attentive listener, whether to colleagues or strangers, nature or music.

Because of myriad travels, my crucial friends are scattered across this country and the globe. I am good at staying in touch with these companions, whether through phone calls, texts, or handwritten letters.

As an only child, I grew up with television and records as my siblings. Therefore, I tend to be a fount of obscure pop culture knowledge. This scholarship proves fruitful when playing trivia.

I have become proficient at subscribing to podcasts and letting downloaded episodes linger unplayed on my computer's hard drive.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am tall. Tall enough that many people ask how tall I am.

As an introvert, my first impression is often negligible. (Heads-up, ladies: even the second or third impressions can be reticent.) But then I will knock out a droll one-liner, surprising people with my pointed sense of humor.

I have an eclectic wardrobe: well-curated and not absurd.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books:
“Awareness” by Anthony De Mello challenged me on every page. I enjoy Edward Abbey’s biting essays and Sigurd Olson’s benevolent voice. “Papillon,” whether true or not, is one of the great adventure stories. Myriad religious and spiritual tomes, in particular Zen Buddhism commentaries as well as Sufi and Native American poetry.

Movies:
“Synecdoche, New York” can be a difficult watch, but the conclusion is devastating in the best possible way. I continue to discover meaningful layers to “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest.” “Almost Famous” makes me wish for a time machine. Also, the presence of Warren Oates tends to grab my attention.

Music:
I moved to Los Angeles to work for a record label, so this category could overflow with names and recommendations. Let me profess my infatuation for the songs of Merle Haggard and the Beach Boys—two distinct California sounds. I have been buying the dynamic music of Ginger Wildheart for over 20 years. And if you recognize the music reference in my profile name, drop me a line.

Roads:
California Pacific Coast Highway
Beach Boulevard (Orange County)
Sunset Boulevard (Los Angeles)
Colorado Route 550
Lake Shore Drive (Chicago)
Indiana State Road 37
Montana Highway 509
Utah Route 163
Wisconsin Bayfield County Road C
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Profound friendship
2) Rapturous music
3) Expansive shorelines
4) Revelatory transformation
5) Unrestrained laughter
6) Sincere curiosity
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I often wonder what happened to the spartan subjects of Richard Avedon's "In the American West."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In conjunction to walking a path toward chaplaincy, I have committed to deepening my Buddhist meditation practice. This often means going to bed in the late PM—which is still a chore for this night owl—so I can wake early in the morning and sit. Maybe this routine will change now that I am in Berkeley.

Update: Since moving to Berkeley, I have found several wonderful and nourishing gatherings on weekend nights. Some are religious services, and others have been secular events. The common thread has been the participants' need for community, time and space for recognizing and being recognized.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Heath Ledger and I shared screen time in a movie.
You should message me if
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You are infatuated by wilderness.
You pursue authenticity.
You celebrate wisdom in all forms.
You seek to understand yourself and the world.
You relish meaningful conversation.
You swim against the current.
You want to listen to Prince bootlegs.