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Spanky2015

50 West Hartford, CT Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 48–56
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:45pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
$50,000–$60,000
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a licensed clinical social worker with over 25 years of experience working with individuals, couples, and groups....Oh, wait. This is my personal ad. I just spent a week trying to create a professorial profile,but this should be much easier....Or not.

I did this in the past. A long time ago. In my twenties. When I was trying to meet a husband, someone who would make a great father. It was before the Internet. It worked. I got married, had a daughter, raised her, got divorced, and here I am again. I've learned throughout the years that what mattered most to me in my twenties probably matters least to me now.

I'm a big believer in the idea that we're all teachers, and we're all learners, and a part of what I seek is partner with whom I can grow and learn -- who values me enough to think of me that way as well.

I'm the mother of one child who is a freshman in college. I feel guilty saying it, but, I'm really enjoying the freedom.

I'm politically left-wing and somewhat resistant to other points of view when it comes to the Affordable Care Act, GLBT rights, government's role in providing for the poor, and abortion. I say this upfront so it shouldn't become a problem somewhere down the road.

I love long walks, snow or no snow, especially with my faithful fluffy friend at my side. The only time the TV is on is when I have ear buds in my ears and, because it's too cold to be outdoors, I'm walking on the treadmill at the gym. Then it's usually CNN, an old rerun of Seinfeld, or Law and Order: SVU. Never ESPN.

I'm a little introverted -- despite my fabulous social skills -- and I prefer patience in getting to know someone through a bit of emailing / texting to impulsive meetings with strangers. By the time a first date is scheduled, I prefer to be feeling enthusiastic and excited rather than reluctant and unsure.

Oh, and my screen name has nothing to do with The Little Rascals.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
You know how many divorced parents argue about how to raise their kids? Well, a big part of my job is to help them get along. I have developed a niche in the past 5 years working with high-conflict parents. I also recently completed a year long training in Internal Family Systems (IFS), which is sort of a "cutting edge" model of treatment. I'm a believer in keeping current professionally so that I can be the best at helping people though life transitions....Ok, is this sounding like a professional profile again?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm also good at making friends on dating sites. I'm just not so good at finding passionate love this way. I'm also funny and can find the humor in almost any situation. I'm good at finding silver linings and letting go of the question "Why do bad things happen to good people?" I'm good at finding opportunities for growth even when life sucks. (I refuse to say this is making lemonade out of lemons.)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Aside from my curly hair (Jew-fro), I think the first impression I make is of someone laid back, easy to talk to, funny and interesting -- except in those circumstances in which I'm feeling tongue-tied and a little self-conscious. Then I just seem shy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Most Woody Allen's movies since Hannah and Her Sisters and Crimes and Misdemeanors (and I know he's not the most popular director right now), documentaries (political, social, nature), Most recently read: Far From the Tree (about loving children who might be harder to love), and Can't We Talk About Something More Pleasant, a graphic novel about losing elderly parents. Music: Sweet Honey and the Rock, James Taylor, Carole King, Indigo Girls, random world music, folk, and bluegrass. Food: Thai and Vietnamese, Indian, sushi, green smoothies, thin crust, brick-oven pizza with eggplant, arugula, and green peppers.....
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The experience of having raised a child, my camera, my dog, my career (and the colleagues who come along with said career), knowing I have at least a few friends who will always have my back, and -- though this might sound like a cliche -- my memories in the form of photographs (which gather more importance over the years as my memory fades).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
1. Becoming an entrepreneur and overcoming some of my fears 2. studying what some of the newest trends are in my profession and how I can "trend up" and make more money to supplement my current income, 3. whether or not there is a god (or many gods), whether or not things really do happen for a reason and, if they do, what the hell could the reason have been for THAT?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
What night is tonight? Hmmmm.... I am typically at the computer researching useless information (or at the movies ) in winter, but the rest of the year I like to spend time outdoors.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Well, I did use the screen name "spankee," didn't I?
You should message me if
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If nothing I wrote made you roll your eyes or say, "yick!"