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29 Rensselaer, NY Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Feb 28
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Before I say anything else here: I am not here looking for dates, fuck buddies, or really any kind of contact aside from maybe developing a friendship. This profile is more a relic of the fact that I hate leaving a social media platform I've been on for so long. I have zero interest in a relationship right now and if you think you're going to change my mind about that, I hate you already for not respecting my self-determination. So there's that.

....okay, that whole first paragraph seemed to make no impression whatsoever on a lot of you, so let me put it in caps and small words: I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A ROMANTIC OR SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP. And it's guys like the ones who can't read my very clearly written profile who make me all the more committed to my stance of platonic relationships only. I'm here to make friends. If you want to be my friend, go ahead and message me. If you think that you can talk to me for a little while and I'll suddenly want to fuck you, please don't even bother.

I realize that this may come off as bitchy, but if you had to deal with as many poorly spelled come-ons as I do, you'd be bitchy too. I promise I'm actually a very nice person, I just have zero patience at all for people who seem to have zero reading comprehension skills and very poor communication skills.

I'm a fairly normal kind of girl, if by fairly normal anyone could mean "pansexual, bipolar, moderately ambitious, internet-addicted, music-loving movie-watching snarky sarcastic hopeless romantic bookworm". But this is the internet, so that basically is normal, isn't it?

I nitpick and write pretty decent poetry and mediocre short stories. I love Sappho, Jim Butcher, Douglas Adams, Catullus, Chuck Palahniuk, T. S. Eliot, Neil Gaiman, Allen Ginsberg and Diane Duane.

I spend a lot of time daydreaming. A lot. No, more than that.

I have ten tattoos: the VFD eye on my left ankle, irises on my right ankle, a rat on my left collarbone, a lizard on my right collarbone, a semicolon behind my right ear, (...) behind my left ear, a Starfleet science insignia on my left wrist, an owl on my right wrist, the Albany skyline and "I swear I'd burn this city down to show you the light" on my left hip, and "let there exist for us not one single further sorrow" on my right hip. I'm currently saving up for a bluejay wing on my back.

I can't go anywhere without my Droid, a notebook and pencil, and a book to read. You never know when inspiration will strike... or boredom.

I am an INFP, an "Idealist" type, but when I took the actual Meyers-Briggs test, I came out 52% introvert and 48% extrovert, so it really depends on how I feel on any given day.

I am opinionated and loud about it, compassionate and evangelical about it, and optimistic and clinging to that by my fingernails sometimes.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work at a library in Albany, NY. I've been writing, mostly for myself. I spend a few hours a week playing pen-and-paper roleplaying games. I have an Etsy shop where I sell blankets and jewelry that I make at and I teach jewelry classes for the library.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cuddling. I'm a pro at giving hugs. People love my hugs, and I love hugging people. I'm also very good at listening to people and giving good advice. Between the listening and the hugs, I end up playing counselor to a lot of my friends.

I'm also really good at getting way too caught up in fictional people's lives, whether I'm pretending to be those people in an RPG or writing fiction about them or just having ridiculous quantities of feelings about them.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My bright red hair, my funky glasses, my cute dresses, or my inexplicably soothing voice. I'm definitely geek-chic, and I try to ride the line between idealism and cynicism in a funny way. I can be kind of deadpan, though, so sometimes people can't tell when I'm joking.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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(books) Anything by Jim Butcher, Diane Duane, Douglas Adams, Neil Gaiman, Neal Stephenson, Chuck Palahniuk, Scott Westerfeld, Dianna Wynne Jones, Lemony Snicket/Daniel Handler, Robin Hobb, Naomi Novik, Cassandra Clare, Charlaine Harris, Tom Stoppard, or P.G. Wodehouse. I'm a sci-fi and fantasy fan. I'm also really into Sherlock Holmes.

(comics) Watchmen, Y: The Last Man, Enigma, Transmetropolitan, Ex Machina

(movies) All of the Marvel Cinematic Universe, the rebooted X-Men movies, everything by Wes Anderson, The Princess Bride, Charlie Bartlett, Inglourious Basterds, Sherlock Holmes, The Fall, Star Trek (2, 3, 4, and the reboots), Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead, Moulin Rouge, Reservoir Dogs, Fight Club, The Big Lebowski, The Usual Suspects, Little Miss Sunshine, Kiss Kiss Bang Bang, Casablanca, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Thumbsucker, Boondock Saints, Secretary ... I love movies. I like movies about drug users and criminals, dysfunctional people, and superheroes.

(television) Currently fangirling: Game of Thrones, Hannibal, Person of Interest, Teen Wolf, Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., Agent Carter, Last Week Tonight, Archer

Fandoms of my past: Almost Human, Venture Bros., Sherlock, True Blood, Chuck, The Big Bang Theory, Fringe, White Collar, My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, Supernatural, Heroes, Glee, The Dresden Files, Torchwood, Firefly, and Stargate Atlantis. The old Granada Sherlock Homes series with Jeremy Brett basically rocks my socks off.

(music) look for user speccygeekgrrl at that's me, and that's what I listen to and love. If you want a short list: The Mountain Goats, Fall Out Boy, Florence and the Machine, Regina Spektor, Ani DiFranco, Elliot Smith, The Postal Service, Vienna Teng, Death Cab for Cutie, Radiohead, Of Monsters and Men, Neutral Milk Hotel, Andrew Bird, The Decemberists, Metric, Andrew McMahon, The National, Vampire Weekend, Mumford and Sons, The Weakerthans...

I used to do college radio, and I still love putting together playlists. You can find a lot of playlists about as long as my old radio show, just without me talking, at

(games) I'm a huge fan of the FATE system for roleplaying games. I started with Spirit of the Century and I'm currently involved in a huge, long, involved campaign of the Dresden Files RPG that I'm kind of obsessed with. I also like the World of Darkness system, although the only game I've played is Changeling. I've also played a few campaigns of Little Fears. I don't play video games pretty much at all except for Katamari Damacy and Trauma Center. I love board games, especially Scrabble, but I'm a force to be reckoned with when Settlers of Catan comes out, and I'm pretty good at Risk. (Do not ask me to play Monopoly. I fucking hate Monopoly.)

(foods) I am a big, big fan of kale soup and warm Portuguese rolls with butter. Heritage food, represent! I also love lasagna, pasta salad, chocolate in all incarnations, chicken marsala with rice pilaf... my mother is a wonderful cook and I'll shoot anyone who says otherwise. I have a love affair with Indian food. Chicken tikka masala and veggie samosas are like crack to me. I also looooove fruit-- clementines, pomegranates, Fuji apples, green grapes, all sorts of berries...

The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) a night sky dark enough to see the stars
2) my computer or my phone with headphones so I can listen to music
3) real paper books, because e-reading just isn't as good as holding an actual book in my hands, and at least one blank book and a pen because writing is not an optional activity for me
4) a steady supply of the substances I need to function (mostly caffeine and medication)
5) someone to talk to (my cat counts)
6) pillows. lots of pillows. I tend to nest.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I daydream ALL THE TIME. I spend a lot of time daydreaming about the way I want things to happen, or the way something that did happen could have gone, or what might happen if something completely unlikely occurred. I daydream about things I want to write. I daydream about my fandoms.

I also worry a lot, but I'm slowly learning to chill out about that. Every now and then I'll just get hit with a wave of bad thoughts about things I can't control-- like global warming, or the reversal of the magnetic poles, or nuclear disasters, or war-- and it usually takes me a while to calm down and think about something else. It's the absolute worst when this happens when I'm trying to fall asleep.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Back when I was at college, my answer was roleplaying, but now that I'm away from that social group, my honest answer is more like "catching up on my TV shows" or "writing" or "reading fanfiction." (Roleplaying is on Sunday now.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I write, and a lot of the time when I look like I'm deep in thought, I'm just thinking about something I want to write. (Or daydreaming. I do that almost constantly.) And I don't know how to drive.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you feel like it, I guess. Just don't be boring, okay? I'll talk to pretty much anyone as long as they aren't boring. (Protip: hitting on me is boring. Telling me you want to fuck me is SUPER boring.)