37 Turners Falls, MA
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My self-summary
I am in a polyamorous relationship with OnyxShadow. I consider myself very fortunate to have found someone who inspires and challenges me. I love him so very much, and I feel as though I have discovered more about who I am since he has entered my life.

That being said, OnyxShadow and I are open to, and actively looking for, connections with like-minded women and/or couples. We are both very community-minded, and we are dating with the intention of finding someone(s) with whom we can share a long-term relationship. Family is very important to both of us. <3

I had previously been in a polyamorous relationship for 12 years. Our paths diverged, but he is still one of my best friends.

I like to meet new people. I love music - the variety, the way it moves me, makes me feel so many things.

I love going to new places, whether flying or driving. I would like to explore more....

I love to paint, draw, read and write.

I love to sing! I don't think I have the greatest voice, but I think I sound pretty good. I just really love singing, and I'm usually singing throughout the day - especially at work!

I disabled my OKCupid account previously because I was getting a lot of messages from people who misinterpreted what I said, or made assumptions about who I am and what I would be open to. If you have questions, ask them. I can promise nothing but to answer honestly.

I am compassionate, creative, and loving
What I’m doing with my life
Until this past year, I'd worked mostly with elderly patients, helping to provide in-home care. I truly enjoy helping others, so the work I do needs to encompass that. I currently am enjoying time as a stay at home mom, and intend to continue working on school. I am a Reiki Master/Teacher, and am currently enrolled in a continuing ed program. Once I get my BS, I plan to go to med school. I'm continuing to learn more about myself every day, and trying to be a good person. :)
I’m really good at
Listening, making gifts for people, making people feel good (take that as you will), and reframing things. By that, I mean I am good at looking at a situation and casting it in the best possible light.

No, that does not mean I am unrealistic. I prefer to see the world in the light, and I have faith that we create the world we choose to live in.
The first things people usually notice about me
Hmm. I've heard people say that they notice my eyes...and my butt....

They probably notice that I tend to be very busy, sing to myself (and to the individuals I've worked with), and that I'm smiling most of the time. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books - Anything by R.A. Salvatore. Everything I've read by Dean Koontz. I've read so many books in my life...I couldn't remember all of my favorites....George R.R. Martin - Song of Fire and Ice (or is it Song of Ice and Fire)....Anything by Jim Butcher!!!

Movies - Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, The Last Temptation of Christ...The Hobbit, The Lord of the Rings trilogy....

Music - The Red Hot Chili Peppers! Kula Shaker...Blackmore's Night...Frank Turner...so many....

Foods - Mexican, Italian, sushi, chocolate, hummus (my own, homemade)....
The six things I could never do without
Friends, family, food, water, air and love.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How I can better help people. I focus on myself a lot - in the sense of being self-vigilant. I have come a long way since I was in high school - I was a wallflower who would blush if someone even spoke to me. You wouldn't know that to look at me now. ;)

I, like everyone, am a work in progress. And I just keep moving, improving, improvising and creating. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
Currently, spending a lot of time at home - out and about whenever I can. :) I like to go out or have friends over to hang out, watch movies, talk...I like to dance, but it's better for me to go to a place where I'm not the only person dancing....

I love hiking and exploring new places. Part of me wants to be a nomad, I think, but I haven't given into that....yet. ;)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Well, I would admit most private things in person...however, I used to have OCD and generalized anxiety disorder. Through my continued efforts to work on healing myself, I have passed through those challenges with flying colors. And, yet, I remain vigilant.
You should message me if
you want to talk to me. Or if you have constructive criticism, or if you like ferrets. Or whatever!