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21 San Francisco, CA Genderqueer


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18-99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 23
Native American, White
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Working on University
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Chinese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
While I occasionally enjoy having casual sex with straight men, I have absolutely no trouble finding them when it is convenient for me. I have no interest in pursuing any sort of emotional relationship with straight men. If you identify as straight, please do not contact me. If I happen to contact you, consider yourself lucky.

I am tiny and queer. I try very hard to make other people happy while keeping myself sane. I appreciate others who can do the same.

I have small hands and I like using them. I paint and and I code and I fuck with them.

My partner is sendingsignal and we have a joint profile spiffehsignal.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Traveling, building a better family for myself, being a little cute and loving lots of people. My heart keeps overflowing.

I enjoy being around people who are constantly learning from their experiences and always striving to be kinder and more efficient. I don't really care about obeying social norms; I care more about making sure life is more pleasant for the people I am surrounded by.

I drink lots of tea and I'm starting to grow more plants.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making people feel cared for, being dumb, listening, sexy stuff, rubbing my butt all over everyone, being so cute, etc
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Generally my face, unless I'm wearing a low cut shirt, in which case boobs. Or I could be yelling something inappropriate very loudly by accident.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like a lot of stuff, feminist sci-fi, magical realism, children's fantasy with strong female/queer protagonists, I'm trying to read fewer books written by old white men and I love suggestions. I like to eat good food. I've been trying to eat more veggies. I love cooking for people! My partner has been getting me to watch more movies and television shows. I like books that have weird plots that don't make too much sense. I like talking to people about their lives because they are like little novels too.

I like Imogen Heap and Angel Haze and songs with subtle(!) literary references and many layers of melody.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How much I love my beb, I cry a lot, I used to cry at least once a day. I think about people I have crushes on and blush on public transportation. I think about grocery lists if my mind wanders while fucking, occasionally.

I have Aspergers, so I tend to become extremely obsessed with certain subjects.

In the past, these subjects have been:
- Fashion (construction, not history)
- Quantum physics
- German Expressionism
- Pokemon
- Imogen Heap
- The English language
- Art Nouveau
- Social interactions
- Selfies
- Poop
- Madeline L'Engle
- Gender
- Neopets
- Narcissism
- Mythologies
- Systems
- Being gay
- Love
- Gayle Rubin

I'm currently obsessed with sex.

Topics I can talk your ear off about but haven't been fully immersed in are chemistry, fractals, makeup, Chinese, making mac n cheese, neurons, circuit building, Javascript, Ero Guro, and a whole bunch of other stuff.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Answering work emails, dancing, kissing, cuddling, watching anime
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a hard time getting along with people who I don't respect on an intellectual and aesthetic level, which I am trying to work on. There's so many wonderful people I am missing out on connecting with.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I really want buddies to go out dancing with so if you like wiggling with other people let me know if there's any cute parties going on!

You like being friends! I love friends. I don't need to have sex with everyone I care for, if you're asexual, you should know that I'm totally cool with dating you too.

If you're okay with me having a partner. You don't have to do anything with them (unless you want to!), but I'm really not interested in leaving them ever.

You are okay with me getting distracted and not texting you for a bit - it doesn't mean I dislike you, I just have a lot of stuff going on.

You won't be whorephobic to my friends who are porn stars/pro dommes/pro subs/escorts/strippers/cam girls/boys OR ableist to my friends who are mentally/physically differently abled OR racist OR transphobic OR homophobic or just the type of person who mocks people about things they may be sensitive about.

You're okay with initiating plans with me (inviting me over, planning dates/hangouts) that is awesome because I often forget to hangout with people I want to hang out with.

If you can listen to my limits and boundaries and not push me even if you think I should be pushed. I guess this is kinda basic but w/e.

If you're interested in me as a sexual partner and are okay with me being more of a top - if you're looking for a pillow princess, I'm not for you! If you are a cis dude this is multiplied x2!!